Avoiding pitfalls of texting a girl during coronavirus?

2WAR · 2020-04-07T06:58:01+00:00

So you haven’t talked to her in a month? And then dont want to keep talking to her for another 2 months? She already probably forgot who you are.

Also let me know when the quarantine is going to be lifted, I too want to make plans.

sirmaroc · 2020-04-07T08:06:34+00:00

Don't throw a stereotype in the mix, if you want to msg her just do it. Showing someone you care about them does not = friend zone!

I am sure she will appreciate that you thought about her. You'll get into the friend zone if you don't show intent on wanting to be more than friends, but that does not mean you have to be an ass or pretend that you don't care if you actually do.

Considering your "plan" you are overthinking the crap out of this and it will end up failing. Be yourself.

alejandroclark · 2020-04-07T09:17:10+00:00

THESE ARE PANDEMIC TIMES. RULES ARE OUT THE WINDOW.

But, seriously...don't try to abide by arbitrary rules just because you read them on the internet.

If you get friendzoned, it was probably from your original interaction, not your texts.

nmf343 · 2020-04-07T10:55:49+00:00

Another girl here. I do agree with not texting too much only because there’s nothing new to talk about and it gets old having to keep up a convo with someone you don’t know with no end in sight. BUT she told you she was feeling sick and you didn’t ask how she was for a month?? That’s Awful even just on a human level. Giant red flag to a girl, She’s gone

yycmang · 2020-04-07T06:39:31+00:00

I say easy on the texting and opt to do a FaceTime session. If you’re charismatic and know how to hold a conversation you’ll shine and if not then you need to work on that as that’s a skill that pays the bills!

Xcalibrated · 2020-04-07T08:08:19+00:00

Think of sth fun to do with her that can be like 5mins a day only, that'll stop you from overthinking the interaction and whether you should text or not...

Like for me, I'm doing this with one girl, you can steal it...

We are planning our sex playlist for after quarantine is over, so every day we add one song to the playlist, we give each other recommendations and explore which one is best.. then we add, it's really easy plus every day she gets to remember and get excited about what she's waiting for on the other side, when quarantine is over

Plus the longer the quarantine, the longer the sex playlist, tell me that ain't a plus..

-BiG_T- · 2020-04-07T09:49:49+00:00

If you wanna avoid the friendzone bro don't just chat with her like a friend.

I'm sure I saw somewhere that messaging with a purpose is the key to doing things over the phone.

But as I'm in this situation right now, I've let her know I want her, I'm gonna take her out if the rona doesnt and I'm not gonna change my mind. So we've been talking a fair amount about everything, but she knows and I know what type of thing we have going on.

Idk man I'm just a noob, all I've learnt so far is act like a friend get treated like a friend. I'm naturally a caring person when I get to know someone so there's friendship and when care is needes, but I also straight up hit on her.

Lady__stoneheart · 2020-04-07T09:21:09+00:00

If I was the girl, then I would have forgotten about you already. You're better off looking for someone else. You won't get into the "friend zone" either because people are supposed to be nice to be friends. And not checking up on someone for a month is a huge red flag, for relationship as well as friendship.

Forget about her and try searching for someone else.

Fluganaveggnum · 2020-04-07T10:35:54+00:00

I think you are making the "friendzone" a lot bigger than it is. You can litterally get out of the "friendzone" with one sentence. I've dated a lot my friends and the "friendzone" has never been an issue.

rodriguezmonik · 2020-04-07T12:17:51+00:00

(F35) Really bad strategy in my opinion.. definitely should be texting her more often showing interest and who you are.. one text every month only can be interpreted as you have a girlfriend and you have something to hide .. take it from a girl that is assuming this about a guy already.. I hope it is not his strategy because I after two weeks I’m already talking to someone else

ImJustSo · 2020-04-07T10:37:31+00:00

You end up in the friendzone by not making moves when a girl wants you to make moves. That goes for face to face interactions and texting.

Know what you get when girls like you and you're texting? Pictures of pussies and titties. But you do you, bud.

