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[–]klippklar 4 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
Just say "hey I'll be 15 minutes late because I gotta run errands, that cool with you?"
[–]rlopes528 4 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
I love that idea thanks
[+]One-Hedgehog4722 -13 points-12 points-11 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Leave out the “is that cool with you”, asking for approval
[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 47 points48 points49 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh, get off that "alpha" shit, man. If you're trying to make a change to plans that have already been agreed upon, it's perfectly appropriate to ask for agreement on the change.
You never need approval for personal shit, but cooperative shit needs cooperation. These are the kinds of distinctions that separate confidence and arrogance.
[–]One-Hedgehog4722 -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My fault, I thought this was the seduction thread
[–]Matt_guyver 96 points97 points98 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Just text and confirm, it’s better than wasting your time. Women are flakier than shit in 2021 anyway
[–]rlopes528 4 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I thought so. I thought about two ways to go about this
What do you say?
[–]Matt_guyver 23 points24 points25 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
Y’all didn’t already agree on a time?
Just so you have the benefit of my failures, once I bumbled a cute chick who lived about an hour away. We chatted and agreed to meet at the Farmer’s market Saturday morning, that was probably that Wednesday. So anyway, Friday During the day I hit her up on bumble to confirm. Crickets. I figure it’s off, why drive all the way out there? She’s on bumble at the agreed time, “where are you?” I never heard from you! So she was pissed that I didn’t show saying “I’m rarely on the app.” Apparently we had “different communication expectations.” Whatever, whatever your name was. I think asking for a confirmation is reasonable, some people blindly trust? I honestly don’t know, it’s all a numbers game. Overbook women cause odds are, they will flake. Then you look too busy for them 😎
[–]succcondese 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
never only talk on dating apps. you should always get her socials as fast as possible
[–]MiscProfileUno 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t ask, just tell. “I am available at 3PM”
[–]Interesting-Fan-603 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have always confirmed my dates on that day. A few hrs in advance. Like 3/4 hrs or so. You can still get flaked on... so just checking ensures she doesn't stand you up. If she doesn't reply, she intended to do that. Any excuses is already a red flag. Wish u luck
[–]LegacyOfMaverick 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“Hey! Wanted to confirm we’re on for tomorrow? XPM @ location”
[–]ProfessionalAffect90 25 points26 points27 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m assuming you are taking the girl for drinks as you should be.
Let’s say drinks are at 7 I always shoot this text around 11.30-12
Is it time for a drink yet…
They laugh and agree and you then know it’s still on.
I haven’t found a less needy text
[–]ThatGuy_Nick9 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I just go “hey, we still on for ‘X time’ today”
[–]miamiric3 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the way
[–]Mysterious-Pipe-617 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
if you scheduled it then expect her to show up if not its her loss. also tomorrow morning just text her saying “I’ll see you at (time)” or if its kinda formal (i dont reccomend) then say “see you at (time) wear a nice dress.” you will be given points letting her know what kind of venue shes going to.
[–]Asmothrowaway6969 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just text her and say "hey, we're still good for tomorrow at X?"
Personally if a guy doesn't confirm the before or day of, I don't go
[–]throwawaynibs 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hey, we still on for -activity- at -time/place- tomorrow?
It’s that simple.
[–]1990MeWuzBorn 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“Hey I’m gonna be about 5 mins late”
[–]jestercake 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Confirm the exact location where you'll meet
[–]Shadykid47 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You’re just confirming, how is that needy? You’re thinking too much in my opinion
[–]hulk_hogans_nutsweat 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Text her “hey we still on for (time)?” Simple.
Some of these replies are telling you to say “I’ll be a little late”. Don’t do that. Everybody complains about all the games and bullshit going on in the dating scene, and yet those same people keep it going. If you’re really going to be late then tell her. If a girl is really going to think you’re needy just for confirming a date then she’s not worth your time anyway.
[–]xdtla 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We gon' do this shit or what?
[–]boy2952 points 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Set the date, say “let’s get drinks Thursday at 7”. Ask her “does that work for you?” The day before the date say “hey let’s meet at [bar name], see you tomorrow :)”. wait for her to confirm with something like yea see ya tomorrow, looking forward to it, etc. You set the location so close to the date you don’t have to confirm, shout-out AMS for this tip
[–]rewinder909 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Send a meme pic something funny about your first interaction or something you want to share that make her laugh, then ask after a little small talk. Are you still ok for tomorrow?
[–]pkuforlife -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hi <girl I’m trying to fuck>, I would LOVE to see you <place and time> like we talked about, but haven’t heard from you so just let me know so I can plan out my day.
[–]wallynext -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There was a guy who did everything that is textbook needy on purpose, and he still got the girl, why? Because he didn’t think those things were needy
[–]JacobMoogberg69 -5 points-4 points-3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
All it will do is tell the girl you get flaked on quite a bit.
[–]Matt_guyver 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
See it could be interpreted that way or it could be seen as a sign of good communication. There’s probably other ways to take it too. Again, numbers game. If you’re not serious, overbook women so you have options then you look like you have something better going on because they want to compete for your time.
[–]lightskinnedMex 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I just say "can you still meet tomorrow?". Thats it.
[–]njahatron 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just write "Hope you had a nice weekend/week/whatever. Looking forward to tomorrow!"
If she's still down she'll respond, no worries.
[–]KingofAudiobooks099 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree don’t ask for approval
[–]Shadow__Account 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What you could do is, say your date was at 3pm, you could say, hey about tomorrow I can’t make it till 3:30 is that ok? Or if you didn’t have a time yet, something like I can do 3 pm tomorrow does that work for you?
[–]External_Lifeguard49 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You can say `Are you still on for tomorrow night?’ And leave like that. If you get no response from when it’s near the time, charge her ass to the game. Simple
[–]rickmackdaddy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“Hey, I’m going to be about 10min late tomorrow. See you at (address) then, cool?”
[–]CheekyBurgerr 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You: We still on for tomorrow? Them: answer You: Cool
[–]recursivePasta 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I just text "Sup girl", she knows why you are texting, and just back and forth a bit.
DO NOT confirm it like an appointment.
[–]sugar_b00ger 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
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