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[–]LeaderOfWolves 105 points106 points107 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I see what you did there Mr. Vague mildly asshole dude who leaves POSTS open ended XD
[–]videogames_ 33 points34 points35 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's the nature of women. The moment you start being too nice they will ghost and flake.
[–]losingweight16 60 points61 points62 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
What do you exactly mean by being an asshole? Can you elaborate please
[–][deleted] 50 points51 points52 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've been being an asshole wrong, need OP to tell me how to do it right
[–]3boodqt 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I know right!
[–]Marcoscondit 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think asshole is the wrong word no one really wants an asshole, I also think “Nice guys” don’t actually know what nice is
[–]creamyturtle 53 points54 points55 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I would date hot girls and as soon as Im nice to them they split. its retarded
[–]goodvibes6969 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup. I’m finding out the same thing and it’s so fucking dumb. I feel kind of bad about it, but like, it’s the only way to keep something going in most cases. Oh well. Gotta play the game I guess.
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[–]Glcck 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe you haven’t met the right girl yet.
:s/right/smart/
[–]ozzzy83 23 points24 points25 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Actually, I tried the same thing with one girl 10 years ago. When I acted nice and was funny, she was ofc just nice and neutral. But then I was kinda pissed off, because back then I didn't know what I learned later, and I was just writing how all of them are just attracted to assholes and bad boys when we discussed those things, and I was kinda cruel to her, so I've noticed big shift aka transformation in her behavior, the worse I've been, and crueler, she was treating me better, even held a personal message for me and everyone else to see, that is how powerful it was. And the moment I started being the old me, the magic disappeared.
But back then I didn't know that you can be a good guy, but learn good personality traits from bad boys, even tho I always knew that they like jerks and bad boys. So yeah, everything is better than a neutral nice guy, with no balls, when it comes to girls and their reactions. The good thing is, even if you were a pussy before, and you suddenly change things and improve drastically, they will suddenly become attracted to you, so yeah, it is never too late if you fucked up, cause if they notice a big positive change in you, they will be attracted.
I witnessed nerdy girls being bad at school because of bad boys, and how powerful those traits are. So yeah, the key is to pick up good things from bad boys and be a good guy. This will be the ultimate combination.
[–]CamelMurderer 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
could you share some of the traits you're referring to?
[–]ozzzy83 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ofc, nothing unfamiliar, confidence (balls of steel level), masculinity, emotional intelligence, charm, charisma, and social intelligence.
What good traits you mean, do elaborate? .. By the way I’m very confidence, I can tell a girl she’s beatiful with no nervousness, but that just push her away rather than building attraction, so I’d like to know the good traits you mean, cuz I almost always end up in the friendzone.
[–][deleted] 107 points108 points109 points 4 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
My take is that most women get their attraction signals from their father, so they want someone like that. Most guys 30+ years ago were assholes, guys that would beat their kids and stuff like that, so that's what a lot of them are attracted to subconsciously.
That's why girls with daddy issues go for stripping or outlaws.
Anyway, if you want to be genuine and goofy find someone that had a good childhood, i don't they are many but they are still out there and she will love you like no other. On the other hand, if you just want to bang..go ahead and be an asshole
[–]Real-Edge-9288 39 points40 points41 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I really dont get these downvotes man. you basically didnt say anything off. wtf
[–][deleted] 37 points38 points39 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Meh, it's reddit, in a different day the same answer gets 10 upvotes, who cares :))
[–]heartallovertheworld 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Everyone that downvoted completely disagreed with him. I guess they were offended by this fact. But facts r facts, no point playing with them
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I think it's simply because women are very sexually attracted to men who seem better than them.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
medical slave - this is an awesome interview from a channel i love. The woman basically developed a kink because her dad was a doctor ( or had utensils at home, don't remember exactly )
Our environment shapes us somewhat and while i can't prove a rule from only one interview/person, i think from experience and everything that it usually is the case.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
okay but a lot of women seem to be into similar stuff by default - haven't slept with any that didn't enjoy being tied up for example. You feeling me.
