How do women help men succeed?

PracticalMaximum · 2019-05-26T12:44:15+00:00

When you are not successful yet, not even the closest friends will support you. Remember, you take the path of success/power by yourself. At the end of the day it is your call to make. No one, except you, will invest in yourself. Women are like kids, they see a better/nicer toy, their mind will stay on that FOREVER.

KeffirLime · 2019-05-26T13:23:30+00:00

Women generally like ambitious men, and men who don't make them their center of their world.

The useful part of having a girlfriend while building yourself is that you can adequately satisfy your sexual needs while focusing on your growth instead of having the distraction of chasing a bunch of strange pussy.

She'll generally remain interested because your focus is on your work and not her, you're ambitious and your value is constantly ascending, and if she doesn't who cares, your focus is your growth not her.

The biggest problem I've had in the past is increasing my value came with increased attention from higher quality women, which inevitably left me less attracted tot h ones who I started with.

boom_bostic · 2019-05-26T14:33:56+00:00

I have always said this—Women push men. A good woman who lovingly cares, provides and sacrifices for her man (who does the same for her) will push him to become the best version of himself. Now take that same man, but give him a woman that becomes contentious, unfaithful and self-serving and it will make him a shell of the man he could and should be.

I’ll give you a real life example. My wife likes to wake up every morning before I do and make my breakfast and coffee. I get ready and then I come to the table to a prepared breakfast, where I sit and either read the Bible or chat with my wife while eating. It seems like such a small thing. My old morning routine was to rush into the bathroom, fix my face, run to the closet, get clothed and on the way out the door I would grab a bagel or something quick that could be eaten on the road. Then once I was at work, I would grab a coffee.

When my wife started making breakfast, I realized that it put me into a better mood in the mornings. I came to work and was immediately more efficient now not having to worry about my stomach growling for food or my nerves begging for caffeine. I could come in and completely focus on my tasks for the day. I also have been able to focus more on my appearance in the mornings now that she helps out so I even look more prepared.

Since we’ve been together, I have received numerous pay raises, promotions, bonuses and such. A lot of it has to do with her contributions to my life. The thing is, it pays off for her as well. The more money I make, the more I get to spend on things like vacations, a brand new boat, cars...etc.

Bottom line is that women can help push you to make changes to your life.

urbanfoh · 2019-05-26T13:38:00+00:00

Of course need some baseline SMV to keep a woman in your life. After that your value only increases further and the probability of her branch swinging decreases due to additional dread.

To answer the title of your post:

She satisfies your sexual needs which boosts your confidence and saves you a lot of time chasing pussy.

She can cook and clean for you to save you time and money.

And she can help you relax after work.

Naturally, all of that relies on the frame you set in your relationship.

MajesticPitch · 2019-05-26T11:27:55+00:00

Women only hold men back. You become too successful, she starts to feel scared and she'll want to push you back into shit so she can stay on top.

You're girlfriend won't stay not because she is scared but because she doesn't care for your grind. She wants the results, without the hard work.

RedSkeller · 2019-05-26T11:45:34+00:00

In most cases women don’t care about the struggle, most haven’t and will never. They’re not watching the race - they’re at the finish line fucking the winners.

Black_Jesup · 2019-05-26T13:24:17+00:00

The right woman is like the mortar for your brickbuilding. She keeps the homefront running smoothly while you do your conquering and coalesces the social elements. It's a valuable partnership at the higher levels of success and is not to be undervalued. In fact, candidates in highly desireable business, medical, academic, etc fields won't advance to the highest levels without this partnership successfully in place.

escapethesolarsystem · 2019-05-26T18:02:28+00:00

Women help men succeed in two ways:

By existing. The desire to attract women motivates men to better themselves so they can compete and be successful in the sexual marketplace.
By supporting. Good women (obviously, don't go looking for them in the western countries, they are 1 in a 100) can push men in the direction of success, by encouraging them to work harder / do better at their ambitions and career. A good woman can handle other problems (such as the home life, kids, etc) so the man can focus on his work, she can use her feminine nature / sex to lower his stress and keep him encouraged and positive, etc. This is still part of female hypergamy (woman basically have two strategies, they either pick a high value man; or build a high value man out of one with clear potential) but it nevertheless results in a good outcome for the man that is being pushed up the social and economic hierarchy by his women, whether the woman is doing it selfishly, altruistically, or simply acting on biological instinct.

