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Creative_Wallaby_439 · 2022-02-18T15:05:23+00:00

Dude your message is full cringe and foesnt sound confident at all

bcool_returns · 2022-02-18T16:18:43+00:00

Sigh. All that was required was texting hey and signing your name. You went 0 to 1000, self-deprecated, and put her on a pedestal. She's just a human, man.

thelambofdeth · 2022-02-18T15:04:35+00:00

You paid for her drink AND sent that. There's no way you actually sent that text...it's cringe af and no sane woman, let alone one you met at a bar will respond to that. Why did you basically send a love letter?

This has to be trolling lol.

Pluglord · 2022-02-18T17:08:40+00:00

Why are you talking to a girl you just met about your lack of social skills? This isn’t sexy. Your giving away too much too soon. You don’t know this woman.

Try not to send more than 2 sentences at once when texting a woman. Be mysterious. Less is more. The text you sent was just cringy and uncalled for.

fatFIRE4Life · 2022-02-18T18:06:44+00:00

She's not interested. Don't talk to her ever again, unless she initiates. Don't ever look desperate for a woman.

SpookyKG · 2022-02-18T18:39:36+00:00

super cringe.

'Nice pipes, you had the room jamming! - *name*'

That's IT. That's all your first text is.

And after that? You still don't flood her with tons of bullshit. You make conversation and tell her you should get together sometime.

jdgrazia · 2022-02-18T17:14:46+00:00

dude, you are too focused on this one girl. if you go back to that bar say hi but don't talk to that girl again until she sees you leave with another girl.

7asas · 2022-02-18T19:54:52+00:00

Your message shows no confidence. It just sounds like a message of a total simp. Don't be like that, be more manly more confident. Imagine a cool guy that you could look up to, would he write messages like that? I don't think so.. 🤔

HeavyMetalLyrics · 2022-02-18T17:40:31+00:00

Lmao This was you:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DU3Pk6oDNRU

The-Bull89 · 2022-02-18T21:23:25+00:00

You done goof'd op.

Forget meeting up with this girl, and just take the loss.

On the plus side there are some positives you can takeaway and you can learn from where you went wrong.

You successfully approached an attractive female in a social setting. The approach obviously went well as she invited you to her group. You number closed. These are all things you did well and should gain confidence from. This is a numbers game after all and approaching can often be the most challenging part.

Where you failed was you didn't escalate on the night. Without being too obvious you need to let her know your interested in her sexually. When you asked her to hang out sometime it sounds like you lacked confidence and conviction. Don't think I need to mention the text messages enough has been said about that.

Main takeaway here is don't let this knock you back. Lions don't catch thier prey on thier first ever attempt. Keep your chin up, go out there and make more approaches.

NotANerdReally · 2022-02-18T15:24:03+00:00

You went to a bar, met a bar-hopping hot girl with a great singing voice, who has tons of options and gets lots of attention.

The content of your text doesn't even matter here. Unless you are Young Brad Pitt incarnate, I would not expect much from this encounter.

bewaregravity · 2022-02-18T18:51:01+00:00

can this get Pinned as a lesson ?

Fiftyonefourty9 · 2022-02-18T20:54:59+00:00

This belongs in r/sadcringe

Amkg2020 · 2022-02-18T23:14:12+00:00

Be patient who cares , ya might get lucky ya might not keep playing and if she texts try and score

ActiveRooster2926 · 2022-02-18T23:48:49+00:00

Not to mention his spelling and grammatical errors. Irrespective of what the future brings. That doesn't make any sense. Apologizing for what ? Definitely throwing too much at her.

Keep it short, simple and sweet. Gl I wish you the best go get her tiger !

Sakred · 2022-02-19T00:08:36+00:00

I am not trying to judge you just to share the uncomfortable truths I believe to be the case here. I'm not sure why everyone is ripping on you, as if we all haven't been awkward af at one point or another.

You do not see yourself as equal or worthy. You're emotional and lack balance. Your social awkwardness is demonstrated in that you do not understand how to properly calibrate your rapport in terms of showing interest, admiration, and affection. It should be reciprocal and roughly equal in terms of strength and frequency. Being the initiator of such things is good and demonstrates a certain strength and vulnerability, but too much too soon or without warrant is low value behavior. The nuance there will take a while to master. Scale back your eagerness by 90%. In general I would guess you need to stop apologizing for existing. You're a mother fucking human being, start acting like you belong because you do. Humility is good, but you need to balance it with an understanding of your value as a consciousness experiencing this existence we all weave together.

You have repeatedly demonstrated that you consider yourself low value.

You have elevated her above yourself after knowing her for less than a day.

The imbalance you created is probably not one you can fix with more words over text, you're just going to end up digging the hole deeper, which you have done with your initial attempts to salvage what you're in the process of ruining. No self respecting man will say he felt 'icky'.

You can't unsay what you've said. The good thing is that although the damage is done, if you're able to cease this type of behavior entirely, it's possible she may let it slide and let you define yourself differently. She seems pretty chill, and will likely keep responding until you completely hang yourself. Just stop drawing attention to 'it.' Stop apologizing. Don't even acknowledge that it happened. Awkwardness passes the moment it happens unless you keep carrying it with you.

Obison37 · 2022-02-18T14:59:32+00:00

Personally sounds like she can fuck off like most girls

SlyderKmK · 2022-02-18T21:33:04+00:00

Hahaha...wow. im just really hoping this is a troll job. If not, man....you just really need some major help!!!

nelsne · 2022-02-18T23:44:08+00:00

This is common as dirt

sergeiglimis · 2022-02-19T01:07:18+00:00

Keep it under 2 sentences, rule of thumb, funny, hint of sexuality, silly.

ElToreroo · 2022-02-19T01:37:24+00:00

Ooofff this was hard to read you need to learn to keep your personal shit to yourself when you first meet someone

TheCaribbeanRedditor · 2022-02-19T01:42:52+00:00

For the love of everything holy, please do NOT go back to the bar hoping to find this woman.

Just...leave her alone. There are other women at the bar, and at other bars, that you SHOULD be talking to. Go find them.

Mellow_Avenue · 2022-02-19T01:51:30+00:00

Must be a troll shitpost.

Benbig_ppdover · 2022-02-19T01:57:49+00:00

Move on.

hahawhoa · 2022-02-19T01:59:35+00:00

I don't mean to be a dick but LMAO

mjornir · 2022-02-19T02:21:55+00:00

Ew dude you reek of insecurity

but to answer your question, I think you should not think about it at all. move the fuck on who cares

kacey- · 2022-02-19T02:51:42+00:00

Ya bro that reads like a text i sent a girl while I was high on oxy and morphine after surgery in highschool. Cringe af

iluvreddit · 2022-02-19T02:56:01+00:00

Fuck man… you need serious help

capnill · 2022-02-19T03:23:43+00:00

For a second I thought this was in /r/roastme

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