Girls are using my dick.

neuromancerBG · 2019-03-20T13:37:30+00:00

Well, its normal that you want to have a more consistent relationship. But have you considered that maybe you're pulling the wrong kind of girls? They are either too young (early twenties) and want to sample as many cock as they can OR you haven't learned how to vet the girls properly.

Why dont you check out the Tactical Guide to Women by Dr. Shawn Smith... Maybe that will help you vet for better girls in the future.

haughtyhay · 2019-03-20T13:53:20+00:00

That last sentence or two is the problem. If you want an LTR, you need to be spinning plates to screen for a quality gal. If you’re dicking down women as good as you say you are, they wouldn’t withdraw attention. They’d be initiating nearly exclusively. In the words of the wise Biggie Smalls “she gonna come if she gonna cum.”

Attachment simply stems from non-abundance. Find a mission. And grind. And you won’t give a fuck about a bitch

NightwingTRP · 2019-03-20T17:12:09+00:00

> full psychopath nofeelings mode

This is not a goal on here. Go review the better quality material. Stoicism. Not feelingless nonsense.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2019-03-20T14:05:56+00:00

Well, depends on how you escalate. If you spin them as if they are plates, then this is a fairly reasonable thing to happen. I had a lot of women between 18-24 that I would have no contact with whatsoever, except when they called me to "come over for a movie". This is how I wanted it to be. I was clear I was gonna have sex with other women, that I did not desire having a GF and that they were awesome in bed and therefore I'd like to see them again. Most of these girls had cycles between 3-6 weeks that they would call in between. So what?

So, what did you communicate? Did you seem interested only in the physical contact, then IMO this is quite normal. If you don't want this, you'll need to learn how to show your beta side once a while to keep them close. GF's and LTR's require different game than just women you want to spin as a plate.

Crixusgannicus · 2019-03-20T15:22:26+00:00

Better your dick than your wallet.

Velebit · 2019-03-20T17:16:36+00:00

You obviously want a relationship with a quality woman rather than stroke your own ego with getting the number of women you fucked up.

Best place for you is not all this redpilling stuff now but actually philosophy and values. Talk to women about what matters to them, where they want to go in their future, what are their values, what is their past, upbringing and who they spend time with and how are those people. Get a sense of how nurturing, smart, emotionally disciplined a woman is.

If she has no answer for these things and if she does not start connecting things after explaining, she has failed the questions or is too stupid which is again failing questions.

You want a woman that wants a relationship, commitment and has collectivist values. A girl with individualist values will prioritize herself over everything else and only measure you for how much pleasure per minute you provide her. A collectivist mindset (a religious, traditional, nationalist etc woman) will be in a mindset that when you win, she wins and will be a loyal person.

Women like that are not often found at parties, drunk and dressed like skanks. You have to understand what r selection and K selection is. Hypergamous r selected women are the stereotype of blondes going for blacks because their biology and kinks direct them towards toughness, hypergamous K selected women are the golddigger/groupie stereotype because their innate biology sends them to chase for status.

Both are examples of toxic femininity. Any man who wants to find a proper quality female partner needs to ask appropriate and sneaky questions that make women reveal what makes them go, what turns them on and what kind of environment shapes their brains, what makes then excited, happy, worried etc.

You are probably doing no filtering and relying on your dick to do choosing for you.

FixYourselfFirst · 2019-03-20T13:38:55+00:00

Mentally, you are not in the right place to spin plates. You seem to get attached to anyone you have sex with. Maybe you are better suited for a LTR.

RedSkeller · 2019-03-20T13:49:17+00:00

This brings up a good point - this is a guilt tactic used by women "You only want me for sex?" - when typically they are the majority offender. You are essentially 'Chad' at this point, which is a hell of a lot better than Beta Bux Bob. This is the sad state of things, however, and you only get through all this shit by pumping and dumping. You're a dildo with life support, so leave your emotions at the door about it - unless you're trying to scare them off again. A quality woman will eventually present herself in this swirl of chaos and your calloused dick and heart will drive her wild. So much so that you'll start thinking about how much fun it was to be out on the range plowing young fertile fields again.

You're likely fucking young impulsive women, give it time and work on why YOU feel this way.

mrpthrowa · 2019-03-20T14:35:55+00:00

Well, she is treating you all the same, you're also fucking up which is why you are ghosted from time to time, then she goes back to the other dick, and they fuck up, and she comes back to your dick, and so forth, you could be option b, or c, or a, or whatever

It's called the cock carousel, she basically has you all on a rotation and jumps from dick to dick

nothing to do about it from your end, maintain frame, any girl who does this is not worth anything but being a plate

supersede · 2019-03-20T15:14:47+00:00

I know the advice is going to be AWALT FUCK TEN OTHER BITXXXHESSS XDDDD but I seriously dont desire that.

you need to change your focus. you know how they say time heals all wounds? we'll the secret is it's actually sleep. focusing on getting a lot of quality sleep, and try to increase your deadlift max.

life will sort itself out on its own, get out of your head

Mescalean · 2019-03-20T16:36:02+00:00

Thank modern feminism there buddy

SubstantialBeanBoi · 2019-03-20T14:12:38+00:00

western women are fucked in the head thanks to feminism and the social media arms race. they can go cock shopping on tinder and so they are in a perpetual state of thinking they can do better. Consistent and healthy is the counter-culture so you'll probably have to refine your search to a smaller pool of women.

