How not to be butthurt?

Indubious1 · 2025-01-21T13:26:01+00:00

when you act mad and pout for not getting your way, what is the reason? in my experience, we act mad and pout as a manipulation tactic. it serves to punish those who we want to manipulate into doing something so that they don't get the "mad" version of us. while your wife may not consciously recognize your behavior as direct manipulation, she probably subconsciously recognizes it as weak behavior.

if it helps, in my opinion, the sub/dom behavior is built on trust. the more your wife trust's you, the more submissive she "may" be willing to be. trust was a survival mechanism for women for thousands of years. trusting her partner and his emotions would be more likely to ensure her survival. the less she trusts you, the less submissive she becomes.

when you go out in the evenings, the goal isn't to get her to think you are cheating. you aren't trying to break her trust. you are trying to get her to recognize that you are so fun and awesome, that another person would see that and want to steal you.

Chard-Far · 2025-01-21T09:49:56+00:00

Something doesn't compute here, you're saying you're in this journey for a long while yet your approach is still if a newbie retard.

Switch "experimenting" with "sex" and you get the same bullshit victim puke every beta newcomer here throws up: "no matter how much we've talked about it, I am still not getting the sex I want". You just think you're somehow different because it's quality and not quantity? Fuck you

InChargeMan · 2025-01-21T18:09:37+00:00

Dude, if you want to get pegged, just go to a truck stop and be done with it.

Tyred_Biggums · 2025-01-21T16:04:01+00:00

Jesus. Sacrifice the abs and get your lifts up.

qubitser · 2025-01-21T08:03:53+00:00

jesus christ, stop being a bitch would be good for beginners

Chard-Far · 2025-01-21T09:46:33+00:00

We're talking anal?

Praexology · 2025-01-24T05:23:51+00:00

Just be butthurt. 🤷‍♂️

Admit to being hurt, then learn to shut the fuck up about it because unless you're going to do something about it, ruminating only robs life from you.

When my wife gave birth to my daughter it was a shitshow. There was a moment during the emergency c-section I thought I was about to lose them both. Baby was whisked away to NICU, wifes vitals plummeted and was losing blood. I have never been more prepared to kill a doctor than when that happened.

We found out later there were some sketchy things that happened and we almost certainly could have sued, even now I still have a little butthurt rise up when i think of this. But I'm reminded of what one of my friends said to me once I was home with my family.

"Praex, you get to choose between going into litigation for the next two years, or you can be a dad for the next two years." Which immediately lets me drop the anger.

If your wife isn't putting out enthusiastically, either accept the mid sex ,or dont, either way, come to a decision and accept it. And if you choose to accept it and continue to try to improve the situation dont bitch and complain when it doesnt. God forbid you take it out on her.

because you accepted the version of it that was, not could be.

FlouncyMcTwinkle · 2025-01-21T14:07:16+00:00

I do enjoy these references to butthurt like its an an actual word in a grown up's vocabulary. Pretty certain your wife's not looking at you thinking 'he looks like he has the butthurt' Maybe just thinking you're sulking. Maybe just stop sitting around pouting and man up.

spanishthrower · 2025-01-22T08:24:32+00:00

for an update, she welcomed me after my martial arts training, with homemade tacos, wearing fishnets (my favorite) and short skirt. she was also very happy to see me and outgoing.
seems shutting the fuck up worked. I did not break down (which I did some times in the past) to "explain my feelings" and describing why I "need this and this, and she owes me". She is not stupid, she now exactly which piece of clothing is the one I like, she just chooses not to wear it most of the times.

GRIZZ-3 · 2025-01-21T15:56:23+00:00

It's just like reps in the gym. If you don't push outside your comfort zone, you don't grow.

Title	How not to be butthurt?
Author	spanishthrower
Upvotes	13
Comments	44
Date	January 21, 2025 7:51 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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