However, do note, don't use women as a crutch - i.e., fail to motivate yourself to improve with the expectation that you will find a women who will do it for you. First, more women opt for picking a high value man than building one, as building one takes more work. Second, you shouldn't rely on other people to give you the drive you need improve yourself, as they might not always be there and you're giving up your own agency and relying basically on "luck" of your social situation.

FlyingSexistPig · 2019-05-26T13:38:53+00:00

Lots of people aren't successful...yet.

Most of them never become successful. Most of them just sorta continue on being normal.

failingtheturingtest · 2019-05-26T19:12:41+00:00

There's a lot of boys spewing their interpretation of a brief red pill synopsis here. Try and identify the wheat from the chaff as best you can.

As much as women are fickle, short-sighted and emotional, they are also attracted to ambition almost as much as success. In fact, the success itself in many cases is only an indicator of the ambition and drive.
This is where men go wrong! They stop. Their ambition dries up because they have "achieved success".

I work in a novel and intellectually curious, but in reality fucking boring and dry industry. I used to avoid talking about my work because it is primarily intellectual and dull. However, I since noticed that my passion and drive for something they do not even understand gets the panties wet. The amount of times I've heard the phrase "I have no idea what you're talking about, but I'm so interested in your passion".

Women want men who are passionate, driven and make it happen. If they see you continuing to carve your place in the world, they want that journey. God knows they won't be carving their own way like that, so this is their chance to feel the thrill of creating success.

Any woman worth her salt will feel the need to be the supportive, healthy "partner" who does what a women does best and helps you be the man that achieves his passion. But God help you if you slow down, stop or even deviate from your path.

No one cares about Elon Musk's past achievements, they only care what he's working on next. "you're only as good as your latest project".

Tl;Dr A high value man is one who shows signs on achievement, and continues to achieve more. How far you are on your journey will make it more readily apparent to higher SMV women. High RMV women will only stay interested if your trajectory remains correct.

OilyB · 2019-05-26T21:40:13+00:00

By NOT hogging his attention, energy and time,

By facilitating him in his initiatives, vision and work,

By being able to show gratitude for what he is and what they are and have built as a couple,

By inspiring him to dare make his dreams come true,

By arranging as much as she can so he can attend to the important stuff,

By arranging FUN free time and uplifting social events so he can charge his battery,

By soothing his soul in the RIGHT way when he is in pain or sorrow,

By seeing and understanding how he came to be the man that he is,

By knowing his fears and - on the sideline - helping him face them successfully (this means NOT DEMANDING he face his fears because she wants him to),

By knowing his past and seeing him in that perspective,

By being proud of him and genuinely and frequently showing it,

By being able to be rational and logical when necessary,

By knowing herself and acknowledging to him her ownership of her own lesser sides,

By being capable of calmly unraveling conflict and neutralizing arguments,

By being patient,

By being competently communicative of her emotional world,

By being socially intelligent and gracious enough to honor him at her side.

By only committing to him when she truly, truly loves him as a person. And then by building something beautiful together.

As you can see, there's a ton of fucking work to be done with western brats nowadays.

Me, I have a girlfriend who does a lot of the above. She can walk the walk and talk the talk. She can face the nitty gritty and not complain. She's seen me in the deep and stood by me during narrow times when I built it back up.

But she knows not to misbehave or she'll be nexted and I'll miss her for exactly 3 weeks.

She stands to lose a lot more than I if we break up. And she knows I know.

