Being toxic

Perfect-You1944 · 2024-10-30T15:30:26+00:00

its only works with damaged women. and you DONT want to have a relationship with damaged women

KoleSekor · 2024-10-30T15:28:22+00:00

No. You want women to associate feeling good in your presence. Yes, that means some playful teasing, but not toxicity.

OkResponsibility2470 · 2024-10-30T16:33:27+00:00

Idk. I keep meeting women who are like this, where the guy treats them like shit or clearly considers them little more than a warm body and they fawn over the mf like he’s the second coming lmao. And they always end up going back to the guy. That said, I wouldn’t date like 90% of the girls who fit this criteria long term, but they were all really solid looks wise. Go figure

Dwerg1 · 2024-10-30T15:41:17+00:00

Yes, IF they have an unhealthy attachment style. These types of relationships never last though and if they do last a while it's typically toxic and unhealthy. Love is definitely the wrong word here because this type of attachment is based in fear, like fear of abandonment as an example. There is no love in it, just the mistaken idea that it's love when it's really just a fear of loss, the complete opposite.

In short, you do not really want to go down this path because it will fuck you up as well. Women who fall for this are damaged. The healthy ones that would make for a much better relationship will run and they will run FAST.

AcrossTheShimenawa · 2024-10-31T06:22:15+00:00

As stated here, it only works for damaged women.

I'll do you one better. Every time you disrespect your intimate partner, you subconsciously disrespect yourself.

If I hold myself in high esteem, there's no way in hell I'll disrespect the woman I share the deepest parts of my life with. Guys that do that are a joke.

trik1guy · 2024-10-30T19:40:06+00:00

they don't want straight assholes. they want someone who doesnt simp and put them on the pedestal. they want you to be superior, to look up to you, to know you are stronger then them so they feel safe if you need to protect them.

you show them this, by winning whenever the women "tests" you. she does the test by "teasing" you, your respons to such a test should be with heatlhy wit or a show of confidense, NOT simp and let her win or ask why she is acting like she doesnt care about you all of a sudden.

"being superior" (not supreme) is in its most primal form, a total dickhead move. you assert dominance.

InstructionAbject763 · 2024-10-30T20:14:40+00:00

Well. If you manipulate people... they will be more emotionally dependent on you

But that's emotional abuse

And if you loved someone. You'd never make it impossible with emotional abuse and manipulation for them to leave you

Toxicity if used means who you are is actually incredibly unworthy of being loved (or you think that's true)

When if you work on yourself a bit

You'd be very worthy of love, and feel that way too, without having to hurt other people in the process

ExtraordinaryBeetles · 2024-10-30T15:16:44+00:00

I've been thinking about this lately. As much as we've heard that guys who fight, bully and start drama cause their girlfriends to break up with them and other women say that it's not attractive... we so, so commonly see it as a theme with the boyfriends of attractive women.

taysoncat14 · 2024-10-30T15:29:47+00:00

No, those girls love them because they’re nice at first and once the girls fall in love they start being assholes. It takes the girls months or even years to be able to leave them but they eventually leave them. Unless the girls somehow become financially and safety dependent on the guys then they are forced to stay. But don’t believe that lie that girls fall in love with assholes.. the guys are nice and loving at first, and then their shitty personally comes out leaving girls confused as to why they changed. And the girls who are now in love then spend a lot of time trying to “change them back”

MysteryLiezer · 2024-10-30T16:04:19+00:00

Charge36 · 2024-10-30T19:51:04+00:00

What the hell kind of question is this? Even if true do you WANT to be in a relationship based on emotionally degrading your partner into submission?

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-10-31T08:22:15+00:00

I used to think a lot of women were like this, but then I became a Dominant in the kink community and it helped me learn the psychology of why some women are in toxic relationships.

A lot of women (or more accurately, a lot of people) have a degradation kink, but if they haven't been exposed to the kink community and/or are still young, they aren't aware of having this kink. So they become drawn to assholes because being in a shitty relationship with an emotionally abusive partner is the price they think they have to pay for having their kink satisfied.

My partners get the best of both worlds with me. I tie them up, degrade them (note: we've negotiated and consented to all of this beforehand), spank and smack them until they're a lovely shade of purple, fuck them like the worthless whore they want to be, and then go back to being a loving, caring partner when it's over.

If you want women that are attracted to assholes, consider joining the kink community. You'll learn how to meet your partner's need to be degraded and still be a kind and loving person. But do NOT be an abusive asshole just to have a relationship. Not only is that just plain immoral and will lead to your partner developing extreme trust and self esteem issues, but you'll feel like shit and it'll make you insecure about expressing real love and vulnerability with your partners.

NiceGuysDatingCoach · 2024-10-30T16:11:07+00:00

This is a very important question, and I am glad you asked. Others told you already, and I will repeat it again - being an asshole will not get you more women, only less. And the relationships will be worse. If you look for people who have the craziest sex lives with multiple partners, they all base their relationships on mutual trust and support.

2024-10-30T16:38:31+00:00

For baddies yes for some mid it depends imo

Title	Being toxic
Author	badsha8454
Upvotes	3
Comments	39
Date	October 30, 2024 3:12 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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