Urgent-GF cheated on me

Stayinghereforreal · 2015-01-25T23:24:47+00:00

Go hang out with your old man or your closest sibling. Tell them what is up, and ask them for advice on keeping it cool and steady for the break-up. Talk it through, so you have a chance to process things. Your goal is to feel better about it, so purge your anger if you need to. Then promise yourself to get a little less angry about it every day from now on. Keep that promise.

Don't do the break up in person. Just text her "It is over. Your stuff is in a box and in the mail to your parent's house. Never contact me again. Never call me. Do not visit me. You know why." Stick to that. Block her calls, texts, and all social media.

No need for a big dramatic moment. Don't give her any opportunity to turn this back on you or for things to go bad. Just eject her from your life in the safest way you can, for you.

Never explain to anyone except your dad/sibling why you did it. Just say, "Ask her. She knows perfectly well why, and if she is pretending otherwise, she is lying to you." Say nothing more. Inform any friend who tries to mediate or speak on her behalf, that they can drop it or they can watch you walk away. You are not discussing it with them.

If she tries to see you in person, tell her to get away from you, never come back, or you will get a restraining order.

That is how you ice someone out.

FrameWalker · 2015-01-26T05:26:24+00:00

Tyler I know this is a difficult time for you. I want you to take a step back and review your past TRP submissions. They are all complaints about your LTR clubbing and such.

partner went out clubbing with her friends last night. (I know some of you feel clubbing is a dealbreaker but whatever It doesnt bother me)

The evidence was on the wall. This was a great plate you forced into a LTR or you submitted to her girl game. Next time be much more careful who you LTR and be quicker to downgrade before oneitis gets you cuckolded.

Lumberjack1234 · 2015-01-26T15:12:41+00:00

And here, my friends, we have the typical beta. The guy whose girlfriend you fuck, then shake his hand and smile. When you meet people like OP you might think "he is not a bad guy, I should not bang his girl". Well, think again. This guy is asking for it.

"Why so aggressive?" you might ask. "He just got cheated by his LTR", "Give him a break, he is going trough tough shit", "It's hard finding out you have been cheated on".

Do not think such things. Instead look at OP and laugh. Laugh at the beta that was cheated on and then he throws a tantrum like a little girl in the supermarket.

He says he is angry? Does he deserve to be angry when his own actions brought him this problem? No, he does not. "It's /asktrp, the guy just wants to learn". Does he deserve any advice? No, he does not deserve it. All he deserves is mockery and ridicule so one day he will change his pathetic ways.

Now let's look at the history of OP with his ltr:

1) GF has ceased communicating with me. What do? (7 months ago)

First response is:

Don't bother sending her another text. Go with your original plans. She never got back to you about hanging out with her, so you figured she was busy and had other plans. Btw, she's not your girlfriend.

OP then goes on arguing that she is in fact his GF and we found out later that her phone was broken (riiiight). All is well.

2) LTR went out clubbing last night, tried to make me jealous (6 months ago)

In short, she went to club alone and sent OP a snapchat with a picture of another dude.

One of the top responses is:

Why are you in an LTR with a girl like this? Girls who club without their bfs aren't worth being in an LTR with."

But of course our dear beta knows better so he responds with:

I go out all the time and find it hypocritical to forbid my gf not to go out. She goes out rarely enough and I have oodles of abundance mentality so it doesn't bother me when she does. It does however bother me when she resorts to childish tactics such as snapping a random dude at 4.30am to make me jealous. This makes me reconsider being committed to her.

3) Gf uploaded slooty photos on fb (5 months ago)

The photos are of her sitting on the shoulders of some huge ripped guy who has no tshirt on.

The first respone is

She's not your GF, and if she is, she shouldn't be.(...) Then cancel tomorrow's meeting, minimize on "BF/GF" activities and start seeing her mostly for, if not only for, sex. If she withholds sex, freeze her out - it doesn't sound like she has much else to offer. If she asks what's wrong, say nothing. Meanwhile, fuck whatever other girls you want and look for one that's (actually) viable for an LTR.

Solid advice, right? Well, OP thought he knew better.

4) LTR disrespected the fuck out of me (5 months ago)

My gf was texting me some shit earlier today and I said something humerous making her send this text to me: "Hahaha you have cheered me up, I am in the most foul mood ever and you have made me smile" I replied "What can I say, I got skills. What's the matter anyways?" She then replied saying "Oh please, don't act like you're interested. I'm just having one of those days, ya know. Also I'm heading to a funky new nightclub tonight and I'm not feeling very up for it".

OP was feeling very angry that his GF told him to not pretend like he cares. Not the slightest problem with the fact that she goes clubbing without him again and again

One of the responses to this is:

"I feel so shitty but I want to go clubbing tonight." Riiiiight, best left as plate.

5) Gf wants to break up because I flirt with other girls (3 months ago)

This one is good. OP was chatting with another girl. Other girl meets with GF and shows her the texts. The texts were nothing outrageous, just chatting. GF calls OP crying, telling him she can't trust him and will inform him what she will do about the relationship. OP asks what he can do to keep her. After going clubbing without him all the time and getting pictures on ripped dudes shoulders!

