Fuck it or fix it...

wildnight98 · 2018-04-30T13:28:03+00:00

You don't have to make this decision right now. Fix yourself first. If you next her you'll just go into your next relationship with the same problems. Sounds like she is adding value to you now so enjoy those fruits while you complete your MAP, learn the sidebar==> inside out, and get ripped. Once you get yourself together you will have more resources to evaluate whether you should next your wife or stick. One caveat: DO NOT GET HER PREGNANT.

thunderbeyond · 2018-04-30T10:50:02+00:00

If it's not a hell yes then its a no.

Lots of red flags and "work" then its a no.

If you're here, asking internet strangers if you should stay married because you're not sure... then its a no.

red-sfpplus · 2018-04-30T12:31:52+00:00

If sextexting another man is not a hard boundary for you, and you still married her. IDK WTF you want us to do faggot.

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-04-30T22:38:17+00:00

Oh.

My.

God.

I wasn’t going to post until I read the update that you are in a blended family.

I did this.

And I’m divorcing her now.

DO NOT GET HER PREGNANT!!

If you do, then you deserve EVERYTHING that happens to you for the NEXT 20 years.

She’s cooking, cleaning, fucking, being submissive...

BECAUSE...

she knows she fucked up. And now she has to lock you down AGAIN.

She has her exit already planned. You saw her heart before the wedding. She is INVESTED in you. She has fucked you and hooked you, and doesn’t want you to get away. She wants a return on her investment.

That return is money. You are the Beta Bucks. You are the ATM machine. The life of your marriage can be predicted to end about the summer her youngest graduate from high school.

Before then, during their senior year, she will start getting in shape, become very social, expanding her circles of influence. She will have less and less time for you, and like a frog on slow boil in a pot, your blue pill self will just allow it to happen, not realizing what’s about to happen.

That Disney feeling you have with how wonderful all this shit is right now? She is the Lady in Red. Nice to look at. Makes you feel good. But make no mistake, at the end, Agent Smith will split your head open like a canoe with a .50 Action Express (divorce) delivered by his IMI Desert Eagle Mark XIX (divorce court).

u/ex_addict_bro tried to tell me some of this shit a year ago but I wouldn’t listen. So I’ve wasted ANOTHER year with my lying, cheating whore that I should have left TWO years ago, the very DAY I found out about HER inappropriate text messages.

Where there is smoke, there is fire.

Period.

Now. What do do?

First,

DO NOT GET HER PREGNANT.

Use her, like she is using you.

Set up your exit strategy, save money, get fucked without getting fucked over.

Lift. Read. STFU.

Read the entire MRP sidebar. Learn it well enough to teach it to someone else. And please note, part of the MRP sidebar is also reading TRP sidebar.

Along the way, use the levels of dread to internalize MRP and TRP, and march your way right through them to level 12 and leave that hypergamous, lying cunt.

Do it for you.

Do it for your kids.

This shit she did is WRONG.

AND YOU FUCKING KNOW IT.

That is why you are here.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what you DO about it.

So what are you going to fucking do?

DO NOT WASTE YOUR LIFE ON A LOW VALUE WOMAN.

The_Litz · 2018-04-30T15:54:00+00:00

In your mind you never forgave her for messing around. That is what is eating you now.

Either you say fuck it, divorce and start from a clean slate or you pucker up and go all in and make it work.

Do not spend years being half in half out.
Do not get her pregnant.
Take your time, improve yourself before making major decisions.

nastynickdr · 2018-04-30T12:14:59+00:00

Right before the wedding I caught her texting a dude inappropriate shit.

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand you still married her. Guess who´s fault is that.

AWALT doenst mean all women are entitled whores. Be a man worth a shit and always on top of your game and dont commit to a whore. You need to vet VERY well and even then theres no guarantee, but in this case your vetting sucked. No kids? Start over. Whatever you do dont knock her up until you figure your shit out.

BobbyPeru · 2018-04-30T20:54:47+00:00

Right before the wedding I caught her texting a dude inappropriate shit.

What exactly was being texted? This is important information you left out.

