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atomant88 · 2021-09-28T10:41:41+00:00

average is still better than 49% of the population. thats pretty good. don't sweat it.

Particular_Visual531 · 2021-09-28T16:49:50+00:00

First realize that you're not average. You have something of value, you got to figure out what that is and improve it and own it. Maybe you're a good friend, maybe you're a good computer programmer, maybe you're great with animals or with kids. Take charge of your life and watch the women be attracted to you!

I'm a dating coach and help guys with this all the time. A very abbreviated version of my 4 pillars of success are:

Work out! and that means heavy weights every day( every 4th day do a yoga/ stretch/ walk day for rest, but still do exercise at the same time everyday to build the habit). Men are judged on their ability to protect and do things, muscles is the outward expression of that. People will perceive you differently, and you will feel much better about yourself. This doesn't have to take up a massive amount of time, 30mins to 1 hr a day, just push your limits!
Life's passion! Everyday for 15 mins work to find your life's passion then work towards it. There are lots of books and articles online helping with finding your passion. At first just read them for 10 mins and write your thoughts the last five. Then once you figure out what you want to focus your life purpose on, then start doing it in that 15 mins. Everyday set a simple goal for the next day that gets you closer to your passion/purpose (for example, read and article and write notes on it, sign up for a class, email a mentor in your chosen field, etc). Setting and achieving goals is a powerful mind trick to making you confident you will achieve your purpose and this confidence will help you to believe you are a above average male when it comes to dating. This is what I call believing your a top 10% guy. And yes your life's passion can change and maybe it will several times if you are young, that's ok. What's important is that you really feel that its something you want to focus on. And for a good while your passion can be trying to find your passion, thats ok, just follow the formula, 15 mins of studying and goal setting every single day!
Be a true alpha male! This is not the toxic asshole alpha people think of, but instead a true leader, you help old ladies cross the street, help someone get safely home that drank too much, say nice things to everyone in the office and build people up, and don't let people be negative about others to you. See a true alpha leads and protects the tribes/herds/groups
that he is part of, particularly the weak. This skill starts with greeting people everywhere you go with a smile and hi! Then builds into thanking the bus driver, asking the taxi driver how his day is going, being nice to the waiter or waitress. Complementing people on their style or celebrating their success and helping people when they need it most.
What is called here seduction skills. This is the last piece and we will work on it later. But I don't just teach with what I hope works, instead I use thousands of psychological tests/experiments/studies to demonstrate what is proven to attract, to learn why men and women act like they do, how should we act to appear attractive and have quiet confidence, and how to tell if a woman is becoming attracted to you and most importantly how to accelerate that attraction.

So start over tomorrow, go about your day with pride and purpose. Say hi to men and women. Genuinely smile. Make a goal to say hi to 5 people a day, then 10, then 15. Then make it a goal to say something positive to 5 people, a complement or help them with a small task. Start looking for opportunities. This is not just women you're attracted to. This should be everyone.

Next start thinking about opportunities to invite people to small gatherings and parties. Let everyone invited know they are encouraged to bring a friend or two. As the host this will help you build your skills but will feel very natural. Have a party to watch your favorite sport or movie/show. Have a party for any stupid event like watching a comet or election day, or just a bring your favorite dip party, or let's all drink beer and do a painting party. Arrange fun outdoor activities like a camping trip, a beach picnic, or your own outdoor rave. Get the idea? any reason is a good reason to have a party. People will start knowing you as the guy that is fun and positive. Again reach out to the quiet people at work. Inviting those that could use an invitation the most, this will be a silent signal to everyone that you are confident, that you aren't following the herd, but that the tribe follows you.

DM me and I'll give you the plan to become successful with women for free. You just have to put in the work.

AdDangerous7103 · 2021-09-28T11:10:45+00:00

Would you sleep with an average woman. In comparison to someone who you know is fucking hot? The answer is more than likely know. Nobody is really 100% ugly. I’ve found women who are some would consider a 5/10 extremely attractive because they have a certain quality or maybe something physical that makes them STICK OUT. Learn a new hobbie, hit the gym, learn about men’s fashion/style and become this man that you want to be. What you are right now isn’t what you need to be. THATS WHY YOURE UNSUCCESSFUL! BE THAT ALLSTAR THAT YOU ARE AND DONT PRETEND TO BE SOMEONE YOURE NOT.

