3 days to respond, left on read. What should I do?

izelff · 2022-03-03T06:55:00+00:00

Honestly Id cut my losses and find someone who doesn't play games and isn't afraid to show they are interested. Her taking 3 days to respond and leaving you on read while, like.you said, she clearly has the time to respond if she's posting and texting other friends and whatnot. Maybe it's just me but I'd lose interest with those type games, either you're into me and you aren't afraid to show it or let me find someone else who isn't. Life's too short man

Edit: that is if she's even interested. Sounds like she might not be and could just be leading you on

mafiosomonkey · 2022-03-03T08:48:09+00:00

If it’s not a fuck yes. It’s a no, walk away

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-03-03T07:06:07+00:00

You have officially spent more time dissecting this girls behavior than you have spent with her. Think about how pathetic this is.

nosaintsfan25 · 2022-03-03T06:55:13+00:00

Sounds like she's not really interested tbh. I would just keep things normal and eventually stop talking to her. Let her know that you're not interested either. You know, like a lie. 😉

2022-03-03T06:38:00+00:00

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NoDatabase1552 · 2022-03-03T07:22:57+00:00

"If I forgot about you I would reply quickly"

Sounds like she's mad/frustrated/disappointed in your behavior. Since she continues to interact with you, it's something you haven't done that she's expecting.

Tell her you don't speak hint. If she has something against you, she better speak her mind.

Keezymac34 · 2022-03-03T08:29:12+00:00

U move on bro. Girls who like you make it obvious.

wayoflifeforme · 2022-03-03T08:59:12+00:00

Honestly? I’d just be a bit more aloof and respond whenever even if that’s responding immediately or 20 mins after she texts, BUT will cut my losses mentally and be moving on.

So like she has a chance to sort her shit out while you’re not caring and already talking to other girls. This bitch sounds retarded

ValteriButtAss · 2022-03-03T10:56:49+00:00

Dude umm... Its sucks.. in my experience, generally women don't take guys of "lOw ValUe" seriously. What you should do is live your life, build your career, hit the gym, take care of your hobbies, and THEN worry about girls. This way, not only will girls become competitive to get you, they will start hitting on you rather than you hitting on them and you'll filter out the real ones from the fake (i.e. the ones pursuing a long term relationship vs hookups)

Tl;dr; Live your life. Trust me man. Unless she starts respecting your time (responds relatively recently) and your overall well being, don't think about her

NineteenAD9 · 2022-03-03T12:32:01+00:00

Oneitis like a mf.

You care about this a lot more than she does. And the person who cares the least has the most power.

Move on. Talk to other women. Don't text or call her unless she hits you up with plans to link up.

renegade453 · 2022-03-03T13:09:46+00:00

Ditch the bitch

incognito3107 · 2022-03-03T09:30:05+00:00

It seems like you behaved in such a way that undermined your value in her eyes. You seem to be very engaged comparing to her. It looks like a lost case, unless you change your approach, make a step back and earn your dignity back. Also, get rid of phrases "I thought your probably just forgot about me", it's a real shot in the knee. You should not care what she may think and don't fear rejection by her monkey will.

5_7pickup · 2022-03-03T09:47:23+00:00

Lmao my god. Shes not interested. Ask yourself would she take 3 days to respond to thor or captain america?

Stop being so desperate. Its very unattractive.

fzgen · 2022-03-03T12:52:47+00:00

First things first. You already had put her pedestal already by thinking like that.

Secondly, if she read the message and responds very late, there is only 1 option here. She has interest in you but not that much. You are technically "yeaa maybe" guy.

2 different cities issue is the most crucial one. Depends on duration though, long distance relationship is not a real relationship my friend. I have been there. (less than 1 hour by car is not long distance)

Nofapgeneral77 · 2022-03-03T08:32:57+00:00

Dont care and move on. Ur a man.

LeBabuin · 2022-03-03T10:39:19+00:00

All you need is patience along with some boldness when necessary.

pru51 · 2022-03-03T13:05:17+00:00

The first sentence says it all. Would you leave someone youre interested with on read for 3 days? My advise is dont give the time of day to someone wont do the same.

Yerebeets · 2022-03-03T13:18:34+00:00

"First time she did this and I responded "oh I thought you probably just forgot about me" and her respond was "If I forgot about you I would reply quickly"..."

Big Oof, I would never reply after that text, it would actually lower my attraction to her since she has such a bitchy behaviour

SocialKing_ · 2022-03-03T18:35:58+00:00

Take this as a lesson.

Firstly, from your post, I can already see that you've done two things wrong.

Saying something like "oh I thought you probably just forgot about me" really just shows neediness and insecurity. Whether you feel insecure or not is irrelevant, because your actions and words are all that the girl sees.

If a guy has many options and is talking to many females, he would not give two shits if a girl forgot to respond. If he really needs a response or feels entitled to one because he asked a question then all he'd do is type "..." or "???" or "...?" if a girl hasn't responded in a reasonable amount of time.

Example:

(been texting a while already)

Guy: Hey, how about we grab a drink sometime?

Girl: Sure, that sounds fun.

Guy: Alright, well I'm free tomorrow night so what are your thoughts on going to (name of bar)?

Girl: (doesn't respond)

Guy: ...?

Girl: Oh yeah, sorry I've just been really busy. (name of bar) seems cool. I just need to check if I'm free tomorrow night.

