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[–][deleted] 163 points164 points165 points 8 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
Yeah better to not go for number straight away. I guess if you weren't getting on the same train you might not have had time to do much else though.
But yes, the most important thing is you did it, and it wasn't that bad, right?
If you have enough time next time, say something like 'Hey hows it going, I wanted to meet you' as it's a bit better than telling her she is cute, that implies how she looks is all you care about, and if she's hot well she already knows it.
I did a successful cold approach at a train station once, my line was just something like "Hey, been waiting long?" as the train had been delayed by about 30 minutes. Then we just got to talking about what we had been doing, she had been working at a restaurant nearby, mentioned she was studying, continued it from there. I knew we were catching the same train so I didn't ask for her number straight away. I just maintained the eye contact and was interested in her, then when we were 1 station away from mine, so then I said 'My stop is coming up, give me your number and we can catch up on the weekend' or something.
When we did meet up, she said she really liked how I approached her even though I was obviously nervous.
I got her to my bed on the first date but found out she was pretty much a virgin at 29 (Indian), and decided it was a bad idea to proceed, but still.
[–]throwaway01780 22 points23 points24 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Thats a great opener you used on the first paragraph. Straight to the point and simple. What if she says "why did you want to meet me"? What can I say after that? If ofcourse im only approaching girls based on looks but she doesnt know that
[–]theromanianhare 33 points34 points35 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"You seem interesting".
[–]Bluefoz 11 points12 points13 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
she doesnt know that
Oh, she probably does unless she is completely oblivious.
The thing is that there are a lot of guys who won't go through the ropes of getting to now a girl before they want to get into her pants. I'm not judging, I'm just saying that this is how a lot of guys tend to procede, always looking for the easy way around.
By talking to her, showing that you are interested in building a connection with her and that you are willing to invest time into to getting to know her, you're already doing better than a lot of guys out there. It also shows that you have the self-respect of not hooking up with any woman whom you find physically attractive. You are a man. A man who could go for any woman he sees, but only goes for those with whom he has a connection and whom he finds interesting on a deeper level.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I think she did ask (on the actual date not the first meet), and I said something like I just thought she was cute, because that's honest. I wouldn't use that as the opener personally. She then kinda started telling me how she isn't that type of girl, she doesn't have sex before marriage, all the usual fluff that means nothing.
DONT worry about what they might say next anyway, because you're just stuffed if you have a script in your head and you're forced to deviate from it. Just wing the whole thing and listen to what the conversation is ABOUT, not the exact words. She is asking what you want from her, what your intentions are.
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[–][deleted] 11 points12 points13 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's a numbers game. This stuff happens, things never work out due to logistics. Hell, I could have married the most gorgeous Thai girl who would have pretty much died for me, but bringing her to Australia even though I could afford the huge cost, just wasn't practical, all her friends and family would pretty much never see her again.
Once you get more comfortable with it you increase the number of interactions, then you only need 5-10% to go well to regularly get so many women in your life.
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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Are they more approachable?
I am Indian-Australian (Born in Australia, parents are Indian) haven't approached many Indian girls, but I think some are pretty hot, some not so much.
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[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
OH right. Well my mum keeps hinting I go there, I think she thinks I could get with them easy, but I know the culture there is not good for approaching may even get you punished.
[–]sampat97 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cold approach is a big no if you are in India, unless you are in a social setting such as a party or a college event, the best way is always to get introduced by a mutual friend, girls here are far more receptive then.
Simple case of oh you are a friend of my friend so you probably aren't a rapist or a psychopath.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Most aussie ones are just in terrible shape outside of the uni campus areas..
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I also went ok with one at my local supermarket, she was super mega hot and I knew she was really keen, but when she coyly avoided giving me her number I eventually found via FB stalking that she was married.
Maybe its something about my deathly pale skin that they like.
[–]El_Kamina 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Very true. But thats cause most of us men here are absolute dicks. You have to pass a lot of shit tests to penetrate that guard and her.
[–][deleted] 145 points146 points147 points 8 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Good confidence but maybe you should've tried to brew up some small talk before just going right for it. Just enough to get her to know you're a person and not just some weirdo asking for her number abruptly. I'm not the best with these kinds of things so take it with a grain of salt, but I think it's best to get some sort of conversation rolling first.
[–]Sad_Lone_Wolf_ 62 points63 points64 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
To defend OP, he had one minute. Gotta kamikaze it IMO. Good on you OP!!
[–]Morvick 9 points10 points11 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I have a hard time figuring out what to talk about anyway (wow these are some nice brick tunnels!), no less when there would be one minute. Serious pressure.
