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[–][deleted] 99 points100 points101 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
lmao, i didnt even read half of it to know that you should drop it and get back to working on yourself
[–]Lucazzz14[🍰] 77 points78 points79 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Didn't read.
But the best "revenge" you can do is forget about this shit, continue with your life, date other women and be the best version if yourself.
Even then all of that is for your benefit.
[–]privacylmao 6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This
[–][deleted] 32 points33 points34 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
When u set out for revenge, first dig 2 graves.
[–]publicenemyone 14 points15 points16 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“What a stupid fucking quote. I’m killing way more than 2 people!”
[–]zero400 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is poignant and interesting. Have an upvote.
[–]Oscarboy3333 21 points22 points23 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
lol do you really want to be with a girl like that ? She is pathetic and you aren't much different. That guy lives in her head rent free. She hates him but she cant let go of him in her mind. She is using you to distract herself from him. Revenge on matter like this is useless, you will always end up looking like the biggest loser. You need to have abundance mindset, there are millions of girls that are better looking than her and most importantly with better mindset. Life with her will always be a trouble, you will go nuts. Just fking ignore her and leave her.
[–]MayhemReignsTV 12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Revenge for what? Your insecurities drove her off. You kept listening to other people about everything and confronted her. You still come off as very insecure with this pettiness. Do you blame her for not wanting to be in the relationship? Maybe she should have broken it off before seeing somebody else but then again it doesn’t sound like you guys were really all that serious, to be honest. I’m sorry man love hurts but it doesn’t sound like your hands are clean in this mess. Just learn from the experience and move on. It’s hard to do sometimes but it makes you a better person in the end. And it’s something other women can respect. Because you obviously don’t want her anymore and I’m sure she doesn’t want you.
[–]CTeeRuler -3 points-2 points-1 points 3 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
I thought I was doing the right thing by expressing what I was going through. I never told her I blamed her for what had happened, I was jus explaining what I was going through thinking it'd help. I thought we were close enough for me to get soft and open up. I was wrong. Also about me listening to other people, I only ever did it once and I backtracked as soon as she told me it wasn't true. Only for me to talk to someone I actually trusted and they confirmed it was true. Ngl I am insecure now. I wasn't always like this but it is what it is. And yeah I'm being petty, I know I shouldn't be but I jus got this anger burning within rn. I'll prolly drop the whole revenge thing in a week after I've calmed down.
[–]MayhemReignsTV 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That’s something you have to work on yourself. Because that’s baggage that a potential partner of yours should not have to endure. Neither should you if the shoe were on the other foot. Insecurity destroys good relationships.
[–]CTeeRuler 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're right. It's my fault for thinking we were far along enough for me to be open about those types of things
[–]SeniorVeiga 10 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Revenge is for kids, follow excelence. You will find an excelent girl in the path of your life.
You dont know what to do? Gym.
[–]Molteni- 6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Something similar happened to me. She revealed me she has BPD. I suggest you to move on: it is like losing someone, you are in the "angry phase". You'll get over it
[–]LeftChampionship8306 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
You idiot, you don’t get “revenge” on a girl who broke ur heart. If she doesn’t want to be with you than so be it. You cannot force anyone to be with you. That is beta behavior, just move on and find another girl who likes you bruh.
[–]Skadongle 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Stopped reading halfway through, but the girl sounds psychotic and you sound insecure
Brush up on your writing skills too because this shit is incredibly frustrating to read
[–]CTeeRuler -3 points-2 points-1 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lol I wasn't always insecure, that part came after Feb. Sorry about the writing tho. I first wrote it on my notes then decided to post and the last part happened like 3 hours ago so I was jus fuming while writing it out
[–]chubby_fit 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hope you feel better writing it out, but FR it’s tldr
[–]grindforthegold 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yeah bro this is toxic that girl is obviously into her ex still move on
[–]Kundalini-Electric 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is incel behaviour. Grow up. You pushed her away by being too emotional and telling her your insecurities.
[–]CTeeRuler -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I thought the healthy thing to do would be for me to talk about how everything had effected me and that would help me get over it. It was actually working too. My mistake was thinking we were close enough for me to get soft. I know now that i was wrong to think that.
[–]WickedBiscuit 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So you’re upset this girl disrespected you and fucked with your time and your revenge is giving her more of your time and energy…
The best “ revenge”doesn’t have anything to do with action or emotions. The best revenge is apathy.
Really want to stick it to her and do right by yourself? Be apathetic. Completely erase her from your external, but more importantly, your internal life.
[–]CTeeRuler 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Considering that too. Knowing that I'll have a clear opportunity to get revenge is what has me considering it so much. It doesn't even really have to be revenge, It's like I'd be doing the one thing I missed out on doing and that was smashing. Reading that, I know it's extremely immature but if I get it done I'll be able to walk out saying I hit that(to myself of course). This might be my pride talking now that I think about it but I really feel like I got unfinished business there. You are right about me jus putting more energy into this tho. I'm leaning towards not doing it but tbh that could change the second I hear her ex's smug laugh tomorrow
[–]RedPillAlphaBigCock 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
COMPLETELY forget about this and move on with your life
[–]kenny00111 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Grow up
[–]Dyvanna 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The best revenge you can get is to move on and live your best life, anything else isn't worth it and damages you more than her.
