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bonix · 2021-09-14T17:55:54+00:00

Pretty sure not giving a fuck what people think of you is the motto of this subreddit. Why do you care? Is your campus the size of a high school where you are seeing only the same people all the time? If you are going around being an asshole or something to these girls then maybe that would be a valid issue but not being an asshole should be the other motto of this subreddit.

OneThousandYardStare · 2021-09-14T19:21:29+00:00

Stop right where you are. Drop everything and listen to me: Put any fear you have out of your mind.

I don't know how you got the impression that approaching a girl because you are romantically interested in her is creepy or morally questionable but that is a pernicious lie.

The truth is that girls want to enter into a romantic relationship with a guy. We both want the same thing. When a girl has sex with you she isn't doing you a favor, she isn't submitting to your will, you don't owe her anything. It is a cooperative endeavor, a partnership that we enter into because we both want the same thing. We both want love.

So don't be ashamed to get out there and put in the work. I'll tell you right now that some girls will be relieved that you did. There are a lot of social pressures on both men and women to hide their sexuality or never fully embrace it but women in particular are subject to some that preclude them from making the approach. And so largely the responsibility will fall onto you. Rise to the occasion with pride and gusto. You'll get rejected, everyone does. The best do. Over and Over. But every rep is a win because its a learning experience. As long as you aren't some pervert Master Roshi out there grabbing asses and sexually harassing them then there is absolutely no one who can seriously cast aspersions on you.

Your OP didn't mention anything about your Icebreaking skills so I won't give unsolicited advice on opening. But if you can get your icebreaking airtight then opening will be a smooth and pleasant experience for both involved.

If you're worried about maintaining a good reputation then you need to invest in your social network. Having a thick and dense social network will benefit you in many ways (including signaling social value) but it will also help you establish the reputation that you want. Be a good person, forge meaningful friendships with people and treat them with integrity and sincerity and your social network will maintain your reputation for you. If you are specifically worried about your reputation in the female rumour mill then I'd recommend you start forging strong, meaningful relationships with some friendgirls. Not only will the demonstration of your ability to maintain a platonic friendship with a woman directly dispel any notion that you are a pervert or lothario but a friendgirl can advocate for you in those "locker room" situations. She can give you insight on how your behavior will be perceived. She can endorse you to girls in whom you are interested.

Get out there and do it brother, do it with pride. Do it with confidence.

MmmNeapolitan · 2021-09-14T19:17:12+00:00

This is like asking whether or not you should drink beer at a bar

playingandrealityxxx · 2021-09-14T20:23:34+00:00

Youre in college.

Day game can work very very well, but people kinda sorta know eachother and you're going to see familiar faces around.

If it's a huge university, I don't think chatting up random girls and asking to do something is weird. There's sooo much to do, and use your circle as leverage. "Yeah, me and my friends are going to this event" "yeah, Im in this club, I think you'd like it" "oh I think I saw you at the gym!"

Honestly, avoid the whole "can I take you out" thing on the first Convo. I will say that a TON of college girls want a fancy night out because the food hall grind gets old, but it's best to avoid that type of talk on the first interaction. Make her trust you and let her feel your energy and influence, get contact info, And then go for the date if that's the vibe you think she's after. Some girls just want a social circle to hop into to party with as well, beware of those. Some are fun and cool but some just of these people in college are the worst.

Goddamn!!! I miss college man. You need to take advantage of this. If you're looking for a wife, this is one of the easiest places to get someone on lockdown. My last two long term relationships were people I knew from college. Single now and it's great but definitely wanted to wife my last gf. Shit happens.

You need to build up your social circle ASAP, get it started freshman year. Hopefully it isn't too late for you. Decide where you want to commit your time.

Im into meditation and yoga and other stuff like that. I joined a yoga club at my college. Made tons of platonic female friends. Remember, sometimes that's your best ally at being exposed to the most women to get to know and attract to you. I don't think it's talked about enough here, but purposefully placing women in the ftiendzone for long term benefits can really really benefit you. One of my best friends has gotten me laid 4 times just by telling some of friends that I'm cool and respectable.

