Why do girls do this?

bouncebby · 2018-11-27T05:05:48+00:00

This is typical of low investment.

Bottom line. If a girl is interested, you'd get a quicker, more definite response.

I'd leave this one and find someone better to spend time with.

gregoire_ · 2018-11-27T03:09:01+00:00

She’s ignoring the question but wants you to keep giving her attention. I normally just leave them on read until she answers, but it’s often a downhill road from there.

ELFuhler · 2018-11-27T06:10:02+00:00

Yo she clearly read that text.

Smubii · 2018-11-27T09:07:33+00:00

Forget everyone else's answer.

Do not ask her if you're still on. This puts the ball in her court. Literally 2 hours before you can say, see you at X.

That's it. And if she was really interested, she'd be texting YOU to confirm.
She'd do it for Channing Tatum.

Solic · 2018-11-27T09:01:00+00:00

If a girl is interested in you it literally doesnt matter what shes doing she will want to hang out with you. Girls usually want to behave nice and when they say something like this take it as not interested in you or hanging out with you. Not much you can do there apart from moving on or improving yourself.

HurricaneHugues · 2018-11-27T04:41:26+00:00

Ignore until she answers

Terdmuffin · 2018-11-27T03:10:45+00:00

Hey we're still on for tomorrow right?

Vs

I'll see.you tomorrow at 7

wawakaka · 2018-11-27T03:11:17+00:00

ADHD. women have a million things going on at once.

you error is you asked her question that required her to think...bad move.

next time just say see you tomorrow at such and such time.

raadim · 2018-11-27T09:42:46+00:00

She has rejected you

Read Rollo Tommasi and his "Medium is the message"

SjekkieTime · 2018-11-27T08:08:07+00:00

Theres is nothing wrong with late responses. Some girls actually do stuff instead of being on their phone 24/7.

But if just 'haha just read this!' is her answer, and nothing else, shes not interested

person8445 · 2018-11-27T10:22:58+00:00

Ignore her. Do something else. If she gets back to you tell her you made other plans.

creating_my_life · 2018-11-27T05:48:39+00:00

Look around at girls. Do you see how they all have their phones stapled to the inside of their eyelids? THERE IS NO GIRL THAT DOESN'T IMMEDIATELY SEE EVERY TEXT.

The context IS the message. This is why TRP says "ignore what she says, watch what she does."

Do you know why it's universal behavior? Because you're not an attractive, high-value man. All women have bucketed you into being an orbiter because you're not high-value. They know this. You've just never seen how women treat a high-value man and don't know any different.

Da_RectumWrecker · 2018-11-27T19:14:55+00:00

I do this to a girl that I want to keep on the back burner. She asked me if I want to meet up tomorrow and I told her "idk". Last week she asked me to come over and I just didnt respond for a while, then i sent a text saying "i just saw this, i never check my phone".

I was out with my wingman three nights ago and we were hanging with a couple Australian chicks. My buddy was getting along great with the girl he chose. The girl I was with was resisting kino, but still acting interested in interacting with me. Come to find out the chick I chose is in a relationship with another girl! I wanted to get out of the situation so as soon as my buddy got his logistics straight I called up backburner chick and ubered to her place. This is the position you are probably in if a girl is behaving like I am.

You dont have time for girls that arent enthusiastically coming at you. Keep approaching and you will find a few. I guarantee that the chick that's giving you a "meh" response is definitely being enthusiastic to another dude who is blowing her off.

RaughKee · 2018-11-27T16:21:05+00:00

She has other options and is waiting for the better ones to hit her up, if they do she's busy, if they don't she's free. Don't worry about it, your goal is to maximize the interaction the next time you see her to make you the number one option. You need to have other options yourself so that when she flakes you go down the list.

Rabb1tH3ad · 2018-11-27T09:09:21+00:00

They want you to ask again because they like to play games.

Or they don't want to go with you and don't have the balls to be direct.

Source: am woman

Ricklogical · 2018-11-27T14:17:25+00:00

Answer the question Claire

chazthundergut · 2018-11-27T16:53:14+00:00

Because they are drowning in options.

Change your tactics. Next time, set the date a few days in advance at the most. Tell her: "I will find us a place and text you the address"

Then you can text her the day of (push it to as late as possible) in a way that seems very non needy.

You will still get flakes. But this has yielded the fewest flakes for me.

koedeloe · 2018-11-27T21:49:13+00:00

Been there.. I just lose interest myself at that point and move on to another girl

DatingTank · 2018-11-27T13:38:49+00:00

We can speculate and theorize for years about anyone's reason for doing anything. It's not important and not that interesting really. Except those cases where other's actions are feedback on yourself, like, if no one wants to hang out with you ever, maybe you're lame, stuff like that.

Have something else going on in your life, så that if a date flakes, you just go do your thing instead. Perfect opportunity to go out and approach for instance, since you're already in some nice clothes and in an extroverted mindset. Date flakes? Be talking to a new woman 15 min later. Always be refilling the pipeline anyway.

Confirm time and placee 2 hours earlier, like you would most other appointments, and then get on with the date or your life.

Datanami · 2018-11-27T13:44:18+00:00

You should do the same to women

YslJames · 2018-11-27T16:41:12+00:00

They will only confirm with men they have high interest in.

KinkysMT · 2018-11-27T17:02:45+00:00

Why do you ask her? I never do that. Make a statement instead. Like: tomorrow 8pm at X Or: I'll be late, meet at 8:15

Don't give them the choice to decide about the date. Assume they are gonna come.

It's your frame, not hers.

SalporinRP · 2018-11-27T17:15:50+00:00

Unless the girl can prove she dropped her phone in a river or got ran over by a bus so she was in a coma always assume she read it when you sent it.

Have you seen how much girls look at their phone in a single minute much less 3-4 hours?

DatingTank · 2018-11-27T17:59:10+00:00

Also. If this is universal behavior, then realize that it's not universal. It's you. As you become more attractive to women, you will see women investing a lot more and start chasing you

ArdAtak · 2018-11-27T23:03:53+00:00

Yeah. Just ask again.

Nothing wrong with "You didn't answer my question." If she keeps playing coy, soft next her.

Gravel_Roads · 2018-11-27T11:58:17+00:00

Dude, I sometimes take days to respond to a text, I hate texting. She already said "Yes", why are you still asking her if she still wants to go out with you?

HumptyDumptyFellHard · 2018-11-27T03:48:39+00:00

Reply with the same text again.

Title	Why do girls do this?
Author	BrowDawg
Upvotes	53
Comments	73
Date	November 27, 2018 3:03 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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