How often are heads actually getting laid

Robin2Fast2Furious · 2020-10-22T22:42:11+00:00

Man, I used to be like that. Worrying about getting laid until I started my business. More stressful, but not as exhausting interacting with women. Things that I wished that I did younger: traveled more, fail and learn quicker, business networking, and cut off toxic people from my life.

For the dating/casual advice, work on your body (workout, diet, etc.) and mind (read, travel, learn, etc.) to be more interesting. Get off of dating app and do more in-person approaches. If you’re already doing that, up those numbers.

distraff · 2020-10-22T21:59:09+00:00

Get ripped(it really makes a difference), work on your style, be flirty and get sexual with girls quickly(you gotta learn how to transition into sexual topics smoothly). By swiping a lot on dating apps and going out every week, I averaged 1-2 bodies a week. I’d speak to well over 20 a week.

courtesy_flush_plz · 2020-10-23T00:09:35+00:00

well it's definitely harder to spark up a conversation with a sly grin at the grocery store when everyone has fkn masks on like it's Eyes Wide Shut

319Skew · 2020-10-23T05:34:23+00:00

1st Don't put sex on a pedestal. It's fun but you're 23. You've got plenty of time to get laid.

2nd You'll have some bad seasons. It happens. As long as you improve every day, you'll get results. Just keep your head above water by not giving into nihilism or self destructive habits.

3rd Try not to compare yourself to others. When I was trying, I was hitting up 2-4 a month. To some guys here that's great. For some other guys that's horrible.

4th There's some great stuff on that side bar about cold approach, Kino and closing.

vandaalen · 2020-10-22T23:07:35+00:00

i never had sex everyday in my life. aint nobody got time for that shit. i got business to do.

if you have three girls in rotation, you can go and fuck each other day. remember that you never meet your plates more than once a week.

RompeChocha · 2020-10-23T03:56:55+00:00

I'm spinning three plates for the past year and a half, they're not the best in the looks department, but they know how to please me.

I don't love women, but i love having sex with them.

berttbeans996 · 2020-10-22T21:48:18+00:00

Was in the same position as you bro. Decided to continue working on myself.

I had a 2 month drought. Couldn’t get a plate. I continued working on myself. Worked on my body a lot and my fashion. Traveled somewhere with my bro’s and my good bro took pics of me. Appreciate him a lot for that. I’ve been relying on online dating myself and I agree it’s poisonous as FUCK. I think competition is sky high right now because most people are relying on it to meet people.

Luckily I’ve been able to get two girls off dating apps and am currently talking to one more off a dating app. I also lucked up because I knew one girl in the city I moved to. She’s also struggling to meet people so I was her top option.

Im dating 4 girls simultaneously right now. Sleeping with 2. Gaming the other 2 currently. 1 of them appears to be losing interest, and the other im hanging out with tonight.

My advice is continue working on yourself. Your body, fashion, grooming, skincare, diet, everything. And try to get some candid photos of yourself. I’ve only been using OLD cause of covid. It sucks. The girls you want the most have a lot of options, and a lot of girls are on there for free attention. Had a girl flake on me this week, it sucked and I took a bruise to my ego. Just keep working on yourself.

Traveling is the new status symbol. Traveling somewhere and posting it on Instagram is what gives you status now a days. Traveling photos for me get the most likes, and likes show off status. So that also helps. A lot of people tell me I’m always traveling and I’m like wtf? I travel maybe once every 8-9 months after I save money for it. A couple days of vacation and I post it on Instagram and people think I’m living a lavish lifestyle. Meanwhile on a day to day basis I’m working my M-F job and am bored and just workout and play basketball for fun. Social media is just the highlight reel.

kushapedia · 2020-10-23T03:20:12+00:00

I have a main FWB that I see once or twice a week and spin a plate or two on the side here and there. It took me years of focusing on myself to get to this point. I am usually too busy focusing on my grind to fuck with girls everyday and add new girls to the pipeline but I know that I can get them when I want to. Confidence in yourself and your abilities is key. Don't stop shooting your shot and keep improving yourself and the results will come.

courtesy_flush_plz · 2020-10-23T00:24:46+00:00

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2020-10-23T00:48:56+00:00

I know the feeling but I’ll just say I’m 52 and still tearing ass up. The feeling that you’re missing out is not very accurate.