BusterVadge · 2019-03-20T13:49:59+00:00

You know that there are guys here who would kill to have your "problem", right? As a guy who prefers LTRs I kind of get what you're saying. You are pulling these girls from the wrong places my friend... They are polluted. You need to find better waters to fish from.

SwoleyMoleyFrijoley · 2019-03-20T15:46:01+00:00

Bro, you're not the second option. You're the first. You're getting the good sex. The betas are getting duty sex.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-03-20T20:31:05+00:00

lot of RP theory in evidence here.

> First few weeks is super awesome great sex great flow and than out of nowhere. poof. ghost.

You have a good frame and decent attractiveness, you have good game but not great. You don't have good push-then pull game. So you're a 6.5-7:10 for them. not boring but not tantalizing.

But, you're overinvesting too early which makes them feel like you don't have other options than them. She suspects that you're not really the first place prize she wants. After all nobody feels good winning a tournament with only two entrants.

Women don't like being in this situation, it makes them feel obligated even if they're attracted to you otherwise. People instinctively discount others who show signs of scarcity. That is, they get a gut feeling of "low risk = low reward." You're low hanging fruit for them. Your the third place trophy. Feminsm plus normal human narcissism will whisper that "yeah, but you could have done better, you could have got the gold if you tried just a little harder."

So if they have a chance to go after someone who acts like he has many options, they will. It's more appealing to them high risk, higher reward. Go for gold in the more prestigious tournament with more participants.

Go for only seeing them once every two week and low communication in the beginning. Spin multiple plates.

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-03-20T14:10:15+00:00

I had girls literally tell me they just want me for sex. I’ve had girls that were hot tell me they want to have a baby with me. One girl said she just wanted my baby and I don’t even have to be in a relationship with her, she just wanted my seed. I’m not joking. They all have one thing in common though- they weren’t good girls.

The good girls, on the other hand, become extremely possessive over me. They want to own me. But I never let them awalt

Casanova-Quinn · 2019-03-20T15:28:48+00:00

One thing to keep in mind, to prevent the "oneitis", is to remember that these girls are hoes. Think about it, they are quickly jumping around from guy to guy looking for good dick. Are these the type of girls you want as a LTR? I don't think so.

StopGaming1234 · 2019-03-20T14:59:05+00:00

I had the same thing happen to me. I accepted how it is and now I find it hard to develope emotions towards anything.

InformalCriticism · 2019-03-20T15:23:43+00:00

You're only noticing the pattern of the result. You should be looking for the patterns in what you're allowing into your life.

Just get better at picking them.

T-P-T-W-P · 2019-03-20T16:06:05+00:00

You know that “talking” portion people refer to as the time leading up to actually dating? I basically have that with 2 or 3 chicks a good bit of the time and it’s sort of settled as my MO. I vet them enough to know they aren’t huge whores nor someone whose sole value to me is the hole between their legs. Not dating but also not just the “come/fuck/leave” combo. . For example I brought a plate of a month along to a beer tasting last night. Got a little tipsy, nice conversations, really nice fucking afterwards back at my place. Will I marry this chick or ever seriously date her? Very likely not, but I did thoroughly enjoy the experience and I’m sure she did the same regardless of what the future holds. Find chicks that aren’t huge whores and be interesting. Laying good pipe helps too.

MattyAnon · 2019-03-20T17:15:16+00:00

I just want something consistent and healthy

At some point she figures you're not the best option in life.

Do you spend quality time with them? Do fun stuff together? Talk about life the universe and everything?

If not you're just a fuck and she'll look for deeper sooner or later. Not to say you have to be exclusive (you don't), but there has to be a bit more than sex.

Ok, here's an idea: do what YOU want with them as well as sex. What other stuff do you like, enjoy, wanna do? Drag them along.

vandaalen · 2019-03-20T18:20:50+00:00

Fucking cucks in here suggesting finding unicorns. fuck dat shit. Your problem is neediness.

http://archive.is/agtCP

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Herdsengineers · 2019-03-20T20:54:29+00:00

Just echo'ing others in that it has as much to do with the character and values of the girls you select as anything else. If you want better than to be part of the hypergamy cock carousel at large for women in mass, then you need to be much more discerning in who to select to start with. You need to recognize that younger girls biggest asset is what's between their legs and further recognize that the girls that give that value away easily don't make healthy relationship partners.