There is a concept in game called the "point of no return" which states that if an interaction gets close to sex but it doesn't happen, the girl will go home and rationalise the reasons for why it didn't go down. Usually these reasons are things like "he's just not confident enough" or "he might have a small dick" or "he doesn't know what he's doing".

Most likely, the girl won't want to meet up with you again because she's going to think that all you want from her is sex and that's the reason why you are texting her.

The point of no return varies depending on the situation but it's usually when you two start making out in the bedroom.

If you don't fuck her then, you won't be able to later.

If she puts up resistance, you need to understand how to deal with that in the right way as to not make her feel uncomfortable.

For this interaction, I would just cut the losses and move on. Learn the lesson and try not to make the same mistakes twice.

pacg · 2022-03-03T19:06:22+00:00

Dating is weird these days. So many signals to interpret.

If the cost of going to dinner and having a nice time isn’t too much, and you’re interested in a relationship as apposed to just crushing it, then roll w it.

I introduced two good friends of mine. They set up a date and it was a train wreck, a complete disaster. Then for whatever reason they arranged a second date and it worked out beautifully. Now they’re together ten years later, in a gorgeous house with a little adorable munchkin running around. Will that be you? Who knows? It’s one possible future among many.

Woujo · 2022-03-03T07:17:12+00:00

Text her "hey I really like you, but I think the distance might be too much" That way, you are making yourself a challenge but giving her an easy way to get back with you.

I think the problem is that you are pushing her too hard and you driving all the way to her city makes you look low value.

Mr-fahrenheit-92 · 2022-03-03T13:27:31+00:00

Move on.

Used-Basil3503 · 2022-03-03T14:45:52+00:00

She sounds and behaves like literally every single guy on the dumbass dating apps, lol Some would respond to my text a week or two later and I had even forgotten who they were? So I would ask for a name and they’d get highly offended and pissed off lol. Like you fool have taken a month to respond and you expect me to remember your lame name ? I don’t store numbers by names in my phone unless you are a close friend or family, but these guys are tripping that I don’t remember who they are after ignoring me for weeks, sometimes months. That’s when I block and move on. One man even told me that he came back to me after checking out all the other dating sites and only finding scammers and hookers. So I was literally his last choice after he had exhausted all other avenues. Complete garbage on these apps.

Ok-Ad-6744 · 2022-03-03T14:55:10+00:00

Bad sign sorry man best of luck

SR__E · 2022-03-03T15:06:51+00:00

Come on bro, would you do that to someone you're into? Leave the texting games to the teens. She seems to feel you're always there. If my friend had a pity talk with one of my love interests about me I'd be so embarrassed. It's like they're trying to sell a unwanted product. Move onto the next one she doesn't deserve you. Keep your head up KING 🤴

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2022-03-03T15:36:48+00:00

SUP OP, focus on building a better YOU...better chicks will come.

Even the EXACT SAME chicks will switch up and hop on your nutsack, it's starting to happen to me.

"If you build it(your value), they will come."

Good luck, homie.

bambam1911 · 2022-03-03T15:54:43+00:00

you have her on socials ? if u do bro just go cold on her and post yourself doing awesome things and have other girls in it when shee respond take a few days to reply back

yennybear888 · 2022-03-03T17:04:23+00:00

Play it back at her. And ignore her. Do something cool (hopefully you are already, not just doing something cool to show off) and post it on IG story. This is the only way you can get into her pants.

Once I had a girl straight up tell me on the second date she wasn’t interested in me. I was seeing other women at the time so just shrugged it off. I continued doing stuff and sharing on IG (like I would have done anyways) and she reached out to me after 9 months. 9 freaking months! That victory was one of the sweetest ones

Practising_Stoic · 2022-03-03T17:16:59+00:00

Forget her brother, move on to a woman who actually does respond in time.

Due-Ad8853 · 2022-03-03T17:24:34+00:00

Bro just block her and move on... plenty of fish in the sea

canofcanasta · 2022-03-03T17:35:19+00:00

Walk

jjboy91 · 2022-03-03T17:38:28+00:00

Move on cause it ain't worth it

Legal_Development · 2022-03-03T17:56:19+00:00

Ditch the bitch

_-KTG-_ · 2022-03-03T18:32:04+00:00

Been there done that , absolutely not worth it , your brain just tricks you into keeping that connection , know your worth brother and instead invest time in yourself or find someone who's actually interested.

TheNotoriousSSJ · 2022-03-03T18:55:43+00:00

Good grief man, it’s time for you to give her a taste of her own medicine. You’re showing more interest and thus giving her the advantage in whatever is going on here. Stop giving her what she wants. Next time she texts you, don’t even open it for a few days. Start talking to other chicks, make her work for your attention.

Czekraft · 2022-03-03T19:00:53+00:00

Replying quickly if she forgot you doesn't really make any sense. Maybe she has the brains of a goldfish. And the mutual friend talking to her, what's up with that lol. In any case, better to just forget her.

raulonastool · 2022-03-03T20:56:22+00:00

Taking days to respond is an immature way people go about indirectly telling you you're not a priority to them

No-Department6252 · 2022-03-03T20:58:10+00:00

move on with your life

klippklar · 2022-03-03T17:28:58+00:00

"oh I thought you probably just forgot about me"

-_-

If you hadn't lost already you now have.

Title	3 days to respond, left on read. What should I do?
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Upvotes	29
Comments	50
Date	March 3, 2022 6:32 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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