[–]Davidskylarkk 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lesson learned, move on with your life bro…
[–]darkmexaya 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your revenge is to get better and watch her regret treating you the way she did. It's a dish best served cold because it requires patience.
[–]CTeeRuler 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I knew I'd get this type of response and in all honesty I kinda agree with most of you. I just want her to know how bad I'm hurting. I always told her I'd never give up on us and that I'd always love her. I told her my life's work was to make her happy. I know it was corny and too sensitive but I thought it was okay cos I thought we'd always be together and I could let loose and be soft. That was a mistake. I know she's gonna come back when things get rough with the other guy and I'm worried my dumbass might actually take her back. I really needed to hear this tho. Thank you guys
[–]Kyrkrim 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's your first love it's normal to feel like she was "the one" or whatever. Unfortunately she's a psycho and you can and will do better. Just forget about her; kick her out of your mind.
[–]CTeeRuler 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's hard but I'll try bro. Thanks for the advice
[–]XxXROB1123XxX 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She doesn’t care about your feelings man or she would be with you right now. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but moving on and forgetting about her is the best thing for you to do. Keep your head up and be better every day.
[–]Charge36 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's almost certainly not coming back and if she does it will be a rebound situation that won't last.
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Move on. revenge is childish.
[–]Satestokjes 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't take revenge. Like the other guy who didn't read it I haven't aswell but the first alinea told me enough. How hard it may be drop it. Just fucking drop it man. She isn't worth the time and he isn't worth the revenge.
[–]Perfect_War5446 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t seek revenge it’s immature and weak. Just move on
[–]NatanaeH 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
U had to beat the shit out of her ex even if it ended with u losing the fight, u cannot let anyone walk all over you. Mistakes were made just learn from this and dont let it happen again king
[–]gunners98 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i didnt read your post. but forget it. it’s not worth it.
work on/better yourself and hopefully move on and be happy and find peace with someone else, and more importantly yourself.
that’s the best revenge, whether or not this person you wanted revenge on finds out about your newfound happiness, if it’s real/true it wont really matter what they think or if they even find out anyways.
best of luck
[–]texaspete3 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
beginner's revenge... Fuck her Friends Novice Revenge.....Fuck her Sister Advanced Revenge ....Fuck her Mom
Ultimate revenge, 3 way with mom and sister, while dad is filming. You're welcome.
[–]experiment_137 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Focus on studies kid, girls will just come and go
[–]libert-y 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bruh this looks a like a telenovela script. You are giving it to much attention. Focus on your dreams and become a better man. Hoes come and go
[–]privacylmao 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you want a revenge well I suggest to get fucking huge bro, go to the gym and destroy the weights! I started out as a scrawny little kid some years ago and look at me now after 2 breakups/heartbreaks lol bigger, healthier and stronger than ever and I ain't stopping! (my tiktok is mateosaric you can see my progress if curious)
You will get through this in no time. Focus on yourself, don't embarass yourself by trying to actively attempt a revenge because that will make things worst for you ego. Let that slide and make the bar higher for the next times. Good luck
[–]Sure-Wish3240 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You really wanna broke her?
Forget her. Be Nice and polite. Stay in touch and never block her again. Follow her on Facebook and wait until her life turns into shit with a divorce , single mom with 2 kids etc.
Then you out of the blue message her and say thank you. Thank her for your personal sucess at work, for your happy marriage of 20 years. Say that If wasnt for her you would not have become the man that you are now.
Been there, done that. Twice. Be like me, play the long game.
One of them i messaged when she was pregnant of the 2nd baby and found out her hubby was betraying her. I was like: that IS disgusting, I would never would have done this to you If we were together. I went só far as to say "you deserved better"
PS: only works with the mentally ill bitches. The good girls that you should have married , those will stay married and you will never get the chance to roast them.
[–]logicallyillogical 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Forgiveness isn't for the other person, its for you. It's so you can find peace.
Move on, get back to yourself and don't get bogged down by this petty bullshit.
I keep telling myself not to forgive her cos if I do then when she comes back I might actually take her back. That's really what I'm most worried about. That's one of the reasons why I say I want revenge. Cos I want to have a clear goal when she comes and not get caught up again. I know it's petty but it's on my mind
[–]Kevin26039898 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Revenge for foolish Move forward
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[–]CTeeRuler 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thing is she'd just think I'm lying off rip to get her back. The real question is whether I should acknowledge all the messed up ish she did or not. Problem is she felt like I was mentioning what happened in Feb too much and I was holding it on her head so if I come out talkin bout some "you hurt me" type shi she might jus block and move. But at the same time i always tried to do whatever to make her happy so me not acknowledging it might make me look weak and simpy (and i was already super simpy while we were together). Idk if I'm ready to permanently disconnect from her emotionally but smashing will at least let me feel like i actually got something out of it. I want to do whatever will get me the highest chance to smash
[–]ZaWarud0z 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hey, do you have a dog? Never mind, you can collect dog turd everywhere these days. Fill a bag with fresh one and live it at her doorstep. Trevor Bortmen says “Hi”.