There is a long good advice made for a poster here that ends with:

EDIT: After being directed to your recent posts I'm going to have to retract my advice. Break up with her or at the very least downgrade to plate status. Do it subtly. Go try out the girl you've been flirting with. Now we know you're actively seeking the attention of other women for the simple fact that your shit girlfriend doesn't respect you and gets attention from other men besides you to begin with. You're just mirroring her actions.

Conclusion

Do not pity OP, do not offer him advice, do not try to help him. He was here for months, wasting your time, receiving very good advice. Yet he ignored it all. He had access to knowledge that normal men get trough much pain to get from experience.

Instead laugh at him. Mock him. The loser who was cheated on. He deserves no respect.

Cryocasm · 2015-01-26T00:20:51+00:00

Put her shit in garbage bags and boxes.

Tell her 48 hours until she can move out.

No mercy.

It fucking sucks, but you gotta play it right. This is a toxic person you don't need in your life.

DO NOT get in an argument. Be the rock. Do not move. You have made the choice to cut this bitch off, you must stick with it. Let her live through her crazy fit if she has one, do not be moved by it. Tell her to hurry up and gtfo.

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falafin · 2015-01-25T23:38:54+00:00

is it normal for trp guys to go through their gf's/wife's phone?

I've read somwhere here that you shouldnt trust a woman. Well, so should you do it regularly or only when she's acting weird and you're suspicious ??

mismm · 2015-01-26T00:01:08+00:00

If I were you, I would just vanish from her life. I wouldn't even tell her why. I wouldn't say/text a word. Block her number and all social media. Simply disappear.

Whatever you do, do not ask why. Do no ask when. It doesn't matter. The only way to save your dignity is through ice-cold silence.

orchidwaterfall · 2015-01-26T12:18:57+00:00

Can we not use the word manlet please. It's demeaning to the shorter guys and makes you sound like a neckbeard. (And in case you're interested I'm 6'1)

SoundsLegitButWrong · 2015-01-26T00:54:19+00:00

She wrong you, just call it off. Tell her you know she cheated, it can be phone or text. Move on.

Dont worry about what she did, what is done is done.

frazzleddd · Mon Jan 26 4:53:30 2015 UTC

~~Not your fault on this one bud.~~ Women who work at bars are notorious for cheating. Lots of alcohol, male attention and they're usually attractive. Combine this with an environment that people go to for easy lays and its basically a cocktail for cheating.

What the other guys in the thread have said. No contact besides the text and hangout with a bro or family member who gets it. Shit sucks but it'll end

pewpewing · 2015-01-26T05:13:19+00:00

North Carolina.

The fact that he's a non lifting manlet will make you look back and laugh someday.

CptStelios · 2015-01-26T13:06:19+00:00

You don´t share a place with her? Downgrade her to a plate...Start using protection and tell her to gtfo after sex. No cuddling, no attention, no dates...next her when your busy schedule doesn´t allow you to bang her anymore.

masterrod · 2015-01-26T17:15:30+00:00

Just call her up and break up with her, and don't tell her why.

I went through her phone, discovered texts from a guy she works with (works in a bar), texts showed that the had hooked up at a staff party once (that I know of).

So you thought something was going on then you wait till you had an opportunity to look through her phone?

. Also I don't know why it makes me angrier but I found the guy on facebook and he's a 5'7 manlet who doesn't lift and is average looking. I'm at a total loss as to why she went for him. Dont know whether to cry or to laugh

There could be a 100 reasons. Doesn't matter though. If she was committed with you for a while cheating can simply mean she feels powerless and doesn't know what to do. If it were a short relationship there could be any number of reasons.

rexzy · 2015-01-26T04:35:51+00:00

Your doing Awsome. Full control of situation. Let what ever happens next trickle down. Keep your emotions under control.

Reddthrown · 2015-01-26T09:32:22+00:00

Just dump her. It does not matter how - just do it, and soon.

hopeyougood · 2015-01-26T12:31:09+00:00

There is no rational behind it, non that makes sense. And trying to make sense of a crazy persons actions will only make YOU go crazy. Its a horrible shitty situation to be in. But at least you know and don't have to waste anymore valuable time and energy. All in all, try to keep your head up.

flatox · 2015-01-26T14:01:37+00:00

Good job on not letting your emotions run off with you.

bsutansalt · 2015-01-26T16:17:53+00:00

Have one more good hard & dirty fuck, then dump her immediately after.

ConfidenceMatters · 2015-01-26T01:44:08+00:00

Say nothing. Cut off all contact, I don't care if she is a 10.

Move on, read up on the side bar as much as you can and apply your new knowledge on charming sexy women.

This is literally the only thing that needs to be done here.

And obviously, do not make sluts your girlfriend.

Good luck

skylineboulevard · 2015-01-26T22:35:06+00:00

You: "We're done."

Her: "What why???"

You: "You know why."

MullingMulianto · 2015-01-26T14:40:03+00:00

What the hell is it with the manlets? My friend got cheated on and his chick's choice of sides was some 5'7 phaggot

And my ex is currently hanging out with some 5'5 fatass. Dafuq nigga?

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sexwithnerd · 2015-01-26T05:27:28+00:00

She already nexted you. Maybe you need to step up your dick game because if she cheated you're obviously garbage.

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NullCorp · 2015-01-26T06:48:25+00:00

You shouldn't be going through her phone, and you shouldn't care either way.

Title	Urgent-GF cheated on me
Author	tylerdurden100
Upvotes	32
Comments	76
Date	January 25, 2015 10:48 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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