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[–]rhofire 104 points105 points106 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Now... 9/10 times would I have been successful from a cold approach in this same situation? Probably not.
You'll be rejected more often than not, that's just the game. Well done, keep it up. Don't fall for the trap putting all your energy into this girl, approach others, deal with the rejection.
[–]rocacu 26 points27 points28 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's right. Even the best ones get rejected, just don't sweat it.
[–]focus_flow69 37 points38 points39 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
The amount of people arguing about why cold approach doesn't work in an post example of a cold approach that resulted in a happy ending is astounding.
The state of this sub really needs some better energy.
[–]AstralValProjection 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Exactly, how did they think their ancestors got laid? Their ancestors are probably looking down at their descendants unable to get laid in disgust right now.
[–]GoneFishing4Chicks 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ancestors had to deal with their local dumb af population, not global instagram filters
[–]Archyblackcat 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This sub if full of guys with pussy weak mentality that come here trying to find short cuts to sleeping with women but there ain’t any.. its all 1- putting in work into your over all attractiveness and 2- get out your comfort zone and talk to girls ..
[–]The_Wisest 43 points44 points45 points 4 years ago* (11 children) | Copy Link
If you go thru life without putting women on a pedestal then you will have more success. A lot of it also comes down to chance/luck, like you had no idea that day you would get the chance to sit next to two gorgeous ladies and you made the move without even thinking about it. When it’s your time, the universe will give it to you. Just be patient for all reading, and be on self improvement at all times but make a move if you see an opportunity!
[–]5_7pickup 45 points46 points47 points 4 years ago* (10 children) | Copy Link
I disagree. Men should not just wait for the universe to give them a girl. Thats bad advice. The harder you work, the luckier you get.
If OP spends 20 hours a day cold approaching, he will get more results than any guy whos just twindling their thumbs waiting for fate to give them a girl.
Edit: 20 hours a week.
[–]ianjb 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I dunno man. A few 20 hour days are gonna leave anyone ragged. Not sure how much interest you're gonna keep up.
[–]5_7pickup 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Lol 20 hours a week. Typo. Wtf 20 hours a day. Thats madness.
[–]Kennymacdougall 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I did 40 hours a week for almost half a year. No results.
[–]WalidfromMorocco 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's crazy.
[–]123TxB1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Are you being serious???
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[–]5_7pickup 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Wtf lol. Retention is not gonna make you a king. Girls wont smell shit. What kind of cope is this?
Work on yourself for yourself. Dont do it for women. If you want women then go directly to the source.
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[–]5_7pickup 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There are tons of dudes on dry spells and all that retention still aint getting them pussy.
If you asked me to make a list of why men struggle with dating, retention legit be on the bottom on that list.
I dont watch porn or masturbate anymore. I just have sex. I used to jerk off alot but that was before i started cold approach.
I do agree that porn is toxic for men.
You put too much value on retention. Men arent suddenly going to not struggle with dating just because they dont nut for 2 weeks. Thats cope. If you want to be good at attracting women, it requires time and effort. Not nutting for 2 weeks aint that hard bro. What I do is far more difficult.
[–]djdante 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Congrats bud, if 9/10 times it wouldnt' go so well, then you'd only have to talk to 10 girls a night and get a solid number and date every time ;)
People say it's a numbers game and it sort of is - but you can get much better at tilting the numbers more and more in your favour.
Guys are often completely unaware of how many times women go to stand or sit near them in the hopes of someone saying hello.
[–]no_not_this 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
So using words like humans have been doing the last 100k years is better than tinder? I don’t believe it.
[–]dobbs1997 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well in this day and age, approaching a woman to meet her in a public setting is rare af lol…
[–]AstralValProjection 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You don't get it, do you? There are only a small percentage of men that are confident enough to approach a woman, in person interaction is better because you can display more such as facial expressions, voice, body language, etc. Where as in dating apps, it's all plain texting and no emotion behind it. A joke that would work great in person wouldn't be as great when sent in text.
[–]warrenrb1981 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Even in dating apps, the goal is still to meet them offline.