"That's perfection!" - Patrice O'Neal

Pooddit · 2019-05-26T17:22:25+00:00

I have an unpopular opinion. Oftentimes post wall women will be good significant others. They know your value, they know their value. They are more long term invested because they are older and have already done all the adhd things like ride the cock carousel and know that they are losing value with age, and that men gain it with age. I am admittedly a train wreck of a person at 30 years old but a more established woman with baggage and age (31) has shown interest in helping me get my life together. Not in a "save this broken poor soul" kind of way. Embarrassingly, more in a male role kind of way, because I really do need some help getting my life together. If she moves on later, fine, there is still a lot to gain in the meantime.

MedicalNothing · 2019-05-26T15:39:44+00:00

They don’t, it’s a society accepted lie that women somehow help men succeed.

Sure there is one instance I can think of and that is gf/wife telling a man she stands for his decision but that happens only when man already decided and just needs to not be alone.

And in all honesty this mostly happens in movies only, still it’s fair to accept this as they one rare instance when women actually can and sometimes help a man.

Incaahhh · 2019-05-26T17:59:32+00:00

Women should not be the factor between you succeeding or failing. They can either help you get there or be an obstacle but ultimately your success depends on you.

[deleted] · 2019-05-26T18:02:20+00:00

You’ll probably trade her up for the new model when you do reach success.

Or, she’ll leave you when you don’t reach success fast enough.

thrwy75479 · 2019-05-26T19:22:20+00:00

We're all animals. The most powerful thing a man has is his sex drive. This is what fuels every decision a man makes, it's what drives him forward.

Men compete with other men to get better, and to gain access to the best women. The made-up titles, the fancy cars, giant houses, big incomes, it's all to fuck more and better women.

That's how they help men succeed.

electricitygives · 2019-05-29T09:49:30+00:00

Does it mean my girlfriend will not stick with me and support me during the time that I will need to create the successful life for me?

I mean, probably not. LOL

It's very simple: People want to feel better, and not worse about themselves.

Your failure will directly reflect how she feels about herself. She'll think "am I with a high SMV guy that can handle his shit AND my shit?" If both boxes are ticked off, you are suddenly the high value alpha she wants.

For the most part, men and women are in relationships to see what they can get out of it. (Improve their own lives). If you can do it in such a way that inspires loyalty in her, then maybe. Even then, it's not likely she'll abide by the "ride or die" fantasy that you have in your head, because all love is conditional.

She'll help you succeed by encouraging traits in you that you were too lazy to adopt before, or lack in some way. But if that's the case, you'll be submitting to her in some way. When you're not successful yet (or rather, successful "enough" in her eyes), it's not likely that there will be any kind of mutual respect that bonds your relationship together.

jsperezgsp · 2019-05-26T10:58:03+00:00

Hypergamy will push her towards different opinions:

Leaving you Cheating on you A dead bedroom A combination of them

GotPermaBanForLolis · 2019-05-26T13:49:26+00:00

How do men help women succeed?

nerazzurro99 · 2019-05-26T20:45:22+00:00

They keep our balls empty and stomach full so we can think straight.

uptimex · 2019-05-26T13:55:57+00:00

Women must not affect your success. Sure you can allow them to encaurage you, and then just leave and make your life shitty. As Buddha said "There is no disappointment when you have no expectations". You are a hunter, with or without women.

mrpoopistan · 2019-05-26T16:44:39+00:00

From what I've seen in my years, a woman supporting a man is usually an expression of his disproportionate SMV compared to her.

He might not be a success, but she's super flawed in some way. Usually ugly or otherwise unfuckable. Perhaps significantly older and post-wall. There's always something that allows the asymmetry of her supporting him to work. In other words, for one asymmetry to work, there has to be a second one that balances it out.

Usually, it just boils down to the guy living off her.

HurricaneHugues · 2019-05-27T03:22:34+00:00

The only time a woman can make a man a millionaire is if she divorces him while he's a billionaire.

Title	How do women help men succeed?
Author	MonojitSarkar
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Date	May 26, 2019 10:50 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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