However that video you posted is very interesting
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
very true, i think some of it is genetic. spanking, chocking, hair pulling is pretty normal these days. Not sure how normal it was before
Maybe it's a genetic adaption from thousands of years ago when a tribe would conquer another tribe and rape the women. Maybe it's because they like to feel submissive ( i know i enjoy it because it makes me feel manly and dominating ) .
So..it's a mix of things i guess
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I enjoy it cause it helps me forget the meaninglessness of life
[–]AngeloMacon 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
My only problem with this statement is.. most guys? Where the hell did you grow up that in 1992, most dads were abusive? lol
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Eastern Europe
[–]montanalombardy 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Hmm... my best female friend had one of those old timey asshole fathers. And the result is quite opposite of what you say, she is dating a huge goofball and has always dated similar guys, to my knowledge.
[–]JanetInSC1234 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good for her! She broke the cycle
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
of course, there are exceptions but i don't think they call it "daddy issues" for nothing.
I know it was understood in psychology that every man wants to marry a woman like his mother and every woman a man like her father. Maybe it's been debunked but from my experience it holds pretty true and most well mannered and emotional stable women come from emotional healthy environments.
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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
most
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greatest in amount, quantity, or degree.
"they've had the most success"
While maybe you are an exception ( although you seem quite aggressive ) can you point me exactly where i was narrow minded and arrogant? I said "my take" as in my opinion, i didn't force it upon you or said " all women are sluts " .
There are women that have daddy issues or women that become the "male figure" in the household, i have friends like that. Pretty girls that have a boyish strength.
With therapy or introspection or just good friends you can grow and heal the trauma that comes from not having a whole family.
" You aren’t a woman so you have no idea what you’re talking about and you can’t put everyone into one category."
But i have an issue with this statement, it's just stupid. Note please i said the statement is stupid, not you. It's an interesting topic that i researched a lot, and had my fair share of women so i do have an idea of what i'm talking about. Tbh from your post you are kinda proving my point, you seem mean to me and we haven't even met.
So stop being narrow minded and arrogant. You aren’t a woman so you have no idea what you’re talking about and you can’t put everyone into one category.
yeah, that sounds so nice :))
" It’s pathetic to say women are attracted to abusive men." Some women are, i didn't say all, but coming from what originally started the conversation, OP saw that if he is an asshole come girls dig it. And i kinda said that women that come from bag backgrounds usually like that type of men. So you kinda agreed with me, i know it hurts but you'll bounce back :))))
[–]mrrooftops 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They respond to this because they don't feel cornered into an outcome by the guy. They can take it or leave it, it's totally down to the girls to volunteer themselves.
[–]WorthTadpole8305 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What do you mean by an asshole?
[–]zackit 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He farted on them
[–]may-begin-now 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That is the nature of the beast.
[–]AssistTemporary8422 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Women are looking for a man, not a goofy boy. Its great to be genuine but you have to work on yourself and be a better version of you. Men who leave things open show they have standards and don't just fall in love at the beginning of the date. Men who aren't too goofy show they take life seriously. Men who have a dark side rather than being all nice can be relied upon to fight for success and not be too afraid of conflict.
[–]Still_Falls_The_Rain 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There's a reason why they call it the dating game. You'll eventually be able to open up more, but in the beginning stages women respond best to a man that doesn't spill the beans.
They need to chase something after all. Women have so many options that you're going to need to standout and be interesting.
Some also respond best to the asshole thing because they grew up in an abusive household and that turns out to be their love language. Some reject it entirely. Daddy issues are weird.
Feel it out, every girl is different so don't be surprised if this strategy doesn't work on everyone. Early on you can't really make mistakes either, so it comes down to percentages. Whatever works best I guess.
[–]paddywacknack 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Are you being an asshole or are you just no longer being a pushover?
A lot of guys are so use to people pleasing that any sort of self priority feels like being an asshole.
[–]my-dating-throw-away 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm in this stage right now. I was such a needy pushover with everyone (not just women). I've lately started to be more selfish and stand up for myself. I felt so guilty at the beginning and thought I was an asshole, but now I'm starting to see that I'm just setting and upholding healthy boundaries for myself.
I'm pretty sure I was like this from early childhood experiences. I'm learning to be more balanced.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Got to be careful saying that you need to be an "asshole" to women. People may assume that you mean that you're deliberately being rude to them and I wouldn't recommend that.