Depends on the severity of those texts... if they are very bad, I’d start drawing up papers. You will never be able to get past it, and why waste any more time. Just make sure you are mentally and emotionally ready, or she will talk you back into it just like she did before. It confirmed to her that you were a good cuck candidate. So, continue to work on yourself until you are completely ready to follow through if that’s the route you are going to Choose.

The fact that she was doing this right before the wedding is also a big factor.

It sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. It sounds like she was setting you up to be cucked in advance… Or more likely you were already being cucked.

BostonBrakeJob · 2018-05-01T03:00:49+00:00

For not a lot of text and detail, there's still a lot going on here. Let's start with the title.

You don't fix your marriage, LTR, FWB, friends, family or strangers. You fix you. Everyone else treats you different as you become different. And the ones that don't, well...it doesn't matter all the much to you.

I broke up with her but BP me got back with her and then married her.

This was a decision you made. A shitty one, but all the same. Own it.

I look at her now and where once I saw a unicorn now I just see red flags and work.

You're eyes are opening. And they burn. You're starting to take her off the pedistal.

But then....

She responds very well to game and dread. The sex is amazing and she cooks and cleans and does things for me. She can be very submissive. It makes it hard to shake the BP disney feel of maybe it just may work out...

...you immediately step on your dick.

And this...

My plan so far has been to concentrate on myself and let her decide if she wants to follow or not. I am still going through the different phases of swollowing the pill. Today its depression.

paired with...

When I am in other moods I think fuck it enjoy the ride until my times up. We have alot of fun together may as well enjoy it while it lasts just make sure to have a solid exit plan.

You're getting the concepts. But you're still living based on your emotions. Not your vision. Ya know who lets emotions guide their lives? Bitches, both women and man-boys. Don't be a bitch.

Its different when your married...

No, it's fucking not. We make our wives feel special, but we don't treat them special. While our wives are thinking "I'm the luckiest gal in the world!" we inherently know that if she fucks up big, or stops adding value and starts draining it instead, that she'll be out and we'll be doing the same kinds of things for the next one(s). That's because it's who we are. Who we've become.

As fucked up as what she did is, you my friend still have even bigger fish to fry.

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-05-01T14:58:58+00:00

There is no fair by my name, take my response with a grain of salt.

She responds very well to game and dread. The sex is amazing and she cooks and cleans and does things for me. She can be very submissive. It makes it hard to shake the BP disney feel of maybe it just may work out...

Even rolo tomassie himself can't fully vet a woman before marriage. She either adds value to your life or she dosent. Based on what I quoted, she adds value. What's this "work out" shit. Are you under the impression that the both of you are supose to ride off into the sunset holding hands or something? You should have a mission and that's what drives you. Not some gay as fuck ending to a movie.

Sex is amazing, check. Cooks and cleans, check. Does things for you, check. She's submissive and agreeable, check.

All you need to do no is build an amazing life and bring her along for the ride. Be awesome and amazing.

Depression has got me thinking that if this goes bad for me im likely going to waste 5-10 years and get fucked over in the end.

Being all conflicted If she's going to leave you in 10 years is a bitch move. Worry about being a higher value man in 10 years than you are now. That's where the value is.

You can never know what the hamster Is doing, don't even bother.

If she is going to cheat there is nothing you can do.

simbarlion · 2018-04-30T11:27:54+00:00

how do you know when to fix it or when to just say fuck it?

You don't princess, you don't.

But you go with your gut and and your gut says no. It's a bad way to kick off a lifelong partnership.

kultueryf · 2018-04-30T11:35:21+00:00

I noticed a rat on this post

chachaChad · 2018-04-30T14:07:19+00:00

but marriage and the following makes that tough.

Pump out a couple of kids and buy a house then see how tough it gets then... Besides, you're a man. We do tough stuff every fucking day.

Stand up for yourself like you never could before. You're the only only that's going to protect yourself. She's isn't fit for an LTR with you and you're setting yourself up for a lifetime of misery.

You're pussyfooting around but you know you need to leave. Do that. Dig the fuck and stand up for yourself and insist on nothing less than the best for yourself.