[–]mab87117 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I know exactly how you feel and I have been in a similar situation, i also wanted revenge and that is what exactly what i had. i told this girl so many things about myself and so many traumatizing experiences that happened to me when i was younger, and how bad everything was for me, and she exposed me to each and everyone in the school, everyone looked at me as if i was messed up and weird and a creep and i had no respect by anyone, a year later i took all that negative energy and invested it in working on myself, and one night she texted me, she was apologizing to me and all i could focus on is making her look as desperate as possible, then i told her that i grew up and that all of that was in the past and that i wasn't holding a grudge, when summer came she texted me and i was very playful with her, then i started teasing her and she loved it, she was ready to do anything i order her to, and one time i asked her very smoothly to come over and she did, we sat together at my room (the apartment was empty) and we started getting it on, then we ended up having sex, and when we finished i had that postnut clarity, i felt like a king or a god and i wasn't really talking to her at all then i just asked her to get the fuck out, and she did after throwing a tantrum my heart was pounding but i was feeling amazing.
[–]Strict_Chemistry_797 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How do you know she unblocked you? Is there a notification?
I could see her ig account and when you blocked you can't see that. At that time I didn't have a proper phone so we communicated on IG, that changed by the time we got back together
Revenge is stupid. Stop spending your precious time and energy on this girl
There is no way she's having sex with you again so forget it.
[–]Agreeable-You9777 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hit the gym, eat a lot of protein and carbs, do some cardio maybe. You’ll start looking like a champ and feeling like a champ as a result. Then you’ll forget about that girl and move on.
[–]Majestic_Ad_2885 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fuck her best friend. Marry her best friend. In 20 years when she’s married, ask her if she wants to hook up and if she says yes, send the convo to her husband. Go crazy. Get sent to the mental hospital.
[–]UnfunnyTroll 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
pee in her butt
[–]iMeatatarian 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do yourself a favor and delete this post and man up.
[–]StayFrostyMyFriends7 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro just move on, she’s living rent free in your head as her ex is in hers, so the best thing you can do is just use the negativity you have inside you and work on yourself, it’s very cliché but it’ll certainly make you forget about revenge and her and she’ll notice that and then crawl back as exes always do
[–]wwwhhhgggwq 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Man, you young guys are some dumb motherfuckers.
Here is the deal, women aren't shit and the sooner you realize that, the easier your life will be and the more women you will get.
If a woman does anything even slightly shady, cut that bitch off immediately. You don't react, or cause a scene, or talk shit. In the friendliest, most polite way possible, you cut off all her access to your life. Her punishment is that she no longer has access to you or your life.
You're friendly and polite because in your heart she isn't a big deal, and her leaving your life isn't a big deal. That will fuck a woman's head up 1000x more than saying some wild shit in anger.
Then you go holler at the next chick, because there is an ENDLESS stream of them. When you meet the next chick, you quietly let them know your policy, you don't even say it, you just operate with the energy of: I'm the man, you're only in this relationship because I'm allowing you to be, I don't take shit and the SECOND you cross one of my lines you're out. No drama, no fanfare, just a polite message of thank you and goodbye, and then it's 100% ghost after that.
The sooner you realize women aren't your's(it's just your turn) and act accordingly the more their behavior makes sense and the more you turn them on.
If you dropped this chick the second she started acting like a dick you wouldn't be in this situation and she wouldn't be up in your feelings.
Figure out what you want to do with your life and worry about that. Women are fun that comes and goes, don't try to hold onto them or let them get in your feelings. Worry about school, worry about your job, worry about getting your male friendships and money right. If that stuff is in place, and you have the mentality above, women will magically show up to be a part of your life.
IOW worry about creating a life women want access to, don't worry about women. When you have that, they show up and you'll call the shots(and that will turn them on even more).
Finally, always remember, a woman will never love you, she only loves what you can do for her.
[–]YakOk4903 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m telling you gangy DROP her ain’t no point in competing for a girl twin💕
[–]zapadz 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3KYYFJ-g3JE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jdD-Y29WxX0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0ctRMR8qXM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmNbrlmn00w
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7p3-MJJm_R0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j7I4YBUIiL8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3miuaOWsj8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5qdBMIaS_c
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eit85FAj4wg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VLH7yUwkBPg
Use these to move on
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BVqANXVTLN4
http://happinessbeyondthought.blogspot.com/2012/05/surrendering-i-letting-go-of-suffering.html
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MU1Rp184IT4
I prolly need these, thanks brother. I'll check them out
[–]CompetitionFair7686 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Revenge… Dude you sound like a serial killer or someone you see in the news that murder a women as revenge, think of what you actually said dude.
Healthy people don’t seek revenge they just move on because they are mature.
You sound immature as fuck and that can be dangerous to society. Learn to accept that life doesn’t always go the way you want and move on.
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