[deleted by user]

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-08-06T21:21:20+00:00

Women approach men all the time just not in the "hey sweet checks, come here often?" type of way you fantasize about. But they will look at you, smile, bat their eyelashes, hover around you or make excuses to talk to you about something stupid. When a woman approaches you like this, she opens a door for you to enter through. Whether you do it or not is up to you. But if you think you can sit in the corner nursing a beer and women will be lining up to suck your dick, I think you might be quite disappointed.

No_Country7045 · 2022-08-06T20:36:37+00:00

So my advice to you would be....

...I don't know. I don't know what to tell you because you only asked the attractive guys 😢

Perfect_War5446 · 2022-08-06T20:42:49+00:00

Ofcourse you have to approach the girls that shoot " female attention" towards you!

magpie_journey · 2022-08-06T20:50:11+00:00

You will get approached if the environment it right. If you’re with a group of friends, they won’t approach you (women get approach anxiety too). But if you’re out by yourself or doing something that’s easy to approach will, you def will get interest. Was out last night with another good looking friend of mine and we were playing darts at a bar. We got approached by like 4 groups of girls and got a handful of numbers. However, 9/10 it’s better for you to approach. If a girl approaches you, there’s a large chance you’re not interested (whether she’s not attractive or you think her friend is cuter or whatever). When you let them approach you, you let them dictate the frame and conversation so you may not be in a favorable spot. When you approach, you get to set the terms (you make it clear who you’re hitting on). Yeah I’ve gotten some luck with girls directly approaching me, but you get a lot more success when you actively seek what you want

Stonksgodownn · 2022-08-06T20:55:41+00:00

It’s not likely that women will approach, they may sometimes stand near you or make comments as an invitation to start a conversation but it is not very common.

If you have begun to notice that more women are giving you IOI’s, it’s up to you to approach. It’s almost like they kind of expect it since you are attractive and they think you have confidence.

Maybe years back it might have been more common to see, but in todays dating market with girls thinking they’re all celebrity’s, I wouldn’t sit back and expect for them to come flocking.

Nikythm · 2022-08-06T22:57:31+00:00

I’m a pretty quiet/shy guy (introverted) and I’ve noticed that girls who are the complete opposite (social, talkative, energetic) approach me the most. When I try to ignore/hide from them since I find them a bit too much, they think I’m playing hard to get and wants me even more.

2022-08-07T02:42:16+00:00

[permanently deleted]

ilovefootball49 · 2022-08-07T03:48:49+00:00

I'm good looking. They will start on dating apps with "hey" sometimes more. I have 100 girls in queue they just want to be friends don't mind wasting my time. Went nowhere with more than 90%. They never initiate the conversation about sex, and if you bring it up they consider it but usually drop it. Being attractive is overrated but I'm sure others have better results.

AOYELA · 2022-08-07T06:12:49+00:00

Yes and no. I’ve had girls who I had to approach, i’ve had girls who gave me signals, and i’ve had girls who flat out approached me. I am 18 and working in customer service, and i’ve had girls straight up leave their name and number on a tissue or the check for me. Just depends

chief_yETI · 2022-08-07T09:06:04+00:00

I do get a good amount of women who make the first move on me, yes. However, they aren't usually women I'm interested in. Its rare when a girl makes a move on me who I am actually attracted to.

I still need to make the first on women I like more often than. not. Sometimes you get lucky and they approach you first, but you shouldn't rely on this being the case.

tbh I have more fun when I do the approaching vs. waiting for them

foxyalexa · 2022-08-07T15:20:52+00:00

My boyfriend who started out as just a member of my party clique is incredibly hot. While the 9/ 10 girls definitely checked him out and tried to pull his attention, only once did someone actually approach him. Me and my friends were stunned by this girl' s confidence because she was barely a 5 and he hadn' t even glanced in her direction. Of course he blew her off, but I admire her for being so ballsy. 😄

Like others have said, most really attractive girls will give hints but they're not going to be brave enough to make a direct approach. That's how I was when I was single. I'd make eye contact and smile, then let them take it from there.

burakbenxd · 2022-08-07T15:49:33+00:00

You do have to approach. Once you do some approaches, and go on a few dates, use your game. Get them attached to the point where they're obessed with you.

Being attractive is like, an ugly dude might make a corny joke, and get a negative response. But an attractive guy makes the same joke, and she'll let it slide because you're hot/cute. You get some leeway in that regard. But game is always important regardless on your looks.

