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Grappleheart · 2022-03-23T19:46:44+00:00

I do. Male btw. It really frees me from a group and allows me to not feel embarrassed at rejection.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-03-23T21:48:57+00:00

I did when I was single. You go out without an agenda of trying to pick up women. Go out to enjoy yourself and get to know cool strangers and have strangers get to know a cool guy. If you feel ashamed of going out alone, it will show and you will have a very bad night.

2022-03-23T19:56:42+00:00

I used to but only because i got really comfy with this one dive bar 30-40 minutes from my place. i mean it felt insanely congruent with my level of comfort.

clean place but real dark and poorly lit, kind of small and a stage for some open mic. round tables mixed with little square tables to sit with dates at so you could sit beside them instead across from them. a pool table just in case.

i just cant describe how 10/10 it was/is for me personally. like id never feel weird about going in there alone.

other bars however (well lit, huge, lots of space, lots of groups of people, tv's), do not feel nearly as comfortable for me as of now.

rwalsh138 · 2022-03-23T20:04:41+00:00

I've done this many times and have met several women this way.

mightymite88 · 2022-03-23T21:09:30+00:00

My only ever 'same day lay ' was me going to a bar solo and hooking up with a solo female

truecrisis · 2022-03-23T22:12:41+00:00

Going to the bar alone is by far the best thing you can do for yourself.

My first time I sat in the corner and finished a drink by myself and then left. I felt like a loser.

Now I can walk into any bar and befriend anyone. I felt like a million dollars when I unlocked this skill.

Usually, at the bars I go to at least, there is a "community table" where people sit who didn't arrive with others and that's often where I start. But now that I can talk to anyone I'll just open any group - male, female, or mixed.

EVizzleMike · 2022-03-24T05:10:34+00:00

I’m at a bar right now by myself lol

ValerieVexen · 2022-03-23T21:56:26+00:00

Yeah, takes somegetting used to and at first some kind of artificial courage may be needed to get your foot in the door, so to speak. But you don't have to worry about friends getting bored, or drunk, or worry about their success/lack thereof/cockblocking.

Go out with the inetion of having fun, not creeping every single woman you meet. The guy having all the fun is usually the most attractive guy in the bar (unless he's really fucking ugly.)

Have had heaps of success alone. (Male, despite the name.)

turtlemag3 · 2022-03-23T22:38:13+00:00

Male. I do as well, for the same reason, no embarrassment, just get back up and try again with the next drunkard that I fancy, it's less stressful because I'm bms

mcgradydunk163 · 2022-03-23T23:23:24+00:00

I used to go by self for at least 2 years, it’s actually as productive as going with your friend as by yourself you won’t have time yo just chat with you friend and not take any action

BaconSexnDrugs · 2022-03-24T01:51:24+00:00

I did it a couple times and there is this pressure for me to not be the dude who holds his drink in one hand and leans against a wall mean mugging. It forced me to go talk to strangers and is really a good test of your character to put yourself outside of your comfort zone. I would say go to a bar (preferably) or a club with a bar. The best place is usually outside by the smoking area. By the time it’s started to peak, people will be too drunk to give a fuck that you are alone and getting rejected by a girl doesn’t even matter since nobody knows you there. Go do it man

DangleSlang · 2022-03-24T02:49:35+00:00

Male here. Yep. Actually made it easier to get approached. Think about how intimidating it would be for a girl to go up to a group of guys? So this way you might notice that you get more women coming up to you at bars and you can obviously still do your thing and approach them if you want.

It also helps with social anxiety because you know you're just there for you and whatever comes out of the night, you know you created that scenario and that you can now do it whenever you want and not just when it's convenient for your friend or whoever.

smind893 · 2022-03-24T04:54:55+00:00

Will sound nuts

But I enjoy reading at a bar with an backyard opening!

Relax. Drink. Sun. People always come up and say hi. It's nice.

oscarwildelmao · 2022-03-24T19:45:50+00:00

Yes, I’m (21F) usually out by myself, as I have very few friends in the city. It works out about 80% of the time. I usually find people willing to talk and let me into their friend group for the night, we drink and dance together. If I’m feeling it with someone maybe we kiss or (rare) go home together. It doesn’t usually end up in long lasting friendships, but I have a few people now that I can call up for a night out when I want to. I admit it is very easy for me as I’m young, attractive, and social. The rare times it hasn’t worked we’re days I wasn’t feeling my best either and didn’t do much to approach people. I’ve learned a lot from this sub. It has definitely made it easier to approach guys and also know what ‘tactics’ are being used on me, it also helps me know definitively if someone is showing interest in me.

JealousSheepherder83 · 2022-03-23T22:12:51+00:00

What kind of bars are typically best? Restaurant bars (chilis type of thing) or a “bar”?

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2022-03-24T09:31:48+00:00

Only if by "people" you mean serial killers, then yes.

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-03-24T03:15:52+00:00

Yeah. Not night clubs. Bur bars. It's how I built a new social circle.

Local_Raisin4586 · 2022-03-24T04:12:29+00:00

I (male) do. Especially as i dont know as many people here (currently abroad in taiwan) but that way is the easiest to make new friends as i have experienced.

Lukezoftherapture777 · 2022-03-24T05:19:45+00:00

I did all the time with my local bar, 5 min walk away, i would get drunk, talk to randoms at the bar, play pool with randoms, kareoke, this 1 time i met this 1 random nerdy chick and we hitted it off we were makin out by the end of the night lol good times

ziomav89 · 2022-03-24T09:58:39+00:00

M. Always. Depending on location, i prefer irish pub with live music and karaoke. And prefer being alone, until now

nbh1995 · 2022-03-24T12:00:55+00:00

I am actually considering hitting some bars myself...problem is I don't drink..but that could be a funny thing to do

Seneca_B · 2022-03-24T14:02:22+00:00

I go to pubs, bars, and restaurants alone all the time and I'm not even trying to meet women right now. I like to be in public for food, a coffee, some light reading, stand up comedy, see a band play, anything. Sometimes you strike up a conversation, sometimes you don't. It's just nice to be around other people sometimes, and if I want to do something I just do it. I don't need a posse with me to hold my hand or inflate my ego.

Glad_p · 2022-03-24T14:59:13+00:00

well i do go to bars alone and sometimes with male/female friends. lets just put it this way, it depends on your goal that night..

jjboy91 · 2022-03-24T17:21:51+00:00

I don't because where I live it's only bars where you have to sit at a table. It's pretty boring and doesn't help to meet people

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