How to fix social retardation?

sortamaybwhatever · 2022-05-16T18:12:53+00:00

Stay sober and just talk about stuff you enjoy man if she likes you she will fall in line but if not she should still enjoy your company doesnt matter what you talk about in all honesty. It’s about HOW you say it not WHAT you say - womanese 101

SKIMMMA · 2022-05-16T20:43:19+00:00

Use the FORD method. This can help branch the conversation to a thousand different places. It also puts her in the position of talking about herself and what she values.

F for family
Everyone has a family, right?... Whether you are close to them or not, we all have at least a mother and father. Even if the person you are talking to is adopted or has lost their parents this can be a great place to start because talking about things that are a bit deeper than surface level helps you build a stronger emotional attachment to the person sharing. Studies have also shown that talking about your family to strangers helps you to become significantly closer to them.

O for occupation
One of the easiest topics to start a conversation on is work. Although in some cases work is the last thing people want to talk about, most people have some form of occupation and it’s where they spend most of their waking hours. People’s jobs or education are often related to something they are passionate about, so this can give you insight into what they are interested in.

R for recreation
Recreation refers to anything that others do for relaxation or enjoyment. This is all about fun! This is an easy way to get to know someone on a more personal level, as you get to find out what they do with their spare time. You get to find out people’s hobbies and the ways they like to switch off.

D for dreams
When engaging in small talk, you don’t often get the chance to hear about what people really want from life. Everyone has a dream but, they are often afraid to share it because people HAVEN’T supported them in the past and think you’ll be the same but, if you show that you’re interested, this can make people hold you in very high regard. Talking about these topics with people can be like being on an emotional roller-coaster with them, you talk about happiness, struggle, fun and excitement.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-05-16T18:15:00+00:00

Start being honest and speaking your mind.

Breadandgamessucka · 2022-05-16T18:36:54+00:00

This isn’t easy for anyone as far as I know. Even if you go out with someone 3 or 4 times, conversation still takes some effort. That is because both people are unable to be vulnerable. So don’t beat yourself up too bad.

My only other tip would be to let her talk. If I find there is an awkward pause, I ask the girl about herself and things she’s interested in. Especially if you are asking her to go further into detail about something she was talking about previously. It shows you were listening.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-05-16T19:05:19+00:00

Your and her Hobbies, your and her personal experiences, your and her funny anecdotes, your and her life goals and dreams,… etc

Tom can share personal stories that happened and you can show interest in her personal stories, you can joke around, tease her, roast her,

vinylsnrock · 2022-05-16T20:41:47+00:00

Damn bro your title sounds like something Borat would type into google😂

kdtrey21 · 2022-05-16T23:28:03+00:00

Ask her about herself. Let her carry the conversation

burncushlikewood · 2022-05-16T22:11:22+00:00

https://youtu.be/I-GWFWc8P4Y

throwawaybclmao · 2022-05-16T22:51:14+00:00

If ur on a date ask about her. People love talking about themselves.

baddog992 · 2022-05-16T23:02:25+00:00

I made a script in my head. So when I went on a date I would have at least have something to talk about. You could do the same. Just write something out and memorize it. It doesn't have to be word for word. Try to make it funny and interesting. I talked about my job in inventory and the time I went into state prison. We were doing inventory for the state.

Neo-Rio · 2022-05-17T02:03:52+00:00

Getting to sex is like a sales pitch you are trying to make to an interested buyer.
Class is in session:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bkjfZctGMq8

I hope this inspires you to think about what sort of topics you need to be talking about with women in order to sell more effectively, and close reliably. The aren't on a date with you to get out of the rain.

zsb-007 · 2022-05-17T06:26:23+00:00

Emersion, decide who the best social person is you know well. Spend time with that person in a social setting then observe and emulate.

SlugTheToad · 2022-05-17T07:09:22+00:00

practice and look for women whom with you would like to talk about things you are doing in your life rn

oh, and live your life, so that you can talk about things you are doing, otherwise, you'll have to find a girl who lives a similar life to yours (I don't know your circumstances), that's just my two cents

incognito3107 · 2022-05-17T08:56:25+00:00

Focus more on activities, implement purposeful pause in your game, let her lead a conversation from time to time, say things that require some reaction from her. Also, you may be just not compatible and your conversation dies because there is not enough interest between you.

You can really just focus on present and near past/future and see if the words will you take you somewhere far naturally.

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-05-17T15:01:39+00:00

There are a few ways you can go with this.

First, get her talking about herself. Ask her open ended questions and that should get her talking.

Second, you already know what to say to keep the conversation going, you just don't realize it. You are worried that what you say will not be good, or make you look bad and this puts you into your head where your thinking mind shuts off. If you learn to free flow without judgement of yourself, you would be able to talk and talk without issue.

Work on not caring if what you say isn't good enough. Try self amusement and making yourself laugh. Or just say whatever you want in the moment as you would when your with friends.

Elbynerual · 2022-05-18T07:33:22+00:00

I've removed this because I don't believe you've used the word "retardation" properly in describing your issue, and the word is touchy enough that it got reported by some people. Used properly, I wouldn't remove it

Title	How to fix social retardation?
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Date	May 16, 2022 6:09 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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