A Thought Experiment to Gauge Your Skill with Women

AimlessArrow · 2011-01-05T20:32:59+00:00

Very valid points, however it sounds easy on reddit but is much harder when that face and body are near you. Your brain is hardwired to immediately value an attractive woman. It takes a lot of experience and inner confidence to treat an extremely attractive woman as only potentially interesting.

CuilRunnings · 2011-01-05T21:55:00+00:00

In other words, men who feel premature emotional interest are virtually guaranteed to fail.

Biggest point of the article. I discovered this myself over the years, but I probably would have developed more quickly if I had read this article.

VernacularJazzyGeoff · 2011-01-05T18:32:37+00:00

Society also tells us that men who are looking only for sex are dogs and women should stay away. So the men who don't want to be put into this category overcompensate and try to build an emotional connection before a sexual one.

For an AFC, the thought of a purely sexual interest is daunting because they probably don't consider themselves to be sexual. So they think some kind of emotional connection might bridge the gap.

side2 · 2011-01-05T20:19:04+00:00

lets consider the woman who meets a guy and immediately says "I'm going to marry that man." Cute in a romantic movie, creepy in real life.

Lucas_Steinwalker · 2011-01-05T20:22:56+00:00

This is the best thing I have read on seddit. Thanks.

VernacularJazzyGeoff · 2011-01-05T20:55:38+00:00

This article called me out on so many levels. Thank you for this. Some of these things I was more or less aware of but when I say it in my own head it sounds like a conspiracy theory. It is abundantly affirming to see other people see these too and put it into much better words than I have been. Mind = blown... Simply awesome.

am_i_punk_yet · 2011-01-05T20:45:11+00:00

Spot on, have my upvote. It's also a good foundation to move away from the King Leer approach to that of the healthy, let's find out if she's fun and bugger all if it doesn't go well method.

LilJimmyNordin · 2011-01-06T07:33:20+00:00

Sorry, what were we talking about? Every time I hear "Gauge" I get a hard-on and lose focus.

atrigent · 2011-01-05T21:28:58+00:00

I'd argue that even sexual attraction isn't just appearance. What if she's the prudish/waiting-for-marriage type?

side2 · 2011-01-05T22:47:30+00:00

This is a wonderful article. If only more would read this.

Enthusizer · 2011-01-06T00:27:16+00:00

I've noticed that not being outcome dependent helped my game out a lot.

This article is the inner game equivalent of not being outcome dependent in your outer game.

Kalopsic · 2011-01-06T02:44:09+00:00

I said "Two days." Is that good or bad?

ArBair · 2011-01-07T17:54:41+00:00

Thanks for the share. As an AFC looking to be an aspiring PUA, this article might be the most important I have read. By far.

rabblerabbler · 2011-01-06T00:51:43+00:00

That article quickly took a turn I didn't think it would. I don't agree with much of what he says, but the thought experiment is a really interesting and useful one. Asked a related question, "would you like to spend the rest of your life with her?", most guys would after some consideration say no, as there's only one girl you'd feel that way about but hundreds of girls you meet every day.

This realisation may have quite an impact on how you go about approaching her. Once you know that this isn't future Mrs. You, there's way less at stake and you will be more relaxed as you know you won't lose much if she doesn't respond well to your advances.

If you answer yes though, you better step up your game real quick and remember all the shit you learned practicing on those girls you never were serious about.

stuntaneous · 2011-01-06T05:21:17+00:00

Beautiful women are—almost without exception—clever, kind, funny, and trustworthy.

Lol.

I think you need the below average or damaged goods varieties to get anything worthwhile most of the time. The good looking sorts are usually pampered, pompus little shits. People tend to need some hardship in their life experience to show any degree of humility. Beautiful women seldom have this.

wooboy · 2011-01-05T23:47:03+00:00

Um, this is a stupid thought experiment.

If I have to stay with her, she has to stay with me. In other words, she loves me. I don't have to be with only her during this period. I can get others. What's more, I can always use a very hot woman as a pivot to get other girls. Why wouldn't I want that?

Title	A Thought Experiment to Gauge Your Skill with Women
Author	insickness
Upvotes	222
Comments	36
Date	January 5, 2011 5:15 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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