Big guy advice

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-08-24T21:38:11+00:00

250 here, and just 1,74m tall . First of all, your goal is not someone above average.your goal is someone whose company makes you feel like a better man than you felt before.

Confidence and strong social connections can improve your chances in real life. Being respected. and loved by your peers will make you more attractive than you think .

theytoldmeineedaname · 2022-08-25T02:16:31+00:00

As a formerly overweight person who went through a wholesale body transformation, my advice would be: floor the accelerator on weight loss and muscle development (in fact, don't ever stop) and make as many female friends as possible in the interim, while you're still physically unattractive by conventional standards. Having a ton of female friends will pay huge dividends once you're fit. Other than that, work on anything else that can help develop you into a more attractive person like hobbies, reading, advancing your career, etc.

Could you get what you're looking for while overweight? Yes, you could. But it's insanely hard. End of the day this is all just probability. And the odds will rocket up exponentially in your favor as you become more fit. The difference is mindblowing. So, for now, just keep trucking and do what you can to plant the seeds of your future romantic success.

If you do things right and remain on a solid trajectory, you're roughly about 1 year away from entering a 'barely acceptable' weight range, 1.5 years away from being about average (depending on where you're from), and 2 years away from being above average. Use that time wisely. Plant those seeds.

the_FUEGO_ · 2022-08-25T03:04:33+00:00

Don't listen to anyone here who's telling you to "just be confident".

The fact of the matter is that your obesity will be a huge obstacle in your ability to attract women who are conventionally attractive. This is for two reasons: (1) they have high standards that you do not meet, and (2) there is a lifestyle incompatibility, since most conventionally attractive women are into fitness and eating well.

The good news for you is that your obesity is completely under your control. Continue working on your weight loss - it will have a huge effect on your confidence and overall attractiveness. Make sure to practice self respect throughout the entire process - get regular haircuts, dress well in a way that flatters your build (use layering), and take care of your hygiene. Manage your expectations about who you will be able to date in the meanwhile. Sure, it's possible that you'll find women attracted to you who are conventionally attractive themselves, but not probable. I would recommend expanding your window to women who are not conventionally attractive themselves, especially obese women.

Best of luck, friend.

Phil_YT · 2022-08-24T22:42:09+00:00

I have friends who are big, like you. They are coolest guys to be around with. It's good you're losing weight for health benefits, but don't forget some women do like hulky guys.

itzdabiglowe · 2022-08-24T22:42:54+00:00

Well let me tell you, not in Missouri.

XxXROB1123XxX · 2022-08-24T23:56:33+00:00

Congrats on the weight loss man. I started at 370 in February and I’m currently at 285.

My best advice is always work on your appearance. Stay well groomed and try to find clothes that are nice and fit you well. You can’t be large and look like a slob, girls will always look past you if you don’t look the part.

Keep approaching and build confidence, work on your insecurities if you have them.

Neo-Rio · 2022-08-25T01:19:04+00:00

Eat less, exercise more.

The issue is one of discipline and willpower. Not of physical size.
The hardest part of getting into shape is just getting out of the house and getting to the gym and STARTING. Once you're there and doing exercise, then it's easy.

Sign up for gym membership. Get a personal trainer. Do about half an hour of lifting heavy weights and then about half an hour of fat burning cardio. The fact that you spend money on membership will encourage you to make the most of it.

I used to go to the gym a lot after work and I would often tell women I met to meet me after my gym session for a drink at a nearby bar. If they mucked me about with the scheduling, I literally would not accommodate them for my gym session! They complied more often than not with my requests!

jbo99 · 2022-08-25T01:26:59+00:00

I’d trade being fit for being a smooth talker any day of the week. I think you should be thrilled about what you have.

itzdabiglowe · 2022-08-24T21:50:05+00:00

Yes that was very ignorantly put on my end. I want love and not like a fwb I am open to it, but definitely looking for a woman who compliments me. Does that make better since.

BenNewcomb1 · 2022-08-25T06:08:51+00:00

I am 310lbs currently. I have no problem getting women. A lot of attraction for women has nothing to do with looks.

If you are funny, spontaneous, can generate pre-selection, a leader, a provider, well groomed despite your weight, confident, then getting women is not hard.

Now it is still easier when you lose weight but for most women they want a man with ambition and drive over a dude with a perfect body.

Own what you've got. Push for better. The drive is attractive.

Sandvicheater · 2022-08-24T23:32:16+00:00

Men's physical attributes isn't the end all be all but its one of the bigger factors that used by women. No amount smooth talking is gonna change the fact that you look like Jabba the Hutt with triple chin and already sweating after walking 30 feet.

Lonely_Man22 · 2022-08-24T22:58:49+00:00

Losing weight isn’t going to make you anymore attractive I swear. I’ve been skinny to fit and it hasn’t made me attractive in any way.

thecatgodcometh · 2022-08-24T23:31:55+00:00

Used to be your weight, then I dropped to 82kg by using a specific life-long and proven eating plan that the overwhelming majority of doctors and influencers will demonize and warn you to stay away from because it actually works and they don't want the garbage they peddle to fall out of fashion. DM and I'll tell you all about it

IDhl89 · 2022-08-25T02:48:49+00:00

If you are able to you should get professional help, I’m talking a trainer and a dietitian! Both will help you get through this much quicker and keep you on track.

Hope you meet your goals! Rooting for you!

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-08-25T04:21:55+00:00

I've seen plenty of big dudes with pretty and better then average woman. How long those dates last??? I wish I knew. It's great you are taking your health into consideration. You should worry about your own path and woman will join you.

atomant88 · 2022-08-25T06:18:11+00:00

im a bigger person too, it is a bit of a handicap on your game. but it doesnt mean you cant succeed. just keep investing in yourself and working to improve. good game can overcome a bit of weight. but itll get easier as you get slimmer for sure.

texaspete3 · 2022-08-26T13:20:48+00:00

You don't have to be skinny, but you do have to exhibit healthy traits. When i was younger and just starting out pua, i had 8 percent body fat year round and constantly got comments and compliments about my physique from women.

As i have gotten older i have put on more weight and probably around 20 percent body fat, but not obsessed with my physique. I am way more successful with women today than I was before . Women don't care about looks to a degree as long as you are within a standard deviation of the norm. Extremes are where you face some problems. You've done a great job, and you are going to continue to keep doing a great job.. Focus on yourself now, be selfish and enjoy the journey and the pleasantries that come with it.

Title	Big guy advice
Author	itzdabiglowe
Upvotes	24
Comments	50
Date	August 24, 2022 9:29 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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