JaevonTheDon · 2020-10-23T02:42:31+00:00

not caring about bitches lol females should not take up that much of your head space

unamedasha · 2020-10-23T06:55:37+00:00

There's 4 types of guys

Virgins
Guys who can get sex only with a gf or rarely if they "get lucky"
Guys who are sexually successful and can easily find multiple ONS/plates/fwbs/etc
Guys who are extremely sexually successful and can basically get more pussy than they can handle due to their status/fame

You are probably type 2. TRP tries to teach you how to be type 3.

FleshPanda · 2020-10-23T06:20:29+00:00

Don't worry about this shit. Stay busy building yourself and knocking down goals and the rest will come. I promise.

luguxd · 2020-10-23T13:51:45+00:00

Im in this situation right now, after getting oneitis for a girl and dropping all plates i had before. Im thinking about going into monk mode for a while, because i understand that worrying about getting laid, or when is the next time i will get laid (a week? 2 weeks? a month?), or getting jealous about other people getting laid, is the way to not getting laid at all.

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2020-10-22T23:56:39+00:00

Can flip pua mode on/off like a fucking light switch. But honestly, not a whole lot right now for 3 reasons:

1)been through,observed,and in certain circumstances still have some VERY NEGATIVE incidents with females on a regular basis. I absolutely refuse to approach and pump their already entitled heads up,do tap dancing monkeys routine at the behest of some bitch(whose overall smv is usually lower than mine anyway) to deny/approve/or turn her nose up while she sits on her high horse, M'LADY.

2) they're fucked in the head,most are horrible ppl,and treat others whom they PERCEIVE to have lower smv in that moment like utter crap.

Ex: me in face mask:

gets ignored,avoided,rejected,attitude, argumentative, standoffishness,dodged like the plaque,not even acknowledged,silent treatment or ignored when trying to make small talk,nervous fakeass smile while walking away from you fast, and all manner of fuckery bc ya know they have to be disqualifying guys they PERCEIVE as lower smv from being "on their level".

Ex: me WITHOUT face mask:

gets hovered,choosing signals,muscles touched,shoulders rubbed,wide eyed smiles,flirted with,corny jokes laughed at anyway,free shit/free food given to me,favors done with/without asking,can smash 50% of girls in relationships at will.

Now, if I didn't have a stubbled out, well groomed, solid 7-8/10 movie actor face would I get the latter treatment, or still keep getting the former treatment? It's hard to get over THE SAME BITCH TREATING YOU COMPLETELY 180° JUST 5 MINS AGO...

..BEFORE SHE SAW YOU TAKEOFF YOUR FACE MASK. To get that treatment 80% of your day everyday will make any man with self worth not want to even be around bitches for awhile...even if he knew he had a magic "I'm actually as handsome/more handsome than your favorite movie actor" cheat code.

3) outside of work/business, a female has to actually do something to even motivate to put forth the energy/effort to even want to deal with them...unless I'm VERY horny. If I'm very horny though, hell I could go outside right now and probably find 2 females that'll suck/fuck within 1hr granted I doubt have a damn face mask on. Like I say everday, females treat you based on your height,visible wealth,known social status,looks, or what they think they can get from you. Your charisma and game aren't even considered/entertained by them unless they KNOW/SEE that you have one of the other factors FIRST.

Smdh

TXJohn83 · 2020-10-22T23:47:06+00:00

Why worry about n count? Do you think you get a magic medal or something?

Get to the gym and lift, get a better job, and get some nice clothing that fits well. But one of the first questions that girls ask after you have pasted the looks test is "what do you do for a living", this is being asked so that they can gauge how much cash you have.

