I know you guys heard the title 610 cold approaches a lot lately but people requested a personal post that doesn't focus on generic attraction lessons but the journey itself.

So I tried to focus on milestones, hard times and how I dealt with the best and worst.

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#First approach is always the hardest This is still my daily challenge, after working 8-9 hours in a desk, going out there and approaching my first set is the hardest part of the day or week. I don't really know how I do it, most of the time after finding a couple of excuses, I tell my self “really? you are finding bullshit excuses?” Just do it!
I have done this X many times, I can do it one more time… once I start walking towards to my target, my heart pounds and no matter what I say I feel the thrill and adrenaline bump which makes me feel good afterwards. Later I usually tell myself “See it wasn't that bad” . Usually after 2-3 approaches I am in a talkative state and it is on after that point. Usually on my 4th or 5th set of the day I get really good responses, like n-closes etc…

 

#First milestone My first 35 approaches were literally open then eject. I don't remember getting any numbers when I first started, it was mostly 2-3 mins of chit-chat with group of girls. Then around 35th set I met this cool blonde chick whom I isolated immediately. She was in a large group and wanted to chat with me in the patio. After like 20-30 mins of chat, her friends came by and she told them she wants to stay here little bit more, they can go ahead she will find them later. Then we went back inside to the dance floor and first kiss close of the journey, then grinding. But she was in town for only that weekend and my friend from NYC was staying in my small apartment so I couldn’t bring her back home, but that was a big boost for my confidence seeing that it is possible.

 

#No fap for 57 days After seeing good results on my first 30 day no-fap challenge, I decided to start over and not to masturbate until I get laid, no matter how long it takes. After around 25-30 days of no fap, I really forgot about masturbation, I had enough energy to do anything.

 

#First Lay - missed threesome opportunity I was doing the same thing over and over again, open then eject, this lay was pure luck of just keep opening, around my 80th approach I have seen two women in a club, early 30s, dancing in the dance floor and a dude trying to grind one of them, I took the other one, isolated her she was trying touch my cock and she told me to pin her down and fuck her brains out, I immediately got a boner. First I thought she was trolling me, then she started kissing my neck and putting my hand to her thigh, then I told her lets go to my place now.
After being on nofap for 57 days, I fucked her brains out for hours, Although first I did cum like in 3 seconds I was still hard. I did cum like 4 times to her face/mouth that night, she was down for anything because I was leading and fucking her good, ass to mouth, massage oil, deep throat, anything… next day she was having trouble to walk because of anal.
Two days later she called me and told me her other friend that I saw in the club also wants to play, She must have told her how good I fucked her. I was sooooo excited to have a three-some with them, when they came over to my place things changed. Other one was too experienced to comparing to the one I fucked. She was teasing me playfully and making sexual jokes. We started drinking wine, she was a recent divorcee and she was incredibly fit 35 years old with fake tits who was trying ride cock carousal again. Fake tits was still down but my girl started get cranky because I couldnt lead immediately and she told me it is better if I call a friend over to fuck the Fake tits and we can have 1 on 1 with her, she never done threesome with her friend and this is not the best time to try. Fake tits started go thru of the photos of my friends, and decided to fuck one of them. My lucky bastard friend came over and fucked the fake tits in other room, while I was fucking my girl in my room…

 

#Friends who bring you down are not worth it A friend of mine who is not into seduction was kinda bringing me down and laughing/smiling whenever I got rejected. This type of friends are selfish and insecure, if your friends mocking you while they dont approach anyone, that means they are insecure egoist bastards. If one can not understand the concept of being rejected, If he cant understand rejection is okay because it is nothing personal he shouldn’t be around while you are approaching, he will drag you down…. Also my friends were not cooperating about the venue choices, we were going to a venue of the group’s choice and stay there for hours, which was not good because after a while rotations slows down, similar faces, when getting rejected other people can see it etc..