[–]AstralValProjection 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
But the answer is would they meet you? There's a 50/50 chance or even lower, approaching them will boost their attraction towards you and higher chance of success.
[–]warrenrb1981 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was actually agreeing with you. But yes, If you adapt your skills for online they will meet you, and you take it from there. Its same odds as offline (to get phone number and date) if you do online approach steps properly.
Online approach 1st starts with you having good pictures (showing different types of fun, different scenarios, different types of outfits, etc...) AND an opener that isnt being abused by the masses. If you have stale/dated pics (winter pics in summer, summer pics in winter, etc.), unless you're a model, you will have to update regularly.
Either way, online or offline, the goal is show her your value, get her phone number and escalate to where you want it to go from there.
[–]no_not_this 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I do get it. I’ve met ever LTR in person. Every fwb or ons is on Tinder.
[–]aliasname 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
"Look guys I played the lottery once and won $20 it's so easy."
[–]Imperator_Pyra 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cold approach is not easy and that's not what the post is saying. It's saying cold approach works.
Because it does.
And no, it's not comparable to playing the lottery, perhaps you'd like to try and see for yourself.
[–]Comradecraig -5 points-4 points-3 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Cold approach does work but only if you are significantly better looking than average.
If you're an average man you will be seen as a creep or sexual abuser.
[–]warrenrb1981 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
You need to build your self esteem.
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[–]warrenrb1981 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
For starters, if you aren't doing anything nefarious, you shouldn't give a fuck about peoples judgements. So what if you look like a creep? Being creepy isnt wrong or illegal anyways. Its their opinion of how you look. And dare them to say that to your face so that you can then ask them to tell you what you're doing wrong/creepy.
After getting enough feedback, you notice some responses may be founded and some are not. Now you'll realize some people are just stupid and not worth your time anyway, but only once you have a better outside feedback of what you're doing - preferably from the female perspective.
Guys will give you good feedback too, but you'll gain more confidence once its validated against/amongst women.
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I"ve updated my previous response a bit... But you have to start somewhere. Whatever city/town you are from, you need to find a wingman to go out and fuckup with. Do not settle for nothing.
[–]ZachMoore88 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was once in your shoes.....as for the confidence thing, you can fix that by finding something like and getting good at it.
Based on what I said above “Approach girls, if they reject you, ask them why”. This would be litterally the “direct approach” but just naturally being yourself, then if they reject you, you confront them with “How I just thought you looked attractive to me, and I genuinely thought I had a shot. What’s did I do or say wrong to make you not interested?”
-ANY MAN who says this is not lying, and the mere fact that you have the balls to say this to a girl that you just shot your shot at (and you have to be serious/ genuine - not pissed, not upset, not butt hurt, etc) will respect you and look at you AS A MAN and her bitch guard will drop. She most likely won’t bluntly tell you why she didnt like you and her demeanor will probably lighten up towards you, but her atttitude changing or telling you anything is a positive for you in any potential approach going forward.
This has to boost your self esteem. It would be a positive result that YOU sought and OBTAINED on your own. What do you have to lose?
[–]Zestyclose-Big3528 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is so untrue.
[+]cangero0 -7 points-6 points-5 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Women by necessity have to assume approaches are creeps. That's why I'm not convinced cold approach works beyond exceptions
[–]djdante 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wait, do you actually believe there aren't guys who cold approach and get regular results? Are you convinced it can't work for you? What are you actually believing?
[–]zenboy_69 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Learning to build comfort with a total stranger and be daring/assertive while still being respectful of boundaries and able to calibrate to different levels of interest is a big part of becoming a more attractive man in general. That's an opportunity and not an insurmountable obstacle.
There's just as much creepiness on dating apps and in social circles. You might as well say that no way of meeting women works "beyond exceptions".
[–]Zestyclose-Big3528 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Found the incel.
[–]cangero0 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Eat shit.
[–]warrenrb1981 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If you don’t be a creep, they won’t see a creep. Simple.
[–]cangero0 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
People see what they want to see, it doesn't with like that
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