Explicitly ask girls out on a date?

Trumpanoly · 2016-07-18T05:48:21+00:00

"Are you angling for a 3-some?" "Unless she is hotter than you she ain't coming" "Do you need a babysitter?"

All ok responses. Hold frame and if you don't want a friend to come, be clear and don't compromise.

Edit:

After 2 mins thought - an expert play would be to tell her to bring a friend, then also bring another plate and all of a sudden it's 3 girls out for drinks with you. LET THE GAMES BEGIN.

TomFoo · 2016-07-18T05:48:54+00:00

Sure, be inclusive. Then when she arrives with her friend(s), flip the switch on her, flirt with her friends, make your original target jealous. When a woman sees you are a social leader (alpha male) who makes her friends feel at ease, jealousy will become sexually unbearable. That nagging desire to have 1-on-1 dates is textbook beta.

roeddit · 2016-07-18T08:56:41+00:00

You aren't saying anything wrong, they're probably just not that attracted to you. Would a girl bring her friend on a date with Brad Pitt?
Don't do dinner dates.
Don't do drinks either unless there's something else interesting going on - girls get bored easily if it's only conversation with a guy. Not saying it's impossible, but it's so routine for an attractive girl that they won't bother unless your SMV is +2 theirs.
Ask more girls out.

PragmaticRedTruth · 2016-07-18T05:45:46+00:00

You've done it correctly, she just hasn't got the point that this shit isn't happening, unless it's just the two of you.

"You're bringing your mom out with us on our date? Embarrassing."

At that point, fuck subtleties.

JackGetsIt · 2016-07-18T13:31:30+00:00

fully understands but is doing this anyway

This is what happen. Just say you love threesomes but her friend will have to meet you later that night.

brooklynisburnin · 2016-07-18T15:18:05+00:00

I've been following TRP advice for almost two years now, and while pretty much 99% of advice is solid, there's two things not only do not work for me, but also create more problems:

Text is for logistics only; I get that it's a noob rule of thumb, but texting sparingly and smart improved my win ratio.
Do not ask, command; The whole "I'm gonna be at X, join me" sounds more like a hang out rather than a date, I've never been able to pull this one, maybe it's me, but it led to several odd situations where I end up looking like a retard that doesn't know how to ask a girl out, never had troubles with "Are you free on X? Cool, let's go get some drinks at X".

jcromero · 2016-07-18T22:37:09+00:00

Only insecure women will suggest bringing a friend along to a date. Most people know that a first date is the romantic equivalent to a job interview. There's some real hamstering behind "bringing a friend".

Often, they're a bit scared to meet up with JUST you. Younger girls (15-25) do this because the pressure of sexual intimacy is too much to bear. Typically these girls have been alpha widowed by a some pool boy or dude in a band. Older insecure women that have been banged out more will replace these friends altogether with homosexual male friends (i.e. this is where the fag-hag term comes from). This gives them enough male dominance in an essentially neutered form, kinda like drinking decaf.

In some cases that "friend" that she'll bring along will be a beta orbiter, or even a beta boyfriend.These girls are so insecure that they're trying to prove their worth to you in the form of evidence. They're basically saying "I'm so hot I have this submissive beta male wrapped around my finger!" DO NOT BE THIS GUY. I've seen this a few times and it's always uncomfortable for everyone involved.

On a zero-level examination, bringing a friend is ALWAYS a comfort test.

These girls are either afraid that you'll pump and dump them and/or not interested in them sexually. By playing "hard to get" they're hoping that that'll build investment and attraction on your part. If a girl wasn't interested in you then she wouldn't spend time with you. Girls will typically make it clear when they're not interested in you. But because she's artificially putting you into a group situation it's a sign of major attraction, enough that she's feeling some insecurity. It's the girl equivalent to approach anxiety.

Comfort tests are usually easy to distinguish from shit tests. A comfort test is typically something like, "Do you think we have a future together?" A shit test is something like, "I don't date short guys."

However, insecure women that are into you will typically swap the two. They'll treat you like shit when they want you to care about them, and they'll be needy when they don't actually like you (beta bux).

There's a myriad of responses that some people have given to you. You just have to do what you're comfortable with.

For me, I don't like meeting strangers on dates. When a girl tries to invite someone along I don't know I say "Not interested." The responses that /u/Trumpanoly wrote are also really good. If she invites someone else without asking just leave.

If she's inviting a mutual friend you're going to have to bite the bullet and go along with it. It'll make the interactions go way smoother and will ultimately be a lot more fun.

Make sure you have rock solid self confidence with these girls otherwise they'll make your life hell

Title	Explicitly ask girls out on a date?
Author	BlackPhoenix01
Upvotes	15
Comments	34
Date	July 18, 2016 5:05 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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