If you come off as a one track minded guy - on the other hand - who doesn't care about the outcome - this is perhaps a better definition. You show in your actions that you are deliberately going push back on the prevailing social "wisdom" of being a "nice guy" by instead showing her that you'd fuck her and all her friends and not care about it one way or the other afterwards.
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[–]my-dating-throw-away 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You shouldn't care what they think. You're just trying to have a good time (mainly socially, but also sexually), and if they're being lame then you move on to the next.
[–]Granny_Killa 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I tried this once. I went to the same club I normally had zero luck at every week. This time, I found a 'frat boy' type cap on the floor of the club and decided to adopt a douchebag frat boy persona for the night. I put on that cap and turned into Fred Durst or some shit like that.
I almost got kicked out due to some of the shit I was saying.. but the girls were loving it. I got near blackout drunk, but I remember 2 girls hanging off me at one point there. But yet... it wasn't me, I was just being a deliberately belligerent idiot.
I have no idea what the moral of this story is, unfortunately.
[–]Zhai 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What do you call "being an asshole"? If you are just sassing her behavior or pick on wording she used, that's just being playful and challenging. That makes you exciting to them, as long as you are able to also laugh at your own mistakes.
[–]iclap2fap 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just tell them what to do. Lol lead everything
[–]Salger12 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Im really trying to be detached when dating now. First time I felt like I was hitting it off with someone, I shared my feelings over something that happened and she bailed fast. Went from 100 to 0 in about 3 texts.
[–]montanalombardy 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My theory is that, highest levels of confidence just appear as being an asshole.
That's because, we modern men were trained to be exceptionally nice and to see all forms of self centeredness as being an asshole.
But if you have extreme confidence, you almost always come off as sort of self centered. But also that same extreme self assuredness is what attracts women.
Girls obviously don't want immoral dudes, they want the kind of dude who is so self assured he sort of stopped caring about others.
[–]Zealousideal6669 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Girls are probably gonna like you for who you are but it's the reality. you can hate it, you can wish that it wasn't true but you can't do anything about it so just embrace that and accept that it's the easiest and most useful way. Girls are attracted to status if you convey that you have the status they gonna be attracted to you, that's pretty much it but btw you don't have to be all over the top. If you're just pushing her away and giving her hard times sometimes like being honest even if you know that she's probably gonna be offended, tease her playfully, disqualifying her you're as high value as if you were an asshole all the time
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[–]plutonianginger -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Jesus 💀
[–]Lux_Brumalis 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
So does your mother know she is pretty much worthless other than being a fuck puppet? How about your grandmother?
[–]BW2Dat 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I didn’t make the rules
[–]Lux_Brumalis 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So if you ever have a daughter, why bother sending her to college, right? After all, she would pretty much be worthless other than something for men to fuck, and she’d know it - you’d make sure of that. Got it.
[–]CocoBabeNYC -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
I'm sure your dates are also thinking "gosh, I hate shaving my legs and pussy, putting on make up, doing my hair, slipping into a dress a size too small and spending 2 hours in high heels just to get some guy interested in me. Can't we just skip to the part where I've put on 20lbs and walk around in sweatpants all the time".
[–]CocoBabeNYC 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep
[–]SilkTouchm 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link
None of that is necessary to attract men.
Here's what you need:
don't be fat
have a pretty face
That's it.
[–]CocoBabeNYC 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
And you can't even get that.
[–]SilkTouchm 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Not sure what you're trying to get by personally attacking me, but okay.
[+]CocoBabeNYC -10 points-9 points-8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Just cause you like frumpy chicks don't mean we all do bro.
[–]SilkTouchm 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't remember asking what you like. I'm talking in general.
[–]HeadDot141 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Everybody wants a partner that’s not fat and have a pretty face.
[–]pablodiablo906 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Look man folks appreciate things they have to work for. Men and women both. You don’t have to be an ass hole. You’re just not chasing and leaving things open ended. If you’re your goofy self and also leave things open ended it should have even more success. The key is to genuinely get to know people without idealizing folks and taking the time to get to know the real them. Infatuation with the idea or fantasy of someone is a turn off for both sexes.
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