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cxa3296 · 2022-04-03T03:01:53+00:00

If the answer isn't a clear YES, then the answer is NO. Don't waste time on someone that either isn't so into you they say F'YEAH or isn't mature enough to give a clear answer. Don't waste time on people who play games. Move on to someone who's really interested and mentally ready for the type of relationship you want.

truenseeker · 2022-04-03T01:07:13+00:00

Had a situation like this, responded with a “lmao damn, I just got rejected hard” and she responded with a “sorry, didn’t mean to make it sound like That” and we ended up going to a concert the following week.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-04-03T00:41:42+00:00

When she says that she is is treating you as a kid rather than as a man… She just emasculated you. It’s like she is saying “Awww, look at him wanting to play adult, how sweet”.

This usually happens when you don’t flirt from the beginning and instead let time pass and suddenly ask her out…

For one month you behaved platonically putting yourself in the friendzone, and suddenly you decided it was time to make it man to woman.

willgo-waggins · 2022-04-03T01:29:45+00:00

WTF OP?? .. Dude ask her “was that a yes or no?” .. women always expect us guys to be clear with our comments & responses so should they .. message her now & ask her out again Op and get a clear response ..

TTV-DontEvnTrip · 2022-04-03T05:24:59+00:00

You friendzoned yourself, you said “talking to a girl for a month, just asked her out” first off if it takes you an entire month to show your real intentions you are going about relationships all wrong. You need to make your intentions clear from the start, you tried being too passive and friendly and now asking for a date is awkward. Next time you like a women make your move fast and be direct.

Point-Overall · 2022-04-03T02:45:55+00:00

Just ask her “are you free tonight/tommorow night?” That will get her to take the hint.

2022-04-03T01:02:34+00:00

I probably would have assumed that probably meant yes and started making plans to see if she shut them down or went with it.

Also if your not as bold and don't want to just act and see what happens. You can always just ask her if that was a yes or no on going out sometime.

iluvreddit · 2022-04-03T06:11:54+00:00

Sorry op, awww is a no with 97% probability. Ignore her for a few weeks and she if she misses the attention and asks you out. You are being way too nice to her.

simbuah · 2022-04-03T02:30:27+00:00

Meditate for 10 minutes, accept your anxiety/fear/thoughts and then write whatever you feel like writing afterwards.

Don't overthink it, but to me that sounds positive

Sure_Philosophy_7171 · 2022-04-03T01:45:06+00:00

You should've assumed she wanted to go with you bcz of course she did and take it as a yes

2022-04-03T05:29:10+00:00

Move on and get New hair cut

JudgeDreadTheLaw · 2022-04-03T01:40:28+00:00

Just say "Let me know when you're available" and end it there, don't ask or talk about it anymore. Girls are not stupid to forget something like that, so if she's down she'll definitely let you know. The reason why we don't pursue or follow up on the date invitation is because it makes you look like someone who has nothing better going on in his life and that date is everything to you. Also girls aren't good at rejecting so don't put her in a spot where she has to because it makes her uncomfortable. In the meantime, dont put your mind too much on it, focus elsewhere (like for real, be busy) and treat her like normal but toned down a little like "Have a good day" to "Talk to you later". Keep it short like how you would text when you're busy

Equal-Drawing481 · 2022-04-03T05:56:19+00:00

To be honest, Aww is awesome!

She thinks you were her friend then you fell in love with her. Now you have to escalate properly, else you’ll be friendzoned af and you can move on.

To escalate, i will recommend you to take everything playfully and turn it into double meanings (safe) or sexual.

willgo-waggins · 2022-04-03T01:25:37+00:00

If she doesn't respond with something similar to "omg yes" or "I thought you'd never ask," then don't pursue anything further. Chances are that she'll eventually start giving you the slow fade.

Dracron · 2022-04-03T02:31:34+00:00

So, many people trying to act like she committed some kind of disqualifying act. She isn't thinking about it nearly as deeply as a lot of the guys here. If that was the only thing that you have an issue with and everything else she's doing makes it seem like she's into you then act like she's into you.

