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Therocksays2020 · 2022-02-17T09:05:50+00:00

Only four women? Yeah that’s not how cold approach works friend. Talk to me when you approach 50 women

mightymite88 · 2022-02-17T09:15:22+00:00

4? That's your sample size ? Step up. Try 40 and see how you do then

determinator94 · 2022-02-17T10:55:05+00:00

4 women out of… at least a couple billion in the world. Watch this clip: https://youtu.be/N7FVmeJXwCY

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-02-17T12:32:15+00:00

That’s like saying if you talked with 4 women on dating apps and they reject you, that dating apps don’t work.

Or if you talked with women form your social circle and they reject you that then social circle game doesn’t work.

The problem is you expect to be successful immediately. It’s like playing 4 football matches for the first time in your life, and expecting to win tournaments and stuff like that immediately.

You need to train over and over to get good at anything including cold approach and yes that means you will get turned down A LOT.

however the more you practice your social skills the more victories you are gonna have.

It’s like selling products you can’t expect to sell stuff immediately if you never sold stuff before and then complain that no one wants your product or that’s willing doesn’t work, it takes practice, and experience to get good at something.

It takes months of daily practice to get good good at something. Try approaching 3 women every day for an entire semester, and you will improve, the girls reactions and responses will be easier to predict making it easy to know what to say after you see what works and what doesn’t in general,… etc

Your first approaches will all be shit, because you don’t know what to say, if you say something it won’t be smooth and will feel awkward, sometimes you will ask things you shouldn’t ask, or say things you should say, and sometimes you will be lucky and say the right things at the right time, etc

All of those experiences is what helps you notice patterns in women’s behaviour, and thus you will be able to modify your approaches to what has worked more often based on those experiences.

You learn by doing things over and over again, not by trying 10 times and then deciding you’ll never succeed.

You don’t become the best football player in the world by playing 10 matches, you become the best one by playing football your entire life every day.

Midwestern_Pariah · 2022-02-17T14:30:23+00:00

Girl here. Watch for eye contact to gauge who to approach. If a girl keeps looking at you, especially if she holds your gaze, she’s interested. Make conversation that is not flirty but ask for her number before you leave. If she says no or she has a boyfriend, take it in stride. I’ve actually given my number to a guy who I declined giving my number, when he took the rejection really maturely.

thelambofdeth · 2022-02-17T13:15:21+00:00

It only works if you're good-looking and or have high status. Other than that if you're approaching random women, you're just playing the lottery.

jtaylor27141 · 2022-02-17T13:13:22+00:00

You’re going to have to talk to hundreds or thousands to get a relationship. Even for good looking guys.

mercush · 2022-02-17T11:20:12+00:00

The other comments already pointed out 4 is an incredibly small sample size.

I also think you vastly underestimate how much there is to learn about cold approach if you think you can tell whether it works after 4 approaches.

My first 4 approaches were terrible compared to after I practised a lot. I was nervous, stifled, didn't know what to say etc. It took me way more than 4 approaches to even know what I was doing.

BestAdviceYouCanHave · 2022-02-17T12:22:44+00:00

Your 4 sample group is smaller than my user interface sample test group of 20

Keezymac34 · 2022-02-17T13:10:51+00:00

Wow bro i did 13 in one day and got a date . U need double digets in 1 day.

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-02-17T14:42:37+00:00

Only 4?

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-02-17T16:08:45+00:00

Are you white?

Minute-Lie-2287 · 2022-02-17T17:34:24+00:00

4 and you're ready to give up ? Lol

Efficient-Prompt-793 · 2022-02-17T18:32:46+00:00

Maybe approach women that make eye contact and are in your vicinity aka choosing signals and ioi's.

24akr · 2022-02-17T18:53:15+00:00

It does work, how do u think people are getting gfs? U approached like 4 women and like also it depends on your approach. If u just talking to them without forming some sort of convo or when they look like they may be in a hurry, ofc they gonna pull excuses out there ass.

I legit cold approached a few girls and got genuine numbers so

max_samhain · 2022-03-15T11:14:50+00:00

Im also kind of struggling with cold approach right now, thats why I found this post.

So, first of all cold approach has a lot to do with luck. You can have several days in a row without getting a number and then you get 5 numbers within 1 hour..

Then: its not just about having the guts to approach. You have to improve your game - unfortunately I dont really know how to it myself, thats why Im here. But: just approaching a girl, saying some words and asking her for her number might lead to some nice talks and numbers but the majority of girls who give you their number after 1 minute of talking will not reply when you ask her for a date later...

Im doing cold approaches for a year now - pretty sure approached more than 1000 girls meanwhile - and I didnt want to believe that for a long time but its true: you have to go on instant dates or at least try to talk to the girl as long as possible. Besides that: its the most easiest to just go to a girl and tell her "Hi, I saw you and I like how you look" or something like that - I still do it like that. But Im sure you will get more numbers with a less direct approach so that the girl is not immediately thrown in a situation where she has to decide wether she likes you or not within some seconds. This is too much for many girls. Its better to comment on her clothes or the situation or what shes doing at the moment so you can have some casual talk at first before you compliment her in a way that shows very obvious what youre intention is..

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