[Challenge] I'm going to cold call 100 people

ImKumarYo · 2012-05-18T22:02:03+00:00

Please update this, I'd love to see the results.

domokunosan · 2012-05-19T00:05:42+00:00

As an inside sales person who makes 50-100 calls to random people a day, I can't possibly comprehend the idea of being afraid to make a phone call. In other words, this should definitely work. =P

whatwhywhy · 2012-05-19T00:14:14+00:00

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carpeDeezNuts · 2012-05-18T22:58:58+00:00

Start the conversation with "Guess who?"

Reinheardt · 2012-05-18T22:31:54+00:00

why dont you call girls who actually gave you their numbers instead of texting? calling up martha the real estate lady seems like a cop out

2012-05-18T23:21:42+00:00

You can do it!

maxd · 2012-05-19T01:57:43+00:00

You can call me if you want. I'll report back to seddit how well you performed. (PS I'm a dude, so don't sexualize me bro)

PrinceofSpades · 2012-05-19T00:18:53+00:00

Glad to see some active psychology being applied into your goal here; good luck and remember, the first one is always the hardest!

Stythe · 2012-05-19T05:14:01+00:00

There was a similar exercise in one of those Neil Strauss books. I forget which one, I think it's something like "How to get a date in a month."

I tried it, it was interesting. He gave some tips on how to pussyfoot around what you're doing. Pretend you got the wrong number and just try to talk for a bit, or my favorite, act like you were calling a friend for a movie recommendation and when you're told it's the wrong number try to get the person to recommend a movie for you. It's actually quite fun.

My favorites were a woman who laughed through most of the conversation and told me she heard Iron Man was good and an old lady who had no idea what was going on but kept laughing until (what I assume was) her son took over and said "She's 83, she hasn't seen a movie in years."

Have fun with it and don't take it to seriously. Remember the point is to get comfortable talking to people and to get better at directing conversation. Some people won't have it, others will love it, most will probably be a little weirded out but will go along with it.

iznou · 2012-05-18T23:43:08+00:00

It could be functional if you want, you will still have about the same effect.

24rubikscube · 2012-05-19T01:24:38+00:00

Look forward to see what comes up. I used to work at a phone center for about a year. It got easier than talking in real life for me. What you can do is call around to random people just before calling the girl, that way you'll not have the jitters.

irvinestrangler · 2012-05-19T02:08:20+00:00

I always say stuff like, "Jeans, white tanktop. What are you wearing?"

nomdeanon · 2012-05-19T02:04:09+00:00

Interesting, I'm in the middle of putting together a 100 opener challenge for seddit. The short version is to open 100 attractive women in one week. No other requirements except that she has to respond in a meaningful way in order for it to count.

The goal will be to force yourself to get comfortable opening women.

I'll be posting details on the main board in a couple of days -- busy weekend ahead.

ChaChaBolek · 2012-05-19T02:31:40+00:00

Where are you getting the numbers?

blue_barracuda · 2012-05-19T04:03:25+00:00

Hey, this is Buddy the elf! What's your favorite color???

solarbang · 2012-05-19T07:19:43+00:00

I would like to say I think this will help, but I feat it may not. Most of my childhood I did many many prank phone calls, but when it came to a call that was "important" or "mattered" because I was interested the fear was still there. You just gotta have that confidence. Just gotta go into it like you know she likes you already. It takes a little while to get that. Calling strangers gets pretty easier, especially when you don't know them, there is no weight attached to it (importance) and you have no risk (google voice, or in my case blocked number / skype.) Def let me know how it goes, but I think you will have more success when you feel confident in general talking to women, and when you know not to call them too much (when to call them.) Things you will get a feel for over time. Good Luck!

Red_Alt · 2012-05-18T21:51:33+00:00

THIS IS THE BESTTTT!!!!

pualive · 2012-05-18T22:05:23+00:00

To get the most out of this exercise you'll need to sexualize the conversation. This is where most guys fall flat in converting their numbers into dates. So, if you're going to practice something, practice sexual escalation.

techgnosis · 2012-05-19T00:14:03+00:00

This is an exercise in "The Rules of the Game". It's not 100 people (I forget how many) but the goal is to get them to recommend a movie for you to go see in the theater.

CasualHello · 2012-05-19T03:01:33+00:00

"the five hour workweek" is a great book. The. Entrepreneur that wrote it said he would ask 2 girls a day for their number, even if he would just throw them away later.

SpaceToaster · 2012-05-18T23:00:33+00:00

Counter point: Is it such a bad thing to be nervous on the phone? Consider that women get nervous too, and that a guy who comes off as "too smooth" on the phone may be interpreted to her as being insincere or disingenuous.

Never the less, it sounds like a great exercise to garner communication skills.

Groovy_Peppers · 2012-05-19T07:33:16+00:00

Mad props to you bro

cody1889 · 2012-05-19T03:48:04+00:00

I cold call for a living. It will get you over your fear of talking on the phone quickly, but just don't try to sell anything.

bigbiclighter · 2012-05-19T08:28:34+00:00

I'm gonna play devils advocate and say this -- the anxiety you get from calling a 10/10 dime piece is not going to go away just because you've made a hundred or a thousand cold calls to randoms. What I do when I'm feeling a little nervous during a phone call is to just be fucking honest about it. "Holy shit your voice is too fuckin sexy, my mind's a blank now." Take ownership for your feelings.

squatdick · 2012-05-19T14:53:52+00:00

Can you give some more details? How are you going to find the people that you're calling? What will you talk about/discuss?

Anyways good luck; I want to try this also

lycosa2008 · 2012-05-20T10:44:57+00:00

excellent idea man, hope to have an update to motivate the readers!

reptomin · 2012-05-19T09:39:05+00:00

100 strangers? Seriously? I'm just as freaked out to talk to people as the next socially anxious guy, but random people? I'd think its borderline freaky to bother random people.. Why don't you try and meet new people?

You have motivated, me, though, I'm going to meet someone new tomorrow. I'm going to. And your enthusiasm made me. I may not find someone I want to date but I'm meeting someone, somehow, tomorrow.. But I must emphasize I'm not doing it by trying to wrong number people.

I suck as much has the next person at talking to new people but calling random people by phone is probably the worst method possible.. Can't imagine a girl respoinding to a "Hi, my name is so and so, I obviously randomly called you, wanna go out out on a date?"

anonymous_troll · 2012-05-19T10:00:53+00:00

Something like this is in the StyleLife Challenge, and, personally, I think it's kind of like making prank phone calls, and it's a little immature. There has to be a better way to do this.

everyoneismyfriend · 2012-05-19T14:06:44+00:00

you are a turd.

Title	[Challenge] I'm going to cold call 100 people
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Date	May 18, 2012 9:39 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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