For instance, I’m a very good looking dude. Getting close to mid twenties, Height, face etc. BUT BRO you look at me in middle school begging of highscool. I had a comb over, glasses, skinny as a stick, and FUCKED UP SHARK TEETH.(No Exaggeration, used to get called “Sharkboy” MY POINT IS. I NEVER had good luck with women. I was too nice and agreeable. Because I genuinely wanted to be nice to everyone I met. Well fun fact. Nobody cares about people being nice without reason. Only times you get that is when you’re being served… and it automatically makes them feel like they have a sense of power/ownership over your fountain of niceness. You need to be real careful it’s people and stand up for yourself and what you’re worth ALWAYS. Are you eyebrows fucked up? GET THAY SHIT DONE, or do it yourself and figure out how to make yourself look more symmetrical.( A hairstyle, SOMETHIN) I did all of this for years now to makeup for how I felt I looked before. And yknow what…it worked. And it can for you too but you gotta stop with this mindset that you can’t be better because you know what. WOMEN SEE IT. and you will unconsciously project it in interactions. Thus leading you in the position you are now. CAUSE YOU CANT TELL ME THAT, THAT MINDSET HASNT MADE YOU MISS OUT ON OPPORTUNITES TO GET SOME CUZ YOU WERE IN YOUR HEAD. Love you brotha. And wish you the best. YOU CAN DO IT. LEAD WITH INDIVIDUALITY AND CONFIDENCE. If you take any person in life who has made an impact on this world it’s with these to things.

GuaranteeOwn5108 · 2021-09-28T10:42:57+00:00

Walk up to a woman you think looks really good and say Hey… you look really good. Then talk to her.

theindydriver · 2021-09-28T11:29:33+00:00

Gotta learn game bro

BigBootyBear · 2021-09-28T12:45:44+00:00

You don't. This is why your DNA has double the female than male ancestors.

Throughout history until now, the trend has been the same (though with numerous variations) - high status males have harems or extramarital affairs. Average males have monogamous relationships with whatever female they are lucky to end up with. Low status males are mostly cuckolded, marry later, or never at all.

The average male will never bother to expand any non-negligible effort to become better with women. This is what makes him average. If you expand any meaningful effort into increasing status, charisma or appearance, that makes you non-average by definition, making the question redundant.

5_7pickup · 2021-09-28T10:40:30+00:00

Refer to my field reports. Im 5 7 height wise and I go out solo to top vegas night clubs.

Only thing I got going for me is my physique. My face is probably 6/10.

Spinuchi · 2021-09-28T19:20:06+00:00

If ypur average looking become an above average man in other areas. It might take years of work but you have tonstatt somewhere. Develope a mindset of alpha, improve your finances, and career, go to the gym and gain muscle, develope some admirable hobbies, develope a better mindset, improve your social circle, dress better etc. Essentially improve all other aspects of your life

You will find that you care less about focusing all your attention on intimacy and women.
Women will notice that you are a man of value. Ive seen it happen again and again that women are attracted to your physical appearance true, but a centered confident man is more impressive to them.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-28T15:07:47+00:00

The advice is always the same:

Learn proper Game.

AnnoKano · 2021-09-28T21:14:43+00:00

Are you really so average looking that you think looking for pity from others will fix it?

Absolutely terrible mentality, be fun and interesting instead.

bandsupjay · 2021-09-28T10:56:17+00:00

Personality bro. Boost it up and express yourself to the fullest, also make sure ur confidence and self esteem is in check. Have game and thats all you need, u can work with that with a average face

jestercake · 2021-09-28T12:53:21+00:00

Stop being average

2021-09-28T15:09:30+00:00

I don't think it's even appearance related. I'm jacked and I'm nearly a 32 year old virgin. I think it is a huge sign that you are a successful male in 2021 if you have a girlfriend, kind of like owning a car many decades ago was a sign of success.

I don't think there is an answer.

Appropriate_Ad3327 · 2021-09-28T12:27:14+00:00

How tall are you?

gmahogany · 2021-09-28T15:50:34+00:00

be better.

strugglingstudent00 · 2021-09-28T16:31:34+00:00

average body and face can be worked on with a basic gym routine 3-5 days a week and a basic skin care routine. The Cerave value pack from walmart has a face wash, morning lotion with sunblock and a night lotion. It works super well for the cost and helps to give you a fresh look.

2021-09-28T17:50:56+00:00

There is nothing wrong with average looking. They say there is someone for everyone. Get a hobby or hit the gym and make improvements as you see fit. It will boost your confidence. As a women, a man's personality is more important than his looks. A good looking guy can have an awful personality and then I'm out. Once I get to know someone, their personality is what makes or breaks it for me. Stop beating yourself up and learn to believe in yourself. Women notice that shit!

OwYouHitMeInMyWienew · 2021-09-28T20:17:11+00:00

Go for average women.

MomsSpecialFriend · 2021-09-29T00:59:18+00:00

Date on your own level. Be honest with yourself.

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