Approaching randomly

grrinchas · 2019-12-30T17:33:21+00:00

Interesting.

I am actually totally opposite to you. All my encounters where total strangers. I feel weird to game social circle. Maybe cause I have total separation between my dating life and my work/gym/hobbies/friends etc. Anyway. So how do I approach random women? Well that depends on many factors, one of the factors is THE PACE. This is actually one of the things which is very overlooked in PUA books. And the pace is the deciding factor on how I start conversation.

1) You both are not moving.

This usually happens when you find yourself in the same situation like she is. This is the easiest of all and mostly resembles social circle settings. In these circumstances the best way to start conversation is to use CONTEXT (where and when). This is the most natural opener for this kind of situation.

Also, in these situations usually she is surrounded by other non-moving people: friends, colleagues, other strangers. So you don't want to make her feel uncomfortable by opening her with something personal, like compliment.

E.g. you both find yourself in the same restaurant/coffee shop/bar "Excuse me, what is that?" while pointing to what she is eating. In a grocery shop: "Excuse me, where did you find this tomato sauce?". In tube, "Excuse me, how do you go to that place". I think you get the point.

Please note, that you have to know how to transition from asking her about tomato sauce to fucking her. I do like these situations cause these encounters look very random and not planned, and usually leads to getting her number.

When you get better at game, this is where advance stuff starts. Because you opened her so indirectly she has no idea that you are hitting on her. Your job is to make sure that she seduces you, and not the other way around. But that gonna happen only after thousands of approaches.

2) You are moving, but she is not.

Mostly this happens on the streets, in the park, or any kind of customer-service venue. When you see something like that, then there is usually 2 possibilities: Either she is working in that venue or she is waiting for someone. I have a rule to never game a worker! So can't comment on that.

But if she is waiting for someone then I approach. This time to use context "like asking her for direction" is not the best thing, cause it is not personal enough, plus usually there is not much time to talk. Remember, she is alone, waiting for someone or something and you are walking.

Now, your job is to explain her why did you stopped? And the reason is that she reminded you someone or something, or you liked her shoes/hair/coat, or she looked like someone who wants to talk. It doesn't matter, just make sure that you convey your intention (you like her) without saying that directly.

Remember, in this situation you don't have time for a long game, cause she may be waiting for a bf/husband. So you have to get number as soon as possible.

3) She is moving.

Now this is the most difficult of all, and requires the most guts to do it. The first thing which you have to notice is the PACE of the movement. How fast is she walking? This is very important. Why? Because based on person's walking speed you can answer the question? "Does she has a goal?" Cause there is two possibilities when you see walking person, either she knows where she is going or she doesn't.

Let's say she walks fast, uses rhythmic hand movements, head points to one direction etc. It means she knows where she is going. In these circumstances you have to stop her and explain why you stopped her, you probably have only 1-2 min of conversation, she won't talk longer.

First create the urgency, your body has to say "Please stop, this is urgent". If she stops, good. If she doesn't, don't follow her. Be very direct in this situation, say that she has amazing legs, or astonishing hair etc. Ask where she is going, here plans, availability for a date, exchange NOT numbers but INSTAGRAM. Because otherwise she will flake. There was not enough time to build trust.

Now, comes the most exciting situation. Slowly walking women without a goal. She is looking for sex. You don't even need to have a good game to seduce her. Start conversation with intent, ask if she wants to go for a drink/coffee after 3-5min talking, do lots of kino, kiss her, bounce her to second location, more kino. Bounce to home and fuck her after 3-5 hours of being with her.

Hopefully this answers few of your questions.

deLarg0 · 2019-12-30T17:35:46+00:00

"Looks creepy" jeeeeeeeeeez. I just can't understand how many excuses dudes make to not take action. It kinda makes me angry but at the same time I am happy that these dudes exist because there is no competition! Dudes that just come to reddit to procrastinate, dudes that are afraid.

redpillpinoy · 2019-12-30T16:31:28+00:00

It will always be creepy since your mindset is already set to approaching women as creepy. Like the rationalizations you listed in your post.

If you are not in the right mindset to approach, then it is creepy and has lower success rate.

Questions to OP. Does sleeping with your students sounds less creepy than approaching women randomly?

I will opt to approach women and game them than to game my students.

Thee420Blaziken · 2019-12-30T17:01:04+00:00

I usually just leave random approaches with a compliment or small talk remark and move on. If they are really receptive and continue the conversation, then I go from there.