I almost joined a frat but decided not to. My best friends were in them so I lucked out and still got into the parties. Honestly, determine how much Greek life has an influence on your campus. If you're looking for the hookup, party life it might be the best way until you're 21. Its a shitty reality at some campuses, but is very true.

So yeah. Build your social life. I was a chemical engineer and had a ton of stuff going on but still made time to make sure I was networking and making friends.

Live it up dude. Definitely approach but don't put yourself into a position where it harms your reputation. You can still be confident and fun and approach women all the time without being seen as a creep.

Rionic · 2021-09-14T20:08:51+00:00

Campus is one of the best places. You have something common to talk about and it makes it so much easier. Even better if you can talk to a girl in your class. Then depending on the vibe you can ask her to study, go to a campus bar, or do some other activities there.

Agreable_Actuator84 · 2021-09-14T18:14:37+00:00

So there isn’t one answer. A lot depends on factors as size of school, social norms, how hot you are (the hotter you are the more you can get away with violating any social norms), your goals, to what extent getting a bad rep will hinder or help your goals, how smooth is your game, etcetera.

But in general you will regret not taking action to go after your dreams rather than the consequences of any action. So ask a few girls out. If you sense social circle game, or targeted approach is better than random cold approach that is okay too.

opper-hombre1 · 2021-09-14T22:49:28+00:00

How big is your campus? No ones gonna know who tf you are

AruiMD · 2021-09-14T22:36:52+00:00

Is this a real ?

Yes, you can and should ask girls out on a college campus. There is nothing wrong and everything right with this. Probably not while you are in the bathroom with her, but everywhere else is ok.

If you are in the bathroom with her, re-evaluate.

Mad-Draper · 2021-09-15T03:23:57+00:00

Yes you should approach

No you should not be creepy.

Don’t hang around one area approaching girl after girl. After all, the point of the approach is for both parties to enjoy the encounter. Use some tact

AelfredRex · 2021-09-14T19:46:00+00:00

Only talk to the ones who smile at you. That will save you a lot of embarrassment.

tigermax42 · 2021-09-15T02:03:39+00:00

Always look your best. Go early and have a coffee or tea every day in the most visible public table available. Make eye contact, give an almost imperceptible warm smirk. Then go back to your drink and study material. Get your face out there and they’ll know you belong.

Then throw a BANGER party and invite them all. The party is the place to run game bro

TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-15T04:48:39+00:00

Depends.. small campus and a thousand people.. since you're asking this question... probably not because you're already thinking your creepy.

Large college.. YES no matter what.

You're only in college for a short time.. before you know it.. it'll be over.

You have a golden opportunity here .. don't blow it.

Grab your balls.. and go out there and just do it.

Regret is 100x worse than rejection.

Kevin3362 · 2021-09-15T09:06:52+00:00

The playful mindset of "who cares" helps ☝

CrabBucketSecurity · 2021-09-15T09:35:18+00:00

If you don’t want to be labelled as the creep who goes around asking out random girls, there is a great little trick to ensure that will never happen….

Don’t go around asking out random girls.

You’re not going to walk up to a girl you don’t know and say “wanna go out?… No?…..ok…….next” then go up to the next girl are you?.

You’re going to say hello to random girls and if they are responsive you might make some friends and maybe, just maybe meet a girl to date, but if you’re only intention of talking to girls is to get a date, then yeah I can see how that might get awkward as you try to steer things in a pre planned direction you hoped to go.

Just have fun and be friendly, you don’t have to ask out every girl you talk to, most of them you will see again, take time and save your interest for the special ones who were nice to you.

Paltenburg · 2021-09-15T10:08:41+00:00

Between "saying hi" and "asking her out" can be more steps. Like asking her to stay in touch, texting some, and then asking her out.

Karmacosmik · 2021-09-15T11:08:57+00:00

Don’t just ask random girls out. Start a conversation and see if you guys click. If not switch to the next one.

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