[–]Scrub_TLC 8 points9 points10 points 8 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
wow these are some nice brick tunnels!
Honestly, that's perfect! You do it in a sarcastic silly way where it shows you are aware of how lame of a topic it is. It shows you have value to talk to her even if you have nothing to say. I might use that one!
[–]Morvick 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
lol, I guess I don't know my own charisma? I suppose it's painfully.obvious what I'd be trying to do, no matter what topic I picked. May as well be masonry.
[–]Scrub_TLC 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That's the point precisely! Verbal communication evolved pretty recently in our past most communication strategies rely on body language and tone. Say what you want with your tone, eyes, and body, and with your voice talk some nonsense. As long as you demonstrate sexually selective character traits you do fine. Status, Dominance and some other shit I forget, but all of that is conveyed without saying a thing. The words are just a social convention and a tool to disarm, people feel uncertain of strangers so if you bring up a light-hearted silly topic low-levels of adrenaline from risk aversion plus positive emotion from silly conversation and affirmation received by girl from male = Heightened emotional state, add to that non-verbal semi-sexual state transference and bam we have attraction, sir!
[–]Morvick 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
-takes notes-
I guess I never thought of these things in terms of function. Always just presumed I needed a good precedent to walk up and say hi, or I'd be seen as a creep (a deep fear of mine).
[–]Scrub_TLC 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Haha, nah I never have a precedent... that's not true, asking for help is a great precedent
It also depends on location, if you are in a social environment like a bar or a college town vs If you are in a busy fast moving environment or a bad neighborhood. Stopping to be friendly is fine if nothing is going on like waiting for a train but if she is walking super quickly you'll need an attention grabber and hope she's not late for a meeting lol.
Mostly don't worry about it, just be friendly and cool and if she seems like she is feeling weird call out the elephant in the room people like it when someone is bold (confident) enough to defuse an awkward situation.
Never say something like oh am I making you feel weird, or sorry
Always put a positive presumptive sell spin on it like:
Haha, You look like you feel awkward, hahah, are you shy? You're very (physical compliment) I guess most guys are too intimidated just come up and talk to you huh. I'll forgive you wink grin
I know dudes worry but like honestly just stay positive sometimes a girl wont give you any sign she is actually into other than not walking away. I had an interaction where the girl literally was looking at me while making a face like I was forcing her to stand around in the smell of my hot wet shit. So I just said haha you like awkward are you doing alright I helped her with a small problem got the number she flaked on me later that day and then came over in the middle of the night to fuck.
So just stay positive (acknowledge social cues, but stay positive) worst case scenario she thinks you're a weirdo, who gives a fuck you miss 100% of the shots you don't take right?
If you don't approach it's the same net result as if you crash and burn but you don't any reference experience to learn from that way...
*Observation *Assistance *Direct aproach
Honestly, if you never get good at anything else but you get good at those three you'd fuck more girls in a year than most dudes do in their lifetime. Pickup is easy to cause women want to fuck and you don't need to be great you just need to get your foot in the door and adjust/ calibrate whenever you feel something going sideways.
It's like driving mostly people are easy to read like curves in the road. It's a mating dance learn a few steps, then dance with a few people till you learn to lead and before you know it you just do it cause you feel it in your hips congrats you are a natural.
Remeber humans have been fucking for millions of year since before we were humans there is more written about pickup in your DNA than will ever be written on a page like this. Trust yourself women want you to to make them comfortable and relaxed enough to have sex that your job. Her job is to select a mate your job is to approach and do the dance of showing status good genes and dominance then you demonstrate emotional intelligence by making her comfortable then the legs open ;)
[–]khushkaushal62 21 points22 points23 points 8 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
I accomplished something similar today. I was at a bar at 6pm just getting my weekend drink.. i see this girl. I see her looking at me. I approached her and we talked for like half an hour. She didn't give me her number cuz well i am 19 and she is 29 but she told me that it was really great talking to me. Good for you bro!!
[–]Scrub_TLC 8 points9 points10 points 8 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Should have said you may be 19 but you fcuk like you're 35 ;)
[–]khushkaushal62 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Thanks!! I ll try that next time :)
[–]Scrub_TLC 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
I was being silly BTW, but on the real, if you read the situation and you have the right type of personality you can get away with it and it might work.
I'm the type of person who does not take anything seriously tho.
[–]khushkaushal62 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
LMAO that's a funny story. I would totally do it. You a Vancouverite mate??
[–]Scrub_TLC 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No, I am in other parts of the werld!