PacBoiLar · 2022-08-07T01:37:01+00:00

I usually don’t have to try hard to get dates, and they always want to see me again. I also never really get denied when I ask for things. I still have to do the same things as everyone else, like pay for dinner and be assertive, but it’s just easier

Xbox-Loud-Cloud-216 · 2022-08-07T08:09:42+00:00

My face is somewhere on my profile if u wanna see what I look like .

I’m Not a model by any stretch , slightly above average face . 6,1 240

Probably 1/3 of the time I go out now I Get IOI’s ranging from stares to approaches ( approaches are wayyyyy more rare has happened under 10 times in my life but I get stares not uncommonly) from women particularly my black women .

Some examples

At a female friends birthday day party and 2 chicks walk up to me and one asks if I’m single

Was at a spot I frequent and I was the only one on the dance floor cause they were showing the ufc fight ( everyone else was in sections or the bar it was pretty empty ) I was dancing by myself ( not like breakdancing I do a nice 1-2 ) and 2 girls just came up to me and looked like 😐…. I stated backed like 🤨… and then went hi? Lol

A random girl followed me out of nowhere on IG , I DMed her asking why she followed me , if she liked what she saw . She said yes , digging through her IG I find her BF/Photographer guy

My 10 year HS reunion was a month ago , women were litteraly screaming when they saw me , it was embarrassing!!! But flattering ! I don’t think it’s cause I’m some Chad cause I’m not even a Chad . But in Hs I was not seen at all as a sexual being so I think the reaction was more from the contrast . But I had girls asking for my number asking if I had kids I overheard a girl when I left the bathroom ask “ whose that light skinned guy “.

More but u get the gist ! I’m not in that tier of men where they throw their panties off at you but I really shouldn’t complain as much as I find myself complaining about the state of dating

CommercialFig344 · 2022-08-07T08:32:27+00:00

Girls approach me honestly, I get a lot of attention from women in general. Stares, looks, talks. At a party they come to me and just start the conversation with: i love your blouse! Or you have such an awesome vibe! If you are just vibing, dancing, or in general just being you. You are an awesome person to be with. They want to be with you. You are irresisible. It makes YOU the treat, not the girls. In fact, my current girlfriend approached me first with “what is on your shirt, i can’t read it” which was really cute. Although I would have approached her too if she wasn’t first.

Ofcourse disclaimer: this method only works when you know you’re hot enough that you can pull this off.

great_account · 2022-08-07T11:23:00+00:00

Women will approach you more often, but usually the ones you want won't, so you still gotta approach.

Matt_Bigmonster · 2022-08-07T17:48:11+00:00

Good looks help you in first 20 seconds. They will be more open when you start talking and a bit more forgiving in that timeframe. But after that it's all on your social skills.
If your confidence and game doesn't match with your looks they will eat you alive.

aidsjohnson · 2022-08-06T21:06:53+00:00

I am not an attractive guy by any means, but listen man: you're kidding yourself if you think attractive guys don't have to do any work at all. Of course it's easier for them to a certain extent, but one thing on here all of us dudes have to get through our thick skulls: the girl will NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. They may make themselves "available" to you or put themselves in your proximity and give you looks or whatever, but they'll never approach you first. And the ones that do are only gonna go so far, as a dude you always gotta be the one to put in most of the effort.

Perfect_War5446 · 2022-08-06T23:09:29+00:00

[permanently deleted]

Sidsmykid87 · 2022-08-07T00:15:49+00:00

I’m considered a “very attractive” guy, and my recent ex who I was with for four years approached me, asked for my number, and the rest was history.

The girl I’m currently talking too approached me on a patio three weeks ago. My buddies can’t believe it, and the one I was with looked me in the eyes whisk shaking his head and said “train me” as soon as she left the table. That same night while we waited for our Uber another girl approached me, asked me how old I was, and told me I was good looking.

You still need to put work in in terms of conversation, and you need to be able to keep their attention after the initial approach.

I know that’s not the norm but it does happen.

Always2ndB3ST · 2022-08-06T20:58:13+00:00

So in my experience, the girls that approach me first are the crazy ones with issues. I’ve learned the hard way those are the girls I should run away from.

Other than that, it’s mostly the 7’s and 8’s that approach me. I guess they are just trying to boost their ego’s. I’ve had some act pretty thirsty for my attention.