 

#Series of successes I was still going out my friends but leaving them in one venue and bouncing other bars solo. I think in that period of time I was starting get continues success, because I was opening more sets a night, I was bouncing a lot, one problem with staying in one place is that if you get rejected other women see that and when you approach to them they shut you down, especially in small venues, but when the venue is big and crowded, or when you are bouncing a lot you are eliminating that risk. So from sets 80 to 120 I was really successful, because of my clever venue and timing choices.

 

#Demographics Again choosing the right venues or spots increased my success ratio, moving from traditional american bars to high end places increased my success, there are a lot of foreign girls(mostly european) in those type of places thats one reason, second I was improving and learning from my mistakes, third competition is not too high, because most man are either dont wanna be seeing try hard or basically pussies who cant approach.

 

#Mediocre Game, hit or miss Until my 250th set it was hit or miss. I was getting laid every other 20 approach or so. In the bars and clubs I was either getting incredibly good results or I was ejecting immediately. Then on youtube I have encountered sasha daygame and daygame.com and james marshall etc… This guys were being direct on the street, stopping walking sets and getting numbers, Seeing Yad ,who is pretty ugly dude - no offense Yad- n-closing models on the street without any routines what not, blew my mind, and I decided to daygame on weekends.

 

#Daygame figuring stuff out Daygame definitely helped to improve myself, becoming, direct bold and caring less, my results in terms of n-close ratio was also high. My confident boosted, it affected my night game too, I started using less routines and canned stuff.

 

#Hardest Times After started doing daygame around(250ish set) next 100 sets or so I was too outcome focused, I was getting tons of phone numbers but I was not getting laid from those numbers. Also going out every weekend to the same spots coming back home alone, I started get depressed again, this time purely because I was focused on outcome. I was also dating with girls I have met thru this journey. One day after a german girl I was kinda dating dumped me, I didnt wanna go out, then just before midnight I told myself, come on dude , you never know , just go out and enjoy. That night I met an amazing woman whom I had 5-6 months relationship and due to some other factors we had to break up but It was an amazing experience in my life. I guess to be able to say “Fuck it” and without caring about the outcome, going out there and enjoy the process is the best way to get thru hardtimes.

 

#Worst set there is a lot of it, literally tens of it maybe even more than 100, while doing day game there is a lot of women who dont stop to talk with me, or just say no and walk away etc… this still happens a lot to me. I just don’t care about it anymore. The worst one that I can recall was that one day set I did “Yad Stop” she laughed at me loud and sarcastically and walked away, that was really weird…
In bar or clubs, there were a lot of times that sets I have approached didnt understand what I was talking about due to combination of my accent and loud music, or they are basically in a bad mood, or place is a sausage fest and every other dude is approaching them it is hard to stand out, list goes on and on… I just dont take rejection personally. The worst one I can recall was that a girl acted like I didnt exists because I tried to talked to her from the side next to bar, It was a loud club, I repeated myself like 3 times, she didnt acknowledge it, I went up to talk to someone else immediately, because her behavior did hurt me like a motherfucker.

 

#Best sets Best night set: One day I went out solo to a bar that is close to my place, getting drinks at the bar, I kinda listened convo of the couple next to me, it sounded like they were on a first date , and the guy was literally interviewing her. Then guy goes to restroom like 2 mins later, I was still waiting for my drink, I turned and made a joke about either he was a blind date or a tinder date, turns out it was a tinder and she was not enjoying the night, I made a joke that she should ditch him and have a blast with me tonight. I jokingly said I’d promise to find all the people who are having a tinder date tonight in the bar and telling them we finally find you guys, now we can have a foursome. We can watch their reactions. It was a weak joke but it made her laugh, then her date came back. I left the bar, opened a couple of other sets some of them hooked what not, after like 20 mins later just before I leave, I see that girl from earlier tinder date was wandering alone, when she saw me she waved her hand and came to talk to me, after a short chit-chat we bounced to another bar together where she encounter her close friends. I had to talk to her friends like 5 mins then I suggested her to bounce, she came with me, I played a scavenger hunt with her in the bar. Then invited her to back to my place. Turns out she was a squirter who loves deep throat. That was my first squirter and I had one of the best sex in my life, every time after I cum her face she was whispering that how bad she wants to swallow more of my cum and giving me a massage to relax then giving me another blowjob and licking my balls etc… she was really easy to please as well, almost every-time I penetrated her little bit hard she was shaking like crazy, moaning loud and having an orgasm, seeing her like that making me hornier… This set was the best because it rewarded me in too many ways: going out solo, talking people next to you around the bar, being friendly, convincing a girl who was on a date to bouncing another place, being friendly to obstacles(her friends), same night lay, amazing sex…

