I have been working on me since December, lost 25 lbs, more muscular, leading as a sobered-up captain, and she’s just not responding. Every time I post something here, I get nailed for handling shit wrong because of wrong thinking.

So far, I am seeing myself as the prize My SMV is over hers I’m owning my shit and taking care of the household finances/decisions I’ve stopped asking her for sex, orbiting her and whining when I don’t get it. I am starting to withdraw affection and presence for “hard no”s My attitude is changing to NGAF about a lot of her drama.

When we got off work, I was playful with the wife, kino, etc, Tonight before going to bed, I tell my wife to come to bed and screw around. She’s on ovulation week, so she should be hornier than usual. So you’d think.

I text her from bed because I see she’s on the phone in the kitchen:

Me: I just woke up. Come to bed and let's get naked.

Her - :) Go back to sleep babe

Me: Make me sleepy

(No response)

Me: So you'd rather play with your phone than play with my dick?

Her: That sounds like manipulation. I am drinking a cup of coffee and trying to read on supplements.

Me: Ok. Sounds really interesting.

Her: You played with phone while I was eating.

(Bullshit, I was showing her some pictures I took not finger fucking my phone)

Me: I have supplements that you need to eat over here

(No response)

Me: Last chance, you better come get some

Her: I better come?

Me: Yep, you're missing out

Her: You have become a little vain

Me: My vein wants to drain in you

Her:I will go straight to sleep

Me: Fine. Your loss

I find her at 11;30 asleep at the kitchen table. WTF? She would rather fall asleep there just to avoid fucking.

At this point, how should I handle this bullshit? I’m thinking just go to work, go to the gym and not come home until late without a text or a call all day. Is that withdrawal of presence and affection or is there a better way?