The 9’s and 10’s will never actually approach (can you blame them?) but will definitely show indicators of interest and “approach invitations” with eye contact and body language cues. But Women in general are just more reserved.

Being super attractive as a male isn’t all that awesome my friend. I get led on and used for ego stroking all the time. Women don’t see very attractive dudes as long term material. Also, looks will only get you an audition and not the part. It’s not like how are men are more visual when it comes to women.

Merso509 · 2022-08-07T00:17:39+00:00

Objectively I am attractive if we only consider appearance (insecure, subjectively not very attractive, but when I am feeling angry or achieved then I look attractive to myself) anyways, how the hell do you notice female attention. I never see girls smiling at me or any of the things mentioned in this thread.

Once a very conventionally attractive girl, just straight up asked if she can give me her number. I was still confused.

deep2021 · 2022-08-06T21:37:08+00:00

If a girl approached because you didn't approach, you already lost some points. When most of girls finds a guy attractive, she will try to be in proximity, or try to make it easy then you have to approach and be confident. I was getting approached more when I was younger but wasnt confident so I had a super ability to destroy it sooner or later haha.

ExpensiveNinja · 2022-08-06T22:48:57+00:00

I don't go out often, but in my 30 years of living, only two girls have approached me with clear intent. One was a 7 and the other was an 8/9.

Also, in case people want to know, I'm 5'6 and I think some of my friends are much more attractive than me (taller too). I think the way I dress has a lot to do with it though. People always say I'm "cool".

Silent-Recipe-3600 · 2022-08-07T00:55:07+00:00

Women today have more options than they can handle so it is possible but not common that they will directly approach you. They will however stare at you and take a chance to be near you. For example I was walking in the gym today and this girl who I have exchanged looks and smiles with before broke her neck to establish eye contact while she was on the treadmill. That is what they will do if they are interested (most likely)

DrinksAreOnTheHouse · 2022-08-07T20:47:33+00:00

You guys needs to stop worrying about how physically attractive you are. I am an attractive guy but it only goes so far. Its not as important as you think to women. People on this subreddit use it as a victim mindset. So many other things make a man attractive to a woman other than your looks. Looks make it easier to attract initially but to be really desirable you need deep inner game, money, success, status, charm, humor, worldliness, class, confidence, sensitivity, emotional intelligence, interesting hobbies, fashion sense, etc.

Stop obsessing about looking like brad pitt or Chad. Yes, be in shape, eat well, groom, smell good, have good manners. You can control all of these things.

Look at pete davidson. He wouldnt turn heads as a dude on a subway. But hes slept with the hottest women on earth: ariana grande, kate beckinsale, kaia gerber, kim k, etc. ask yourself why? Cause hes hot? Nope.

lostmymuse · 2022-08-07T03:35:09+00:00

they make eye contact with you. a lot. and when you say anything to them, itll be the most hilarious thing they ever heard. basically they treat you like you already know them

Jjj6232 · 2022-08-07T07:38:13+00:00

peduxe · 2022-08-07T08:32:12+00:00

If she keeps smiling at you constantly; tells you to come over and talk (even about silly random things) or blows you kisses or winks this mean she wants you.

They’ll chase you and test you in many ways but yes women also do approach men.

You don’t have to do much to show interest, she’s already making things easy for you. Any non verbal expression, flirting joke or even physical touches will be accepted and get a laugh out of her.

biddybopbop · 2022-08-07T11:56:45+00:00

Nah most women will never approach you unless she’s a 1 or intoxicated.

It’s way easier to approach women when you’re attractive though, they’ll give off more choosing signals e.g long glances, staring, playing with hair, and they may even bring up a conversation about something stupid - giving you the opportunity to escalate the interaction.

Magneto_1 · 2022-08-07T13:09:36+00:00

Women are shy by nature and they just don’t flock at you, unless you are famous. You may have caught their attention, but how you approach them is key. Don’t be scared, just say hi and see what happens next, the rest is up to you!

Blast06 · 2022-08-07T22:31:57+00:00

Mmm I'm curious, what did you improved? Was the approaching suddenly after the improvement?

2022-08-08T07:45:07+00:00

Think of it like a foot in the door.

Title	[deleted by user]
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	8
Comments	59
Date	August 6, 2022 8:29 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/whxh2e/attractive_guys/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/deleted-by-user.1252711 https://theredarchive.com/post/1252711

Comments