When I work tinder and the apps I can pull down 2-3 ONS per week, and have six plates( with a few that have been around for a few years)

courtesy_flush_plz · 2020-10-23T06:17:28+00:00

your vocabulary isn't broad either, you're a high schooler

rektum_expander · 2020-10-23T07:25:12+00:00

Listen son, I was getting laid so often I lost track of who I was seeing that night. You really have to be good at juggling. Anyway, it came to the point where it exhausted me. Really. Sooner or later you just have to pull back on the throttle, if you’re lucky. Look for quality not quantity friend.

JameisBong · 2020-10-23T07:59:41+00:00

Bro, work out, travel and build a comfortable life for yourself, that's more important than notches.

The women will eventually come, just hang in there.

AshyBoneVR4 · 2020-10-23T08:09:46+00:00

Best comment I've seen in a long while.

Like everyone says OP, stop worrying about getting laid, and when you're going to get laid. It's not important. Focusing on bettering yourself and being comfortable in your own skin is what matters. Once you get that comfort level you'll start to radiate confidence which will attract other girls.

TrpKid2 · 2020-10-23T09:29:27+00:00

Hey bro you're 23. My advice for the day is try to not talk like a zoomer.

Tezcatlipoca1993 · 2020-10-23T09:49:08+00:00

I am in a similar situation. I was doing fine in terms of game pre-covid, had a dry spell of 6 months during first lockdown. Just had two dates with a girl once restaurants/bars reopened, just went second base though, then a month ago finally slept with a Brazilian girl. Nonetheless, lockdown was a great time to learn skills, read, excercise, be closer with my family, reevaluate my life project, etc.

Now it seems that a "second wave" is coming, so social life will be severely limited for the next months. Are any of you guys going monk mode again? Are you using online dating and/or gaming in general?

2020-10-23T12:33:12+00:00

I fluctuate a lot

Have had couple to a few month-long dry spells

Have fucked 12 girls in two months

Have averaged sex more than 10x per week with an LTR

Have had 3 plates. 0 plates. etc

Really just depends. Sometimes I have time, and sometimes shit is clicking--and sometimes I don't, or it is not. It's a constant cycle. It's not like once you're good with women suddenly you've made it and you'll never have a dry spell again--life is a constant cycle with fluctuations both positive and negative

Youngyoda89 · 2020-10-23T14:20:50+00:00

Well. I used to have your problem. But I don’t anymore. I don’t even know how to talk to women they just like me. But one thing thay will always kill your chances is overthinking.

Don’t see a fine ass girl and think- what is the PERFECT thing to say to her? Just go talk to her. Don’t hesitate. Don’t show fear or concern if at first she doesn’t like you.

Right now I’m just finished blowing a gram of test per week. It’s strange that a lot more women than usual are attracted to me. A lot of men also hate me until they see that I am no threat to them. It’s also increased my facial hair. For me personally, I do better with women when I let my beard grow.

Ukhupa · 2020-10-23T15:30:43+00:00

All due respect, man, it sounds like you don't have much going on right now that the only thing you can think of is how you're not having sex every day and that might be your real problem.

Fix that. If you're boring as a person you're not going to be getting many other women interested in you, if at all, anyway.

How often are heads actually getting laid

Why do you even care? Stop thinking about what others might be doing and focus on yourself.

YouAlright_Boah · 2020-10-23T17:05:54+00:00

how are you 2 years older than me and have had sex with 11 more people than me? You're so lucky man I wish I was you. No girl has ever liked me or seen me that way how are you doing it? is it magic?

sacred_koala · 2020-10-22T21:58:15+00:00

Same. I deleted dating apps as well cos Indian women are either too dumb or too entitled or toxic. Sometimes it's difficult to find good women when you're a man who knows his value and doesn't wanna waste time banging anyone.

Title	How often are heads actually getting laid
Author	alphaonthecomeup
Upvotes	49
Comments	105
Date	October 22, 2020 9:39 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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