LTR and Video Games

the_Zambony · 2016-02-04T19:29:23+00:00

the idea I keep having is just MAC filter the PS4 off my home wifi

Don't be a fucking pussy. Straight up tell her that this is unacceptable behavior for an adult. She can have her entertainment all she wants when she has earned it.

Putting games before her children, putting games before her health, putting games ahead of her responsibilities - FUCK THAT.

This bothered me much more than it should but I fucking hate neglectful parents. You need to lead your woman, maybe she doesn't know how to parent?

Someone needs to play the role of adult and lead this clan out of the shitstorm you are building.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-02-05T13:15:50+00:00

8 months.... 8 fucking months.

Let's sum up your time 'getting things back on track'

getting things on track

Basically reads like a guy who hasn't have his shit together in a decade. ok. first step? Stop being a step dad you reason it's because it's too hard, and hurts your relationship. then she teases how you aren't getting laid they bitch and moan when you take them out to events.

then, you bitch she doesn't pull her weight with HER two children

Now lets see what changes once you start with MRP

shes lazy, and you're stewing in the corner
ignores you to read books
the car inspection, I remember this from when I was first unplugging where she shits on you because you can't find a screwdriver
then she's a bitch to your parents
this trainwreck of adult living here, where you complain she can't pay bills which boggle the mind. according to you, you earn 75k at your home. Unless you live downtown new york, thats plenty enough for a fairly stable financial situation.
eventually, your parents have enough of her bullshit and kick her out
she actively avoids being intimate with you
she feels it's appropriate to lie to you about habitual things
financially, another fuckup on your part again, power shuts off twice a year, cars in repo. I wonder what an accounting sheet of your expenses looks like, I'd guess spending above your means?
she can't handle sitting her own kids
then she finds out that nagging illness gets you off her back for sex
and lets not forget the GTO powerball story. there's a reason I call lotteries 'dummy tax' and your story is the exact reason why.
then she ignores you and the kids to play videogames all day, and you don't know what to do

Things that make you go HMM

I've actually read all this, tried to find some kind of thread, but I'm at a loss here... You've almost had a year, it's amazing what one can do in a year. The only self improvement on your situation I've seen in all that bullshit is a half a sentance somewhere in there, where you admit browsing /r/marriedredpill.

What a waste. I'm pretty sure you space these just far enough that people don't feel the need to go through your MAP and bring it together, and I'm surprised no one has called you out sooner. thats on us.

She's a lazy, entitled, post wall single mom you wifed and childed up. She hooked you, and you went for it. she's lazy, rude and cunty to your parents, can't raise kids, has horrible choice in men (I'm guessing that the bio father noping the fuck out is a big clue there?) Finds any kind of activity to ignore you, or plays sick to keep you off of her.

And why wouldn't she? What do you bring to the table?

Can't keep your bills paid for 12 straight months. you guys aren't poor by any means, you're actually decently well off. Why the fuck are bills not getting paid? Why are cars getting impounded? What possible lessons have you learned and applied in the 10 years you've waited out bankruptcy? I'm not seeing it. where's the fucking money Lebowsky!?

Also, want to point out that you are posting all over the place. Generally, when people come here from relationships or deadbedrooms, they notice how that place isn't helping, and generally stick it here. You aren't, and still post your problems there. Not solutions, not what you've tried first, just your problems. And they are all about her. She's not this, she's not that... When you talk about your fuckups that you can't pass blame to her, you mute them until they are almost a footnote.

You aren't improving, you aren't even trying

You're a shit-tier man, with a shit-tier woman who actually has the upper hand on you. Fix your shit before those kids rob me in ten years.

Since you've neglected the sidebar all this time, get the fuck on it, don't post another character here until you've finished it.
one exception. Financially, get your shit together. Do whatever you have to do. PM me, or anyone here, and feel free to post even the most stupidly basic questions. Don't be proud here, you're playing the powerball and getting your car out of hock, while waiting out the bankrupcy timer. There's no illusion here, you're a financial retard.
you are a pretty big guy, but 250 at 6.5 seems high to me, unless you look like the hulkster, in which case I guess you already lift. If you don't, consider that you weigh about as much as hulk hogan in the 80s, you're two inches off, and twenty pounds short.
Don't even think about fixing that cunt. She's had nothing but time to see you as the example, and she's followed perfectly. Work on being a better examples before you start to fix her shit, your hands are full already.
those 3 kids need someone to take care of them. step father or not, you signed up for it. start leading. I don't have one, so I'm not going to add anything here, but there's lots of dads here who are more than happy to give you a slap upside the head.

now fuck off until you can unfuck yourself

irateMD · 2016-02-05T00:47:09+00:00

You're the guy who was trying to rationalize dropping $100 on a slot machine, right?

Have you read any of the sidebar books? NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP are mandatory.

She's not following your lead because you don't know how to set boundaries. Even worse, you haven't earned the right to set boundaries. It's fitting that /u/TrainingTheBrain has the top post in this thread because his blog has a theme, "Man up."