I can think of 2 times where randomly approaching someone for daygaming has worked, granted I don't do often

telemanzoo · 2019-12-30T19:20:16+00:00

At a bar/restaurant/party, hanging out with a group of friends, and I start talking to a woman who's a friend of a friend. Talking to women at my job, for example, a coworker. I used to be a teacher, and there were a few times when I ended up socializing with my female students, outside of school, after they had completed my class and they weren't my student anymore. I've done all of the above things, and all of them have led to sex at one time or another

Could you share a a story from each of these examples from your life if you get the time? More detailed the better lol

like the other guy who replied, i'm actually the opposite to you and have ONLY slept with complete strangers from cold approach, and so your examples seem as alien to me as cold approach does to you, I guess! Like, I can't imaging how they'd happen. (conversation, who makes the 'first move', HOW?! etc etc)

But basically I think you have the idea right. (you start a conversation and make small talk) but you maybe haven't tried it with enough girls. Some girls will be attracted to you, and thus the convo won't die out so easily like in your example. They'll ask you stuff back etc. And then you start to show some intent or whatever. Flirt a bit. Tease her about something and maybe say she's cute and start touching her a little more. Sexual energy increase. You move her too a different venue and carry on chatting and build a connection. You can sense she likes you and you slow it all down. Your speech. Everything. You kiss her. Get her a bit worked up. Tell her you want to show her your new guitar or something (plausible deniability so she doesn't feel like a slut for agreeing) and then close the deal back at your place

Radicalmattitude1 · 2019-12-31T01:28:51+00:00

Yes it does work but it’s like any other skill: the more you do it, the better you get.

Randomly approaching a few girls over the course of a few years is like sitting down at the piano once every few years. You will suck at first and you need to practice consistently to get good at it.

You’re right in that daygame is not “normal” behaviour. It can be very awkward at times. But this is the challenge: to remain calm in awkward situations and skillfully create a pleasant encounter with a women with sexual intent.

If you can create enjoyable, serendipitous experiences for women out of thin air, they will love you for your boldness and confidence. The only way to get better at doing it is to practice.

Try doing ~100 random approaches during the day over the course of a month and see the results for yourself.

RacistMuffin · 2019-12-30T20:22:26+00:00

The idea is that cold-approaching is moreso a numbers game. When you day-game and cold-approach; most likely you will encounter girls with little interest/middle amount of interest towards you. The girl's attraction/interest level she has will not enable you to have sexual intercourse with her. Therefore, most day-game approaches causes you to follow through the number's game plan(approaching an abundant amount of women). And then, scheduling dates with them prior to getting their numbers. Most likely, every 10 numbers you get, you will receive about only 3 dates.(not counting flakes of course)

The idea is this. If you cold approach girls during day game, it still requires you to make dates/plan dates in order for them to create a sort of attachment. EVEN if they give you iois/choosing signals. That's what night-game is optimal for most people. Night-game cold approaches enables for a higher chance of you pulling that specific night since they are actively hunting to just hook-up and have ONS.

Just think of it like the stock market:

Day-game cold approaches - You put your money in a stock that is conservative. And then overtime, that stock can grow big since it's reliable. You are approaching women, making dates, and overtime they will reward you with sex since you gave them non-sexual attention.

Night-game cold approaches - You put your money in a stock that is aggressive and fluctuates like a mother fucker. You are approaching women and then hoping you are able to pull that set that one night. Despite giving almost no-nonsexual attention to the female, and only hopes she becomes attracted to you based on your charisma, honest signals, inner/outer-frame, inner/outer-value, smv, etc.

blueidiot314 · 2019-12-31T02:45:58+00:00

I haven't had too much luck with day-game. Most of the leads fizzle out after a few texts/calls, but one time I was flirting with a chick at a dog park and within an hour of meeting her we were having sex.

7GoodVibes · 2019-12-30T17:49:22+00:00

You are presuming that you know what every woman is thinking. Shame on you.

Do you know how many women would LOVE to simply have a conversation with someone, a REAL conversation, that is fun and meaningful?

If your belief is that you are inconveniencing a woman, well guess what? It’s likely to come across that way, despite the fact that she might have been receptive otherwise.

Keep it light and drop the expectations of getting laid. That’s putting the cart before the horse. First, you might want to see if she’s a good match for you, just as much as she’s seeing if you’re a good match for her.

That being said, you should notice some obvious social situations. In your example of the coffee shop and the girl with her friends, most women will not ditch their friends for some random guy, no matter how poignant your questions are about her choices in coffee.

It was probably a good approach, just not the optimal situation. You probably missed some social cues, though. She wanted to get back to her friends and ended the conversation at that point. In other words, you stayed too long so she ended it for you, because you were oblivious to her hints and her leaving that way was the least awkward way for her.

priyansh1990 · 2019-12-30T16:06:35+00:00

Yeah, exactly same for me, I think it's very creepy and looks very desperate until and unless you have a connection.

Title	Approaching randomly
Author	diamondtech
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Date	December 30, 2019 3:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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