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[–]Technical_Hawk8547 29 points30 points31 points 4 years ago* (11 children) | Copy Link
I can help you with the pictures. I believe every guy should use these 5 pictures.
Picture of you from the waist up and SMILING. I don’t care if you hate your smile. Other women won’t, it also shows that you’re open, friendly, and not a threat. Also shows that you aren’t hiding your body. NO SELFIES.
Full body picture. So the girl can get an idea about how you look altogether. Again smiling, preferably different locale, and clothing.
Hobby picture. Just a picture of you doing something that you like. Anything really, so she can get any idea of what you like and that you have a life.
Picture with friends. Make sure the pic is with only guys as if there’s a girl they may get confused. This shows them that you’re social and not a loner.
Dealers choice. Anything you want. If she has made it this far, she is interested. So consider this picture as icing on the cake. Whatever you’d like.
Don’t take any selfies or pictures with the angle from below. They both look bad. Selfies indicate you may not have any friends or close family to help you. When someone else takes your picture it provides them with the knowledge that you’re sociable, likeable, and friendly. You’re only as good as your best picture. If all your pics are 10’s and your last one is a 4. Then guess which one needs to be deleted. Remember Tinder is shallow. Your looks are mainly all you’re being based on. The best bio in the world won’t really help you if they aren’t attracted to you. I’d suggest putting some of your pics on PhotoFeeler to gage how good your photos and overall attractiveness is. Or post yourself on Rateme. The sad reality of it is that if you’re scoring around a 5/10 in the attractiveness scale, then OLD is going to be harder for you. Women are flooded with 100’s of men DM’ing them. If you had the same options would you “settle” for a girl? Good pictures thankfully can do a lot of heavy lifting. Most common complaint I hear from men about getting pictures is that it’s “to much work”. To that I say thanks for making it easier for us. It also shows that if a guy can’t take an hour out of his day to get some good pictures and better market himself, then why would the guy bring anything of worth to the relationship. Good luck mate, hope some of this helped!
[–]dheidjdedidbe 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Ok then what. My pics get 8 plus on photofeeler. I have followed the picture guides that are given and I still don’t get matches.
[–]Throwaway1010069 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If you are getting an 8 on photofeeler, you are not ugly. Must be something else. Your bio?
[–]dheidjdedidbe 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bio pretty much says that I am active and outdoorsy with pros and cons for humor.
[–]kingkunta16051 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Man this made me insecure too oof. Hopefully we both get decent matches in the future, fingers crossed!
[–]TooMuchJibberish 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Your picture recommendations will only work if you're goodnlooking though, if you're not then don't even bother
[–]2old2beCool 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
*FIFY
Your picture recommendations will only work if you're goodnlooking though, if you're not then *you need to improve that too.
How do you improve your looks? I wear nice clothes, I have nice hair, I work out daily.
[–]BeautifulTomatillo 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Also have the pictures you take be clear and high quality, and make sure nothings obstructing your face (sunglasses)
[–]a999man 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why don't make a dating server here 😂💀
[–]CocoBabeNYC 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I used to work with a young girl (early 20s) and I would look through her dating apps for shit and giggles. Based on the profiles that got her attention VS the swipe lefts here is what NOT to do:
DO:
For bios, don't be dry and boring. Be funny and witty. Be naughty. Write something that can be a "that's what she said joke" without the punchline.
[–]MrBlack__ 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the best advice
[–]BlueberryObvious 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
5/6 pics is fine. Face shot, full body shot, pic of you doing an activity etc. If you have muscle definition it’ll help. Bio short, make it funny if you can. Messages should be short and simple. No life story until you’ve had sex. Usually about 5-6 messages
[–]jjboy91 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
5-6 messages ? Damn you're a killer
[–]Paltenburg 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Messages should be short and simple.
I feel there's two schools of thought on this one..
Personally I always liked to chat and get to know one, and let the first date come naturally after like one or two weeks.
When I had dates earlier on it felt rushed and more like a job-interview or someth.
[–]MilkyWay01 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ask multiple friends to review your profile for you. Especially guy friends that have had success with them
[–]Paltenburg 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I always liked to rate my pics by female friends.
[–]methmonkeysyrup 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You missed the boat bro. The glory days of tinder, PoF, OKC, Bumble etc are over and it peaked around ‘15-17 for me when they keep changing the rules that favor mostly the women. That change to swipe mode and pay to play system didn’t helped at all and you still see the same obvious bots with fake profiles. Someone needs to design & make a new app since the main big ones are already slumped with so many online serial daters, bots and scammers.
[–]FrenchHouseFan 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Repeat about 15 times and you’re guaranteed at least one date, probably more. I’ve done this for the last 2 days and got a date tomorrow and potential sex for weed on the weekend. Could have gotten more if I wanted to but couldn’t be bothered to text back.
[–]stanthemilkman88 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't be fat.
Take amazing pictures
Be attractive.
[–]J33P88 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm not on dating apps and dunno if it helps but I like bullet points
[–]conker1264 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Be hot
[–]reddunt3 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's just about looks honestly. Use one close up while smiling, some full body ones while doing interesting things, hobbies etc. For a later pic, you can use group pictures, maybe even with women, for social proof. But NEVER start off with group pictures.
Honestly you just need good looking, high quality pics and you need to be good looking, well -groomed, fashionable yourself. Good physical shape is a big bonus. Dating apps are basically: "don't be ugly or good luck" As cruel as it sounds, it's reality
[–]Fynndidit 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I just started dating online profiles. I had help from my brother as I've been a meet someone in person/usually in a relationship kinda guy.
My brother is much more of the "feeler" type personality whereas I'm a logical forward type. He was able to help me out a lot of what would normally go over my head. I don't read deep into something to find other meanings but girls are masters of overthinking so it's good to keep that in mind.
The most liked comment here (technical_hawk) has it down pretty well. O and you're going to get ghosted time and time again without knowing why so just move on to the next one
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