Imagine if your biggest sports hero or favorite musician bumped into you at a random store and then asked if you wanted to hang out over the weekend. You will probably 100% make it happen, even if it meant canceling prior plans. The same is true when others make plans to spend time with you. There is a perceived value assigned to that time and the experience that they will have with you. And if it is below a certain threshold, then there is not much of an incentive to make the meeting happen.
The number one thing that you can do to make a person committed to meeting up with you is to have the best initial interaction together as possible. If you have a super strong initial interaction, the other person will be looking forward to seeing you again before this initial interaction even ends.
You should not have to try to impress them later via witty text messages to coax them out. You should simply text them to arrange a meeting, and they should already be exited to meet. Trying to building a connection over some intermittent disjointed texting medium has a terrible return on investment for your time.
This is why learning in person social skills trumps everything else.
Full Video: https://youtu.be/Gzic--xSlhg
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