You broke up with her once. That same dynamic isn't going away.

That depression is unexpressed anger and it's a signal that something is wrong and you're not dealing with the real problem. That's going to eat you alive if you avoid what you know needs to be done.

ArticulateSavage · 2018-04-30T15:12:22+00:00

She responds very well to game and dread. The sex is amazing and she cooks and cleans and does things for me. She can be very submissive. It makes it hard to shake the BP disney feel of maybe it just may work out...

And yet, deep down, that part of your brain that warns you of impending doom is signalling to you. What is it telling you?

Thousands of years of evolutionary adaptation have conditioned men to hear warning bells when they are about to get cucked, or have been cucked in the past. Your early childhood "blue pill" conditioning has trained you to ignore these gut instincts, honed over millennia.

I guess my question through all of this puke is how do you know when to fix it or when to just say fuck it? Its different when your married...

No, it's not different when you get married. It is different when you have children. The sunk cost fallacy and fear of the unknown combined with your low sexual market value are what prevents you from leaving a cheating whore. If you have no children, why are you married to a whore, even if she fucks like one, cleans, cooks and can occasionally be submissive. Are these bonuses, the minimum I would expect from any woman, enough for you to ignore those evolutionarily adapted alarm bells that you have been cucked in the past and that you are likely to be cucked again? Only you can answer that question.

FireTempered · 2018-04-30T19:00:27+00:00

my question through all of this puke is how do you know when to fix it or when to just say fuck it

This is probably the hardest question we deal with. It is different for everyone. Some men "settle". Others move on fast and start over....and everywhere in between,

For me as long as wife is improving, I'll keep playing house. I am always ready to bail if it stops improving.

You have to decide what you need in order to stay, and, what will make you leave. NO ONE CAN DECIDE THIS BUT YOU.

That being said, being married does not mean you live with less self respect, or like a slave. If the marriage is good, proceed, if not, withdraw.

EDIT: Re-read your post. IMO I would end it ASAP since you missed your first opportunity when disrespected before the wedding. Otherwise I fear you will forever be her chump.

HelloImRIGHT · 2018-04-30T19:11:38+00:00

Work on you dont get her pregnant

InChargeMan · 2018-04-30T20:31:51+00:00

These days Married = Dating with extra paperwork, Kids = Married.

At this point you are dating with some extra paperwork. So fucker, do you want to get married?

SeamusAwl · 2018-05-01T14:39:05+00:00

I guess my question through all of this puke is how do you know when to fix it or when to just say fuck it?

Get out now. 10 years in and you will be taking care of 3 kids by 3 different fathers. None of which will be you.

screechhater · 2018-04-30T11:41:46+00:00

Ok.

Theory one - mate guarding is unattractive

Two- currently, its your turn

Theory 3 - you dug in your trash, then married it.

MRP fixes the man.
look up self respect, boundaries and decide what you really think is going on with you - then you decide what YOU want.

6 Lift. Every other fucking day.

Dread. It does a woman good.

Eight- OYS. Head over to MRP. Participate.

revalation- don't be shocked when you find out she is fucking another guy. Be on guard but dont let it control you.

#manup. The minute you stop being fun, weak to your mission or to you, you're fucked she will be seeking attention from others.

edit- you bitches are supposed to support me, not point out my incompetence

tikitheman · 2018-04-30T21:25:29+00:00

Update after reading all the comments. I had a visectomy but we both have kids from previous marriages.

I will reply back to you guys more when I have more time.

hystericalbonding · 2018-04-30T12:41:50+00:00

Fuck her more and better. She's probably in /r/deadbedrooms right now, lamenting that her husband spends too much time on Reddit and not enough time fulfilling her fantasies. Not that it's possible for any one man to fulfil her fantasies, but maybe it'll be enough that she won't cheat as often.
Be prepared for divorce, if needed. Make it clear that divorce is on the table at all times. Get paternity tests for any kids that you have.

Title	Fuck it or fix it...
Author	tikitheman
Upvotes	6
Comments	55
Date	April 30, 2018 10:43 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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