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Graynal · 2021-09-16T13:11:01+00:00

but...but...ma body count...

house6969 · 2021-09-16T12:15:34+00:00

Well said✨

MO_drps_knwldg · 2021-09-16T14:59:52+00:00

This is why the PUA/dating coach mindset is inherently flawed. This approach puts women and their approval at the center of their personal universe. Success is superficial and typically short lived, and when rejection happens, they crumble.

ketchup308 · 2021-09-16T14:09:38+00:00

Youre not my dad. My hobbies are getting rejected and CA. That's how I make my money... When they put change in my cup.

minuteman_d · 2021-09-16T14:45:25+00:00

It's something that I've heard called "wholeness giveaway syndrome". It's normal and natural, but not healthy to "give away" your sense of self and wholeness to a relationship or relationships. It's only when you love yourself for who you are, and work to improve yourself and work to develop hobbies and happiness that you will be really effective at finding a good relationship.

There's an interesting community and course that you might want to check out. I have no affiliation with them, other than I like their content (including their YouTube channel)

https://www.awakenintolove.com/

2021-09-16T16:23:39+00:00

This is the thing: PUA selling boot camps are feeding on your insecurity. None, or very very few are guiding you how to be a better, well rounded man. Because that's the key. Having your shit together is what it's about, not mindlessly approaching women.

Thierr · 2021-09-16T18:15:47+00:00

I'm successful in dating but I'm not happy... Its all my life is. I'm trying to figure out how I can change this but it feels like I'm stuck in a loop.

I don't really like anything else, I have no passions or activities I like to do other than being on my computer and traveling. I want to start a hobby but I don't like anything. Please help :(

kinstinctlol · 2021-09-16T15:48:13+00:00

My #1 priority in my life is to finish my 2 year degree from Community College.

TheExpiredEgg · 2021-09-16T12:29:26+00:00

Facts!

L15A1 · 2021-09-16T13:42:03+00:00

Just got dumped on the forth date, fitting advice bro

SuaveFuck · 2021-09-16T20:24:00+00:00

two things will destroy a man:

a) she's the only one that can make me happy

b) when i get to date her, it has to end in my bed or my life is over.

you might as well play russian roulette.

Throwaway902ve · 2021-09-16T17:15:36+00:00

Do whatever the fuck you want to do.

If you wanna spend all your time on girls do it! I would love to have the capability and time to do that.

2021-09-17T03:33:44+00:00

Yeah, when seduction is your primary goal in life, you'll likely find a woman, but be unable to keep her around long-term

Throwaway902ve · 2021-09-16T13:59:04+00:00

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Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-09-16T16:15:23+00:00

Seduction and hobbies do go hand in hand, but it's also very possible to keep seduction as your #1 priority if you are combining it with your hobbies.

scenesick2 · 2021-09-16T13:25:51+00:00

If your #1 goal in life is to bang as many girls as possible then don't follow this advice.

Pringles__ · 2021-09-16T16:21:12+00:00

Approach seduction as another hobby/objective, not as your only one, not as the most important one.

chinamcdonald · 2021-09-16T18:46:48+00:00

lowkey, i just want to get locked up and chill, but why does it feel like I have to do a million different things in self development to achieve this?

Worried_Rip2933 · 2021-09-16T21:59:30+00:00

You should never make your happiness depend on someone else, we cannot control what others feel and how they behave. Peace must be within you!

Hot-Construction-811 · 2021-09-16T23:29:15+00:00

2 months ago, I got out of a relationship. Then a month ago, I started dating another girl but I am taking it really slow. if she is not available or super late in getting back to me i am just like meh. ive got other side projects i want to do in the mean time. we will sort something out. funny enough there will be days that I just don't think about my next date but i know it is coming up.

galih_ken · 2021-09-17T00:31:42+00:00

Hobbies cost money. I'm broke and desperate.

2021-09-17T00:43:04+00:00

VERY true. I hit the gym, practice martial arts and hang out with friends daily in college.

Undercovermother19 · 2021-09-17T01:39:33+00:00

SELF Improvement should be

Brownboybb · 2021-09-17T03:17:30+00:00

This is very true, I learnt this exact lesson this week

VDKay · 2021-09-17T06:09:32+00:00

What if I wanna get involved in seduction in a professional way (e.g. coaching)?

MisterShogunate · 2021-09-17T07:49:26+00:00

Seduction is my hobby so it’s my priority. Talking to women in any place you go, coming up with clever shit to be funny and interesting and then potentially getting laid is the best hobby out there.

The majority of men just freak the fuck out at the thought of talking to a random girl when it literally means nothing in the grand scheme of things. Additionally, real skills are built and improve in the long term.

All the women I meet feed into my social circle and my business contacts. It brings me so many benefits beyond getting laid.

5_7pickup · 2021-09-17T12:06:04+00:00

Pickup is my hobby. Why go through all these hoops to achieve abundance and shit when you can go straight to the source. Do pickup and you'll literally have an abundance of girls.

Rejections don't phase me at all because I've been through a hundred at this point.

Oneitis? I slept with 2 different girls this week. These two girls have oneitis for me =/

Immediate-Brain-7605 · 2021-09-20T02:48:38+00:00

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