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  • Lifestyle is the foundation that supports all your cool pickup skills (approaching, attraction, framing, etc.). With an attractive lifestyle, you can get away with more "mistakes." Guys who have terrible lifestyles can still be great with women - but they have much, much less room for error. Lifestyle isn't enough by itself, but it sure makes everything else easier.

  • Lifestyle begins at home. Your living situation says SO much about you to a woman, and it's not something you can avoid. If you want to date her or have sex with her, she's probably going to see where you live. It's not about having the fancy address or the luxury mansion. Use your living space to tell her a story about yourself and hint that there's more to come. Use your home to show your identity. Did you and her bond over travel stories? Have pictures or objects from your travels kicking around. Each should have a story behind it...but only if she asks. Did you say you are passionate about cooking? Don't have an empty fridge. Everything that applies to fashion also applies to your home. She's going to assume that everything about how you look and how you live is a deliberate choice that you made. How she feels about these choices leads right in to how she feels about you. Being true to an attractive identity is more important than fancy furniture or how big your mortgage is.

  • You are who you spend time with. OK, that's not literally true, but it's true enough for a woman who might date you. Are your friends boring and unexciting? Are they all party animals? Is your TV your best friend, or do you have an interesting life? For a woman, dating you means being part of your world. So introduce her to people and have friends who help you create a lifestyle that she wants to be part of.

  • Be more social and outgoing - every day. Force yourself to meet one new person or have one social conversation you wouldn't normally have. For one thing, practice and experience always pay off. Social masters put themselves in social situations all the time. Experience, experience, experience helps you become the person who intuitively knows "the right thing to say" in any situation.

  • If you want to date more than one woman at a time, your lifestyle has to "fit." A woman is much more likely to accept you dating multiple women if you have a lifestyle that "fits." If you have the kind of life where you are outgoing, constantly meeting new people, and very social, a woman is much more likely to accept you having multiple relationships than if she sees you as someone who stays in every night on your computer.

  • Passion conquers all. We all know or have heard of the guy who lives in his friend's basement but brings home attractive women any time he wants. To do this, you have to have great skills with women. But even then, for a lot of these guys their lifestyle is not as bad as it looks. If you're following your passion and your dream (going for your PhD, making it as a musician, artist, or writer), going back to school, etc - then your lifestyle can fit and be attractive - even if you're in the basement. In other words, do not confuse lifestyle with wealth. They are not at all the same thing.

  • Your job is not an excuse. Some jobs can be lifestyle killers. Whether you're working a million hours per week, busy every evening, weekend and holiday, your time is never your own, or if you have to live somewhere you don't want - these are real lifestyle problems. Unless it's part of your identity and passion (e.g., endless shifts at the hospital could be worth it if you're on your way to being a doctor and love medicine), fix this. There are other jobs. Even in this economy. Ironically, a lot of guys in these 75-hour workweeks got into these careers because they wanted a better lifestyle. Do above-average pay, expensive clothes, and nice cars make you more attractive to women? All things being equal, sure. But 9 times out of 10, a woman is going to be more interested in the guy with interesting friends, experiences, and time and passion to pursue them over the banking drone who hates his job but can afford fancy restaurants. It's your life. If you don't like something, change it. No one else will change it for you.

  • Lifestyle without pickup is boring or worse. I said at the beginning of this that lifestyle is the foundation. The thing about a foundation is you have to build on it. Or else it's just a boring foundation. Pickup is what lets you convey your lifestyle and personality to beautiful women in a way that is attractive and interesting to her. Even if you've never met her before, even if she's the most standoffish "10" beauty queen in the world, etc. Without that, most guys turn women off by being boring... they don't know the triggers and attraction switches to engage her emotionally, to keep that push/pull dynamic going, to make her qualify herself, and so on. Or, worse, they try to force their lifestyle down her throat and come as insecure and bragging. Since I started Love Systems, I've worked with hundreds of multi-millionaire business owners, B-list celebrities, and people who lead amazing lives. And it can be unbelievably frustrating for these guys because they know that if most women got to know them, they'd be attracted. But breaking through her defenses, her social conditioning, her automatic behavior and responses, etc., can be a challenge. That's where pickup skills come in.

  • Showing is better than telling. If you have to tell, make her ask. Your lifestyle is something that exists in reality. So don't just talk about it, let her experience it. So if you have cool friends, introduce her to them. If you've got access to cool events, take her to them. And so on. Don't talk about something you could just as easily do. Sometimes you don't have this option - like when you're first meeting her. If there's something you really want her to know about you, it's often most effective to bait her into asking you about it. If I were a great salsa dancer, I might tell her a story about my friend Joe who I met at a dance show. The story would be short and having nothing to do with dance. But she's likely to wonder what a dance show is. I'd answer "oh, I'm a salsa dancer. Do you dance?" Now I've got two balls in the air. One is that she's going to want to know more about me being a salsa dancer. The other is that my question to her can either lead into some Qualification or Comfort-building depending on which direction I want to take it.

  • Take action - now.