HoobaDooba420 · 2020-04-07T13:18:44+00:00

I swear some people in this sub should not be giving advice. She is not going to forget you text her whenever the hell you want but just know u could be rejected.

azmansalleh · 2020-04-07T08:20:29+00:00

A girl I texted was on super good terms with me before the quarantine. As we exchange texts during the quarantine, she suddenly got cold and all that. So yea just stop with the texting and let her reach out after this ends

bournit · 2020-04-07T09:26:37+00:00

Bro, I kinda agree with not writing her. All this thing is changing (badly) the way we perceive game. We, as man, have the duty to always remember what game is for: it is for having her in your bed. And she wants that ! So, doing virtual dates or calls or whatever is just not your plan. And that's ok, were men.

Why not write any her you picked up before quarantine : logistics work completely against you, societal pressure is massively against you ("social distancing", "find the infected people" and all the shit TV keeps saying out), plus you've to consider that tons of guys right now are hitting that girl, because they believe they have a good "text game" and the all playground moved into their "field". And also, they text her in most of the case to text her, because game-unaware and constrained at home like u.

Game is about abundance, and about not being attached to the result. Writing to her now, without knowing you could in weeks get out (and what if you can get out but only with "social distancing" ? Unless you can pull really easily, it's impossible to escalate properly) could waste an opportunity for you, make you feel lonely more then before, also you're contributing to put on her pressure via - uneuseful - texts.

I talk like this because I had a similar situation before quarantine, 1 and half months ago, and I left her on thin hair. It's politically incorrect to say that (and also wtf it is politically incorrect in game community , what happened to guys) but I care more about my game and real connections than about texting with the most delicate flower on the heart and then bothering her because we both know we're waiting to meet.

The reality is that this is not a moment for practical game, good times will be back sooner than you think (also girls want to enjoy life), but always keep in mind that game's most important goal is physical escalation , and that it's our duty as men to understand when go for it, and when not because neither us of girls can play in it.

Paltenburg · 2020-04-07T10:22:27+00:00

Honestly, I don't believe in the whole concept of the friend zone.

When girls "like you as a friend" that's just a euphemism for not being interested. But it has nothing to do with time. I've had plenty of dates after I've known her for 6 months or longer.

Glapierre · 2020-04-07T10:59:16+00:00

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relentless_pma · 2020-04-07T11:42:30+00:00

Clarify 'met a girl'. Dit you met her on a dating app, a bar, common friends etc.

Is it just mee or feels a month no contact pretty long if you two where planning to hang out very soon (ofcourse if the corona virus never showed up).

running2far · 2020-04-07T13:06:01+00:00

Sounds like you ghosted her. Me personally, I wouldn't even respond to a text after a month.

Xia0mia0 · 2020-04-07T13:14:36+00:00

I don't think it's a good idea that you basically stopped texting her after the theory of meeting up fell off the table. She already has the idea that you only want physical contact and aren't interested in what she has to say, most likely. I'd move on unless you're really good at saving face, but it is going to be awkward and you're starting off at squats one with less trust on her behalf now.

TishthaDish · 2020-04-07T13:17:02+00:00

After a month I would have deleted you out of my phone and moved on to someone I feel is interested.

__Noonah__ · 2020-04-07T08:56:11+00:00

Bro, ever heard of e dates, many of us are in the same position but we can have dates inline for example netflix on ft and omegle Good luck

ItsHobbesnotTyrone · 2020-04-07T08:28:04+00:00

Just go on a video date with her then. Find a way to connect and have a date with dinner or even a fun virtual activity. You might miss out on physical connection but maybe you can even move into virtual sex. Just try I would guess.

EternalJourney · 2020-04-07T11:12:22+00:00

In contrast to the other comments in this thread, I actually think that you are doing the right thing. Hit her up maybe once a month and then again once the quarantine is over, everything else will lead to the convo getting stale or you having a connection to her but not an emotional one (how could you even develop an emotional connection to her, given that you cant touch, kiss whatever her). I am texting some of my girls, but just because I already established a lover-frame with them (we kissed before etc), but I am not texting them constantly.

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