I've had multiple women agree to go on dates lately, only then to say they just want to be friends

poly_nerdy_panda · 2022-04-25T21:02:56+00:00

I fucked so many girls that said they just want to be friends lol

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-04-25T20:46:51+00:00

What you are missing is that you don’t create sexual tension when you first meet them in person.

Basically, the problem is that you don’t flirt and instead you have what is known as a safe, platonic, friendly and polite conversation where your sexual interest in her has not been expressed, you don’t make the conversations man to woman it all feels safe, and like you are talking to your sister at best.

So that’s the problem, you are playing it too safe, you are not expressing your sexual interest either because you don’t know how, or because you are afraid of being seeing as a creeper or coming on too strong.

The girls you like need to feel that you want to fuck with them, right now it doesn’t seem like they feel that; it all feels like you just want to get to know them and in a friendly way.

nevertextgoodnight · 2022-04-25T20:03:20+00:00

"I'm not looking for a relationship either. But I'm interested, so what did you think this date was?"

Get them to talk it out and see what their reservations are so you can talk through the obstacle and minimize their concerns

But ultimately you know in your head if they keep harping on friendship then politely offer to walk them to their car. So you have to feel each one out. That's if you want to invest that much energy

To be honest it's hard to tell why this has happened to you more than once without all the details of each interaction

Keep in mind all relationships start as "friends with benefits" until the woman brings up exclusivity so treat them all the same

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-04-25T19:55:45+00:00

Most women are not interested in f*cking. They’re seeking validation, attention and sometimes friendship.

str8rippin_xii · 2022-04-25T22:52:05+00:00

Yeah she already found another dude she was interested in before you got the chance. Don’t worry, the same will probably happen to him, and the next one, and the one after that.

Neo-Rio · 2022-04-26T00:56:24+00:00

They just might want to be friends with benefits. Did you consider that?

That's just a clue to you to not behave in a way that will make them think that you want a "relationship" because their intention is to play the field with other guys and don't want you getting jealous. By all means be their friend, and remind them that you'll always be their friend, and that you will never screw them over.... but maybe you will screw them over and over and over and over !

It is a bit stupid for them to lay out what they expect from the start, but never accept a woman's first reponses as set in stone. As soon as you manage to change their emotions, then everything is on the table.

Once you get them on the meet, then bombard them with patterns to make then comfortable, intrigued, and horny - in that order. Done properly they'll be trying to invite themselves over to your place or vice-versa.

And if not.... stay friends, but limit spending any time with them.

daddysgotanew · 2022-04-26T00:02:04+00:00

You’re not attractive. Sorry

DavidMXXIV · 2022-04-26T01:12:09+00:00

You need to add a false distancer… right after she agrees to hang out with you, you’re going to text her this: “just to be clear, I’m not interested in hooking up or anything… I just want to get to know you.” Saying you don’t want to mess around is a huge flake reducer. I don’t know why but I’ve had huge success doing this especially with online dates.

electrisio · 2022-04-25T21:02:17+00:00

You need to create a vibe/masculine presence around them- strong eye contact/sexy eyes, tease them, build narrative about them. Your probably just being friendly or unlucky, but most likely the former.

atomant88 · 2022-04-25T23:03:00+00:00

That's good. Keep grinding. Keep working on being romantic, not platonic. Keep trying to escalate with consent

Read the wiki to brush up on your fundamentals. You're asking questions already explained there

Golferama · 2022-04-26T06:02:32+00:00

Not your fault, I’m assuming you’re in early 20’s. women now a days are emotionally unstable and can only get attached to a man after they have sex with them. That’s why women are the gatekeepers of sex and don’t like to have sex as much because as soon as they do have sex, they will get emotionally attached and want more. Social media has drastically impacted women’s view on sex and healthy relationships. Most don’t even like being approached or talked to in public anymore. That’s why dating apps are perfect breeding grounds of attention for them because they don’t even have to walk out of the house to feel important

Paltenburg · 2022-04-26T09:15:16+00:00

"just want to be friends"

sometimes this is code for: "try me"

OBVIOUSLY in a respectful way

ImpressiveGrocery959 · 2022-04-26T11:37:57+00:00

Are you flirtatious? Are you escalating on dates? Holding eye contact? Do have good conversation?

If you can improve on these there’s no reason you shouldn’t be getting second dates

Quirky_Tale_9739 · 2022-04-26T13:55:21+00:00

You are too scared to make it romantic.

Ok_Yogurtcloset_669 · 2022-04-26T14:10:26+00:00

Don't talk to them like a friend. And don't think about the words you say is not the words it's how you say it, talk to them slowly.

Madafakaaaaaaaaaaa · 2022-04-26T16:22:46+00:00

Say you already have to friends or I'm not good with friends or the things I do with you I don't do with friends... you just got in friendzone because you stay longtime in a friendly vibe and you don't show enough intent and flirt and teasing...

womenareuseless68 · 2022-04-27T00:43:04+00:00

You either did something cringe (depending on your looks you have either 1 fuck up and you’re ghosted/dropped or you have multiple chances because you’re hot) or you’re ugly and she just wanted the free attention.

hagakurejunkie · 2022-04-27T01:06:47+00:00

You're blowing it somewhere from the time you get her number to the time you ask her out. You're probably texting them too much and they're losing attraction.

Title	I've had multiple women agree to go on dates lately, only then to say they just want to be friends
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Date	April 25, 2022 7:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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