Instead, a girl that is more discerning in who she gives herself to makes a better, healthy relationship partner. That means finding one that doesn't sleep around. And that definitely isn't found on Tinder. You gotta change up your hunting grounds to go find one, and you gotta be patient and understand it can take a long time to even meet one, much less one that you vibe well with. In the mean time, lift, develop yourself, your career, build your SMV, and protect that SMV from succubus's that will try to leech off you (that always sucks SMV away from you).

[deleted] · 2019-03-20T21:11:21+00:00

Look, sex is good until you have way too much. Then it becomes "meh" because you've seen it all.

You are in that latter state. It's still good but you don't need it. You want something more.

Asking for women to fulfil that "something more" is a recipe for disappointment. You need to fulfil your own needs.

Jester2552 · 2019-03-20T23:08:27+00:00

Currently dealing with something similar to this so I understand your struggle my man. If this isn't something you like or want then you have to set boundaries and stick to them!

0io- · 2019-03-21T01:27:17+00:00

Models by Mark Manson is good for this sort of thing. You need to figure out what you really want and then reject or disqualify most of the girls who would be willing to have sex with you but don't fit exactly what you're looking for. Instead of passing shit tests and hooking up, you'll be eliminating most of the girls you meet and go on dates with. Quality over quantity. It will at least give you some ideas to work with.

I'm personally not convinced that this is a great idea compared to the standard Fuck Ten Other Women advice. Seems like you could do a ton of work to find the perfect girl and then she will probably AWALT her way to some other guy and want to come back to you for the D. But you don't know until you try!

TRP8myfeels · 2019-03-20T18:46:36+00:00

Nah it's kid shit. Once they are done riding that CC they wont leave you bb <3

Go be a hoe and fuck a bunch of women, let women be hoes and fuck a bunch of dudes. Settle in your mid 30's with one that doesn't have children and STD's, maybe she will have a full blown career and a life and have already cut the shit out of her life, you know, like an adult would.

Most relationships aren't meant to last, be the best person you can be all the time and hopefully you attract a few similar individuals throughout time. Trust all the others only as much as you have to, never trust anyone totally, not even yourself.

red_matrix · 2019-03-20T16:39:19+00:00

These girls are riding the cock carousel, they can’t control their hypergamy. Accept women. Accept most girls will act this way. They’re like brainless butterflies just floating around: they come and go. Accept this. Accept them as plates, and plates only. Reward good behavior with attention, and pull away your attention as punishment for bad behavior. Do not ever LTR these girls. I can tell you want a gf, but you need to trust your gut and recognize the red flags. It’s hard to see how many girls are on the CC these days. Just accept it.

She's not yours, it's just your turn. The glass is already broken.

Joeboard · 2019-03-20T16:41:34+00:00

This happens to me too and you know what, 9/10 times there are red flags prior that I chose to ignore.

Blazerman_24 · 2019-03-20T16:45:53+00:00

Where are you meeting these women? How old are they? You might wanna start there. Also I hope you are not sending relationship vibes to early on. She should be the one bringing up a relationship not you despite if that's what you want.

Try to limit seeing women to no more than once a week initially. Let her miss you. Let her wonder what you're doing.

You have a really good problem on your hands. Just don't rush it, trust me.

asktrp4433 · 2019-03-20T17:43:52+00:00

Even the most consistent of relationships will have setbacks. You don't have to be "full psycho nofeelings" to know when you're fucking around with a skank. Increase SMV, find some goals beyond "get a gf" and pursue them.

You met these girls off tinder / tinder-girl's associates? Don't expect to find diamonds when you're going dumpster diving lad. You get what you pay for.

nexther · 2019-03-20T17:49:08+00:00

You’re boring. Girls eventually realise that and move on. They want fun and thrills, they crave emotions. Lead an exciting and unpredictable life and expect girls to stick around much longer.

downvotesanimals · 2019-03-20T17:52:03+00:00

They probably just don't see you as an LTR.

WindIsMyMusic · 2019-03-20T21:27:25+00:00

AWALT-autism is a real problem here. Everyone screams AWALT way before actually reading the question, when it may be totally irrelevant.

But thtt be the karma hunters, what can you expect tho anyways

silent_dominant · 2019-03-21T14:10:09+00:00

Be the first to push, before they ghost you. They go away because they know that they can always come back.

bbcbarbarossa · 2019-03-20T17:40:02+00:00

i wish i was chad like you

StarSetEconomy · 2019-03-20T22:58:16+00:00

I just want something consistent and healthy.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #6 Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved.

usernameishardtomake · 2019-03-20T16:10:17+00:00

Weird flex, but okay

heyprestorevolution · 2019-03-20T17:24:24+00:00

Healthy

The red pill

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