Wife went through my laptop and found me looking at divorce lawyers and PUA content online. Came home to her packing up the kids and leaving for her mom's to stay there for a while. Helped them pack up while STFU and all she mostly said was "lemme know when you figure out what you want" (not terrible advice to her credit). I've already talked to a divorce attorney a month prior (she doesn't know) and I know a divorce would suck right now but it wouldn't be the end of the world. My plan was to use her as a sparring partner and see if the tow rope tightened up after I got all my shit together but we'll see if that's still an option after this. If not, I guess it shouldn't really make a difference either way on the work that I need to get done.