MAC filter the PS4 off my home wifi

That's passive aggressive bullshit. Read WISNIFG, practice the techniques.

sorry mommy's playing the game she cant help you now" when the 2 year old wants something

What the fuck is that? The 2 year old is your enforcer? Are you that much of a pussy? And have you considered what impact it has on a kid to be told that? You two are teaching your kid that mommy's games are more important. This isn't your kid's fault or your wife's - it's yours. That kid feels worthless now because of you. Internalize that.

GF says " I work 10 hour days"

If she can't handle her schedule, then you talk to her about the schedule. You're both hamstering that one away.

I attended my GF's 12 year old's Parent-Teacher Conference, he's having a hard time in school. I think she should have gone , but when I got back , she didn't even want to stop playing long enough to listen to what the teachers had to say.

That's because your codependent ass is enabling her shitty behavior.

Has there ever been a point in this relationship where you added value to each other's lives?

Trekneck · 2016-02-04T20:52:30+00:00

so yea ideas? thoughts ? the idea I keep having is just MAC filter the PS4 off my home wifi , and that will be the end of it.

Great idea. Don't clean the dirty bedroom, just bulldoze it so it's no longer a part of the house.

This chick is clearly a piece of work and it needs to be addressed if it's gotten to the point that she's neglecting her household duties or NO LONGER TAKING CARE OF HER OWN FREAKIN CHILDREN.

I'm 100% with /u/TrainingTheBrain that neglectful parents are about as low in the species as you can get.

As far as "turning off the wifi goes" you're treating the symptoms without addressing the cause. If you take the cake out of the house, fat dudes still gonna find something to eat. The problem here is that this woman is not adulting properly, and it needs to be addressed directly, without pussy footing around it.

Finally, you need to seriously consider what this LTR is contributing to you and YOUR CHILD's life. This recipe seems like it's going to turn out nasty if it's not corrected soon.

dandar4600 · 2016-02-05T12:43:50+00:00

I read your post history, what a clusterfuck. An example to others why they should stay the fuck away from single mothers. What you think you're so special and different from the other guy that said fuck this noise and cut her out of his life? You chose to get together with damaged goods and now reap the rewards.

With her 12 year old running away and giving false physical abuse allegations against you to the police, your GF not being close to either hers or your family, her being checked out, irresponsible with her finances, lying to you for no reason. Her not fucking you is the least of your problems. You should get your ducks in a row and eject out of the clusterfuck that is this LTR.

Ps. She's not talking to a game. She's talking with some schmuck(s) she's playing with. She works 10 hour days and makes 25K a year? She would make more than that in McDonalds with those hours.

Scurvemuch · 2016-02-04T19:43:35+00:00

You have a child with this woman. You also seem to be raising her kids. How easy is life for her? How easy is it to ignore the obligations of being an adult and a parent.

Stop that shit.

Lead her out of it, or figure out a way that your kid does not suffer.

Glennus626 · 2016-02-05T05:45:16+00:00

Lol, everyone is down on this girlfriend, but no one is saying a damn thing about the captain that's asleep at the wheel and let it get like this.

The second thing that stuck out to me was that everyone was acting like he should be her father. Does she have a job? Does she contribute to the bills? She has every right to use the wifi as he does. He's whining that she is more interested in a game than him, and yet what is he doing to make himself more interesting than the game?

Whining about her behavior to us is weak, when you should simply go back to RP roots and work on improving yourself. Perhaps get to the point where you're going out for happy hour with some coworkers, (and don't forget to make a comment here or there about how funny Janet from the office is when she's tipsy).

Video game addiction is real. Just as real as gambling, alcohol and cigarettes. People flock to it because it fills a hole in their lives. YOU should be filling all her holes ;) It gives them achievable goals that they can consistently meet to improve themselves, via character or avatar, in a digital setting.

The solution does not lie in you coming home, rolling up your sleeves and acting like her dad. Time and experience will have shown you that the most responsible teenager in the house (the woman) will simply step up the behavior or become little more than chattel. Engage her, give her new interests (like a fitter, more fun version of you). Instead of planning an 8 hour day to go shooting while you leave her at home, bring her with. Do something with her. Work on becoming more interesting. The fact that AWALT if left to their own devices means you're simply not doing YOUR job.

Boesman12 · 2016-02-05T10:08:57+00:00

I am still a noob here, and surely the old tribe leaders will provide better advice. But if it were me that situation I would have addressed the issue long ago.

After that just unplug the fucking machine and throw it in the trash. That way you enforce your disapproval at once without a covert soft weaksauce attemp to stop it by filtering your wifi.

You don't play that ps4 anyway do you, you're a man thats spends his time on the range with real guns. Fuck dude, get that playstation out of the house and go kill something.

Venge97RI · 2016-02-04T20:03:59+00:00

You need to lead your woman, maybe she doesn't know how to parent?

This.. im not sure what it is, I look at it as the GF says " I work 10 hour days" that's all I can do.. my Point of View is hey kids are hard work, sometimes ya gotta sacrifice , not work the hours, go to their events, bring them places , and raise them.

I've recently started saing " sorry mommy's playing the game she cant help you now" when the 2 year old wants something and is going to mommy for it.. It pisses her off, but the behavior doesn't change.

Title	LTR and Video Games
Author	Venge97RI
Upvotes	7
Comments	32
Date	February 4, 2016 7:24 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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