 

Best day set:
Walking around east village in NYC, I saw this tall blonde incredibly hot girl, she was little bit over 6 foot, wearing a black stripped white dress showing her long legs and deep cleavage on top, my friend thought she must be a model and he literally pushed me to the set, she was walking really fast and had a poker face. I stopped her, told her I think she looks nice, I had to come and say hi, she was surprised then turned out she was incredibly friendly. My friend was right, she was a model. She was visiting the city, so I was. She didnt know anyone but other models. She kept talking about modeling, but I had this unimpressed, questioning face, even though my heart was beating so fast and I was excited inside, I tried to keep cool and teased her about nothing going on her life besides modeling, she was letting modeling define her, I jokingly said I though there were more to her than “modeling”, she immediately started qualifying herself, she is not one of coke-head party girl type models, she use modeling to travel the world and run her food and travel blog on the side, how she is a record nerd and love good music, educating herself to become a food guru etc… after like 7-8 mins of conversation I was not sure about instant date I honestly dindt wanna get rejected because she might said she was busy but I told her I am taking her out tonight, hand my phone to her to enter her number. These are her words “You, sir, have huge balls. I really like confident guys, I’d love to have a drink with you.” Walking away from her with her number in my phone I was on top of the world. That feeling was enough to believe me to continue what I am doing. Well same night I was leaving NYC so I couldn’t meet up with her and she was from Sydney so never seen her again.

 

#Comparing my first sets to my most recent sets Over time time there was incredible developments in terms of my inner game, my confidence is boosted, I dont take rejections personally. My body language changed a lot, strong eye contact, I am way more aware of what I am doing and how she is receiving what I said to her, so I guess it could be called self-awareness. I am much more confident to take the lead in any situation. They get the vibe of that I am really good at sex too. So lets say when I first begun this journey when a woman was interested in me, chances to take it further with her was 10%-20% , now it is 70%-75%.

 

When I first started doing this, I would sweat a lot, I would not keep the eye contact, eye would nervously smile a lot, sometimes even I would get a blush. I would wait her to like me and show me stronger IOIs, I would be less confident to make the next move etc…

 

Now I make strong eye contact, I smile only when I first approach and if there is something funny, seriously it took me 500 approaches to realize I am smiling too much during the interactions.

 

In terms of what I say to my target changed a lot too, I used to use only canned stuff and it would throw me off a lot, because other people might used canned stuff on them, they would give an unpredictable answers etc.. Now I just follow a pattern, like Approach,tease,connect and close. Like more or less standard blueprint of seduction. Difference is I make a lot of assumptions and teases.

 

I am becoming a better man everyday and getting closer to my goal of being “that guy” -a strong, high status, attractive exterior (lifestyle and looks), fearless, and able to open up and share your vulnerable side with her (and theoretically, only her). Basically strong, bad boy who doesn’t really care and have abundance of options share his vulnerability with her and she thinks she accomplished something really important. During the process she gets small rewards (admitting she is the only one made him feel like that for a long time, introducing her to your parents) , it makes her to work harder for the goal…-

 

I hope this answer a lot of questions, I know most of the guys relates to me, because their journey is similar to mine… so you guys dont hesitate to ask me anything, not sure if this was the type of post you guys were expecting.