Sometimes "awww" means she thinks it was cute or sweet which is not a bad thing. Sometimes it means other things, but everything else you have mentioned says to me that your still in a good place with her.

Finish making plans and if she dodges making plans too hard then start thinking about moving on.

Lakeyute · 2022-04-03T00:38:38+00:00

Tell her you’re still waiting for an answer and proceed from there

cass2769 · 2022-04-03T02:08:03+00:00

I would ask her why she said that. JuT say that was a strange response and why did she respond that way.

My guess is that she views you as a friend…so if you are open to just being friends just do that but if you are only interested in her romantically then it may be best to cut ties.

Fit_Material42069 · 2022-04-03T02:43:42+00:00

no answer means yes. If it was no, she'd say no.

Cowboylion · 2022-04-03T03:42:47+00:00

She’s thinking about it. Just not sure yet. If you like her give it time.

cronasminate · 2022-04-03T03:46:29+00:00

She's undecided. Don't commit. Invest into someone else. That simple.

2022-04-03T03:47:10+00:00

that's not a good sign :/

anotherwayoflife · 2022-04-03T03:16:53+00:00

i woud advise against pressuring her to give you a yes or no, lol. If she's too "nice" to say no then like it's a 80% chance she rejected you.. but you have a tiny chance to redeem this if you act cool and just say something like "well, anyway I'm interested in getting to know you on another level so I'll give you time to think it through." and just don't talk to her again until she answers lol.

Like it's a kinda shitty situation, you may have wanted to go romantic but maybe waited a little too long and she thought you were friends and didn't want to lose the friendship or make things awkward.

snappop69 · 2022-04-03T03:38:17+00:00

Don’t think of the idea of asking asking her out on a date. Just confidently suggest you meet up in real life for a drink or coffee or whatever. Don’t overthink it or make it a big deal.

BigShuggy · 2022-04-03T03:57:33+00:00

This is usually the sort of post where I would just scroll because it seems super obvious but I’m procrastinating cleaning so here goes.

When do we typically say aww? To something cute, to an animal, to something we feel sympathy for, to a child trying it’s best at something etc. This is how she sees you. What you do next should directly relate to this fact.

You can try and get a real answer like some of the other guys have suggested but to be honest I don’t see it going well because she already doesn’t respect you and if she was to say yes it’d likely be out of pity. That just makes the whole thing even more awkward in the future. Whatever you do don’t try and hide the fact that you’re bummed out that she blew you off and don’t feel obligated to hang out with her if it’s difficult given your feelings. You took a shot and missed. Maybe she’ll come around and at that point you take another one but in the meantime there are plenty of other girls on earth.

ibanezrg89 · 2022-04-03T05:00:45+00:00

Assume the sale. Now make plans. " sweet. Ill pick you up 8" type response

Equal-Drawing481 · 2022-04-03T05:57:09+00:00

To be honest, Aww is awesome!

She thinks you were her friend then you fell in love with her. Now you have to escalate properly, else you’ll be friendzoned af and you can move on.

To escalate, i will recommend you to take everything playfully and turn it into double meanings (safe) or sexual.

daring_innovator · 2022-04-03T06:16:01+00:00

She’s on the fence; guide her you’ll be fine

eyecandy99 · 2022-04-03T06:28:32+00:00

friendzone

theedgelord123 · 2022-04-03T06:41:25+00:00

It's over man, get out she might try to contact again tho.

fatbackattackcruz98 · 2022-04-03T06:41:59+00:00

So what I'm gathering here from the comments is that asking a girl out after you become friends is basically a no go compared to asking them out in the beginning of the friendship?

Delicatestatesmen · 2022-04-03T07:55:10+00:00

Invite her to something she really likes or wants to do and then dont show up.

Here are some excuses you can use:

I have a stomach ache

I have a headache or migraine

my grandmothers sick

can we get together another time?

htd112 · 2022-04-03T08:35:29+00:00

Don’t waste your time. Hit the gym and focus on you. She’ll come around

btrpb · 2022-04-03T08:36:06+00:00

You took too long. You should have polarised her earlier. Like after a couple of days. You're already in the friend zone.

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