Keeping the same frame.

coachdad8 · 2018-12-13T02:38:22+00:00

Great comments so far but I'd add that this is your life you are talking about, not some game you are trying to win. Trying to be an alpha or a red pill man or whatever is trying to be another person when what you need to be doing is being the best version of you by cutting out the whiny crap, getting your stuff together, being assertive and most importantly discovering what makes you happy day-to-day and following that. What hobbies do you enjoy, what kind of social situations? What kind of tv shows, gym sessions, dates, etc. Spending your time thinking about what your LTR thinks or if you are saying the correct thing only makes it worse. Get out of your head. Spend your time doing the fun stuff you want to do, talking about the things you want to talk about, being around the people you like being around, screwing the way you like to screw and when you want to screw. Its all about being happy without reservation. Because if you are happy the people around you will be happy. No one enjoys a sullen, quiet, over-analytical person. Keep working!

BobbyPeru · 2018-12-13T02:12:31+00:00

I jump straight out of bed, put a towel round me and go to shower and brush my teeth. When I get back she's pouting on the bed and says "why did you do that" I ask "what" with a dumb stupid fucking look on my face, she said "you never just jump out of bed" I asked if it was because I didn't hug her and she said "yeah" I told her I wasn't thinking, and watch my show on t.v..

I literally cringed at this whole thing. You are acting like a passive aggressive chick

Less talking, more fucking. Simple.

She gets home and I've made some dinner (I'm a chef) no big deal I love to cook

You are DEERing to us - totally unnecessary.

Practice, practice, practice. You have much work to do . Start by not being a faggot

plein_old · 2018-12-13T00:55:47+00:00

Your wife turns you on tremendously with foreplay, asks you to fuck her, and you jump out of bed and take a shower.

And you're surprised that she's disappointed..?

my mood can change rapidly from 1 day to the next

You're lucky to have a woman who wants to have sex with you. I don't mean that as an insult, but being super moody is not something that many women want to be penetrated by.

light-----------dark · 2018-12-13T03:09:48+00:00

Learn to control your mind, and everything else will follow.

Sit with yourself and observe your thoughts - what are you thinking?

It’s been argued that our thoughts influence our feelings, which in turn influence our thoughts, and then feelings again - it’s a circular pattern. If this holds true, it can be argued that our neurological pathways form together, which creates our state of being.

Is your state of being consistent or turbulent?

man_in_the_world · 2018-12-13T04:59:59+00:00

You misunderstand frame.

simbarlion · 2018-12-13T01:26:54+00:00

there is a good post about the train driver and the taxi driver

Be the train driver

username was robert something

hystericalbonding · 2018-12-13T03:39:01+00:00

Are all your frames based on what you feel like then (like women) or do you guys follow a code of conduct.

Nobody cares about your morals or values. This place is for strategy.

Your frame is your reality. If your reality shifts based on your mood, then you're mentally ill.

she tells me that it's "all I want to do lately"

She's bored with it. Bored with you. Be more interesting.

I have oldschool morals and values but they get you nowhere with women because none of them abide by any kind of moral or value

No, it's because morals and sexual attractiveness are orthogonal. Being a good boy is useful when a woman is looking for beta traits. Being hot and having game are useful for getting laid.

firstlight777 · 2018-12-13T04:00:58+00:00

Of you haven't, read the Book of Pook.

becoming_alpha · 2018-12-13T17:16:35+00:00

she tells me that it's "all I want to do lately"

"Yep, that's absolutely what I want to do" or "nah babe, sometimes I want to have threesomes"

Staying silent there is a bit autistic.

I then reposition so I can get to it and she smacks me away... she turns and asks "something wrong" I tell her "no"

Yes, something is wrong and she knows it. Instead of owning it and having fun with it, you lie and say no. That's a faggot move, then you climb back into your beta box to please her, an even more faggot move. Somehow after all that, she still wants you to fuck her? I'm surprised and you're lucky. She's literally DTF and asking for it, which is what you said you wanted 5 minutes ago, but because you got your feelz hurt, you're up and out of bed instead of taking what you want and what she's offering you. You sound like a chick.

Her being pouty wasn't because you didn't hug her, it's because you didn't fuck her. Be honest now, you rubbed one out in the shower to console yourself because she hurt your feelz. Then when she confronts you on jumping out of bed you DEER saying you weren't thinking.

Get a hold of your feelz man. You're in charge of them, don't let yourself be affected by every comment she makes. Be the oak that doesn't care if the wind blows and the rains come. She wants that strength, not some wishy washy chick in a man's body.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2018-12-13T20:54:59+00:00

How’s your diet? What are your lifts? How often do you exercise? What’s your sleep pattern? All that can affect you.

Frosteecat · 2018-12-13T21:35:41+00:00

I just need to know why I'm in my feelings so much and my mood can change rapidly from 1 day to the next.

This could be for any number of reasons. Often we point to control of thoughts, words and actions of your state of mind as the solution--which, if you are feeling something strongly, usually should be dealt with by utilizing a combination of AM/STFU. Seems like you tend to lean too hard on the STFU side of things. You say you're quiet and not witty, but it really doesn't take much more than a couple words in the right tone to convey your feelings, without coming off as autistic, Rambo, etc. Keep it simple, positive and brief. It will work. Never just bail instantly in the heat of the moment. Silent butthurt is as bad if not worse than actually saying something. Flouncing from a room is highly unattractive.

You may also consider you have some kind of clinical/chemical hamster issues. I have a brain on overdrive, so I've turned to lifting, eating clean, herbal and nootropic supplements, etc. to help me find the right levels. This has aided me significantly in maintaining a positive and calm outlook--which helps me not run my mouth or feel hyper emotional. It really was chemical adjustments and some self restraint in my case. Meditation, journaling, reading, Yoga, martial arts--et. al.--are all things that work for some people to master their behaviors and thoughts/words. It is WORK, experimentaion and more WORK.

I gave up cannabis, limit alcohol and focus on a variety of supplemental cocktails to keep my shit dialed. It's been miraculous.

screechhater · 2018-12-13T22:07:44+00:00

Wholly fuck... wait until you blow it up and then she starts cheating, of course you will wonder why .....

meivanlee · 2019-01-01T07:01:21+00:00

Just be you and enjoy life.

BE in your moment 100% of the time.

That’s the key to maintaining frame:)

Southboundcrash · 2018-12-13T01:24:20+00:00

How are your lifts?

Title	Keeping the same frame.
Author	Westerncaesar
Upvotes	7
Comments	55
Date	December 13, 2018 12:48 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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