Plate sent me "it's over" text, Questions

326695RS · 2016-10-08T13:10:09+00:00

Just reply "Cool. If that's what you want. Best of luck."

It shows you are not butt hurt. Don't reply "k." That just shows that you are pissed off.

There is a possibility that she is trying to guilt trip you to get commitment out of you. If that's not what you want, it's fine. There is a chance she might come back. Regardless, you move on.

scrodzilla · 2016-10-08T12:29:17+00:00

my anxiety and stuff

You want to recover this one?

darkvinc · 2016-10-08T17:12:18+00:00

Don't .... Just let her go

Option A : She's into / fucking somebody else Option B : She's getting the Slut talk from a friend

Most probably A just sayin'

Read up on abundance mentality and move on

Scurvemuch · 2016-10-08T13:07:49+00:00

She is "A" plate, correct? One of several?

Go into your plate cabinet and get another plate.

Why do you care so much?

JackBlaque · 2016-10-08T13:22:09+00:00

Let her go but don't burn the bridge. "Gotchu. It was fun." If she still has feelings for you there's a good chance she'll come back to you for some side D.

Archwinger · 2016-10-08T12:21:26+00:00

"k"

Maybe a 1 in 4 chance she hits you up again in a few months. Wrap your dick.

Notice how she's trying to reframe the story to where you want a relationship, but she's not in a good place for that. Women are funny.

ThatKassiusGuy · 2016-10-08T11:36:04+00:00

Best thing to do is just say okay. Move on, she night get in touch or try to talk about it to get your feelings on the matter but in these situations, what's the point...

inspiron3000 · 2016-10-08T13:21:56+00:00

She seems to think you are FWB and looking for LTR.

If you aren't, then you could possibly recover her as a plate since you both have the same attitude.
Chances are she has gone bored and found someone else to fuck. You are not committed to her so there's no loss, move on.

If she is testing you, silence and dread works best.

Willkuer_ · 2016-10-08T13:25:58+00:00

How much do you know your plate? How much of what she wrote is true? To get her back requires imo high level gaming. Something not worth for a plate or maybe a girl in general. Investing further into her sounds really bad.

I'd either write nothing as you just don't care or if you want split as 'friends'/in good terms because you want to plate her friends or fear her negative input on gaming I'd tell her I enjoyed the time and wish her luck for the future. The ladder only applies of your plate remotely shares the same social circle (e.g. university).

NICOLAWRITES · 2016-10-08T14:02:51+00:00

If she is plate to you then give her a short reply but keep it respectful so that you remain in frame. She is obviously looking for more than plate status, so I doubt she has another dude lined up after you. But regardless, this plate is done. Keep distance unless you want to LTR this one.

d1cey · 2016-10-08T15:04:25+00:00

Blah blah blah

"Whatever we are, it isn't what I want."

There you go. She managed to fit the truth in there somewhere.

The incel reddit talks about cope a lot. This whole message is just female cope. She's pretending that she's the one with the power in the relationship. She's pretending like she's an equal participant in whatever it is that you have going on. They love doing this, but you're the one in the power position.

twiceshunt · 2016-10-08T12:47:58+00:00

don't reply

lanky32 · 2016-10-08T12:07:04+00:00

Look, for one I think she has been respectful about breaking up. Her texts do not show a lack of respect for you.

My guess is that she is in a relationship with someone else and she is feeling guilty about cheating on him.

Now, You need to know what you want. If you want to end this on a good note, text her , 'Its ok, I understand', if you want to mind-fuck her and possibly fuck her at least one more time, don't reply.

PolishedIvory · 2016-10-08T15:07:24+00:00

A good response is:

"Oh, thank god; I was dreading having to send you the same text. Thanks for the great time."

jcromero · 2016-10-08T13:46:35+00:00

Here's my 2 cents:

Women hate, hate, hate the feeling of being abandoned (real or not). They require an immense amount of emotional/financial support to compensate for their lack of ability to be self-sufficient (a lack in physical strength). With that in mind you should always be skeptical when a woman breaks up with you. They're much needier than they lead on.

In western societies women tend to be taught that they're not supposed to be direct or aggressive. So how do women try to get what they want? Through manipulation, passive aggression, etc. A woman breaking up with a guy is trying to bully a guy into doing what she wants.

I've known both men and women who act like this. I've found them to be damaged, immature, and frustrating to deal with. Somehow in life they've learned that their bad behavior gets results and so they get really good at being annoying. Consider the situation when a kid "runs away" from home because their parents made them clean their room, eat their veggies, etc. Women "breaking up" with their guys are doing the same thing, except in an advanced form.

Tell women something like this: "That makes me sad. I spend time with you because I like you. But I can't give you a relationship. How I spend my time is my choice and I have a lot of things going on. If you want to be in my life then you need to respect that about me. I think you need some time to sort things out. I'll be in touch."

Give it about a week or two (whatever feels right for you). If you want her to be in your life then get in touch. If not then never text her back. If she is ok with being your plate (most women are) then she'll text you back.

deci-mator · 2016-10-08T14:16:07+00:00

"No worries" its calm and simple, default to an abundance mentality. Some plates have to break in order for you to spin others.

[deleted] · 2016-10-08T15:09:12+00:00

K, had a great run, hope you get better [about anxiety]

Classic cry for commitment, so dont get butthurt by a plate and spin in a new one

the-bum-hammer · 2016-10-08T15:56:06+00:00

And yet, after she starts dating Mr. Pussy, she'll be wanting to fuck you.

aprettycoolviking · 2016-10-08T16:01:36+00:00

"Alright babe 😘" is my standard response to these type of texts

RedPillFusion · 2016-10-08T16:17:03+00:00

"Right on"

oldslut · 2016-10-08T22:55:22+00:00

so far so good (from the update text reply, etc). now, go complete radio silence. i have a feeling, she will come back in the next few weeks. then decide what you want.

monetmanet · 2016-10-09T00:30:28+00:00

Well played mate. Next!

redpill33 · 2016-10-09T03:37:17+00:00

Why did you make this post? Pick up and move along. If she comes back, great, if not whatever, you don't care. Fuck.

Willow-girl · 2016-10-09T13:15:11+00:00

She's doing you a favor, actually. Apparently she's not all that into you (turned down a LTR) but she's not trying to keep you around as a beta orbiter, which would be nice for her but would suck for you. I'm not saying you should thank her for that (lol) but a clean break is to your advantage.

Don't take it personally -- sometimes chemistry is just one-sided and there isn't much you can do about it. Go out and meet other girls ... keep looking until you find one who IS into you and wants what you want. Good luck.

redditatt · 2016-10-10T17:15:48+00:00

don't ever push for a relationship with a girl.

No shit. You being a needy Beta is what pushed her away. All that stuff about her "needing to work on herself" is laughable bullshit. Translation: "I need an alpha to fuck me like a savage and then leave me alone for a week."

Thizzlebot · 2016-10-08T18:28:45+00:00

I would just say "OK cool, thanks for being honest" and then no more contact. Chicks really appreciate you not freaking out or being a little bitch about it (which a lot of guys do).

Title	Plate sent me "it's over" text, Questions
Author	d1cey
Upvotes	19
Comments	87
Date	October 8, 2016 11:32 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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