[–]Scrub_TLC 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
do it for the vine!
[–]Flexappeal 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Do not do this
[–]khushkaushal62 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Okay.. What else should i do??
[–]Flexappeal 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Jesus..
[–]khushkaushal62 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That's an amazing idea. I ll pray to Jesus next time. Thank you kind sir :)
[–]Scrub_TLC 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
yeah perfect just say some dumb shit about fucking and then start praying. If she doesn't fuck you at least it'll make a funny story lol ahahahahahah.
I can't remember where I heard it but someone said whenever they are trying to make a decision on what choice to make they always ask themselves what would make for a better story... Seems like a great way to have an exciting life and without a measure of restaint an exciting arrest record as well lol.
[–]raybayne 14 points15 points16 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Approaching is a win in itself, good job man!
[–]throwawaylilbastard 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you. I totally agree.
[–]maya_alzamer 9 points10 points11 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Personally I really liked the urgency of your approach and the fact that you were leaving in a few minutes which would've given her a few moments to make a decision to give her number and schedule a rendez-vous. Urgency isn't always a bad thing, especially if you seemed inviting and confident then left for the train, it leaves a mysterious vibe and some girls are into that.
[–]EmptySum 14 points15 points16 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"Why don't you write my number down." That isn't seduction. That is passive. You made a move but not the move. You ask her for her number next time not to have her write down your number. But at the end of the day you made the approach. Very well done more exposure, practice and you just might be able to hit it and still have 30 seconds to make your train.
[–]daygamer0911 6 points7 points8 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
good job lil bastard
[–][deleted] 17 points18 points19 points 8 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link
I'm a girl I applaud this
[–]Aeon199 13 points14 points15 points 8 years ago (19 children) | Copy Link
For real? Women on here usually say they hate being bothered by guys in public.
And of course, since I'm awkward, i tell myself it's not worth trying at all it's likely to make them uncomfortable, and of course I am sensitive to rejection
[–]theromanianhare 9 points10 points11 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
~Everyone is different~
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 8 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
Women on here usually say they hate being bothered by guys in public.
That's coz most guys who do talk to girls in public approach like shit or plainly catcall or harrass women. Guys who approach with respect and awareness are actually in the minority. So of course women on here complain about what they remember being bad experiences. But if you approach in a very respectful and aware way, most women won't complain that much, and if they do fuck what they think.
[–]pompandpride 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
I'm really mixed on this. Crass approaches aside, some women are so annoyed by constantly being hit on that they decline innocent openers like, "Been waiting for the train long?" because they see the opener for what it is. You've really got to pay attention to the cues on whether or not the attention is welcome.
[–]Scrub_TLC 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago* (13 children) | Copy Link
Or you just take them off base so they can't reject.
I do this all the time. You just say something so outlandish she has no response for it, then just move right past it and into a conversation.
Like OMG I just stepped in shit, did you just shit on this train platform. While she is stammering you just say nah I'm kidding it was me, I shit here sometimes. By the way, my name is nick, you are?
Her: Nancy
Me: Nice to me you nancy my name is Dan by the way
Nancy: I thought you said your name was Nick
me: I really like your shoes, they go really well with your scarf
Nancy: oh wow thanks, it's so nice when someone...
Me: Oh shit sorry to interrupt I am going to miss my train, here give me your number and I promise I won't shit on your shoes
text her later:
Me: Hey Nancy, I still can't get your shit off my shoe - steve
Nancy: Hahahaha omg I was not sure if you were going to text me or if you were just messing with me for fun
Nancy: STEVE, I thought you said your name was Nick, or Dan?
Me: Yeah, it is
Nancy: hahaha, yeah but which one, what's your name for real?
Me: hahahaha, kyle
Nancy: are you teasing me?
Me: Almost certainly ;)
Nancy: Com'on... lol
Me: Tell you what meet me for the Christmas tree lighting ceremony at X park tonight and I tell you, if I like you enough ;)
Nancy: hahaha oh boy, I'm not sure if I can meet you I don't eve know you
Me: Sure you do I'm Steve the guy that shits at train stations and stole your heart (super happy emoji)
Nancy: So your name is Steve?
Me: No, hahahaha
Me: Meet me tonight at 7:15 on the corner of X and X right by the X at the park
Nancy: Ughh, fine. So you're not going to tell me your name?
Me: Rumpelstiltskin ;P
Nancy: HAHAHAHA fuck you :D
Me: See you tonight ;)
Nancy: kk, looking forward to it Rumpelstiltskin OMG lol
As long as you are creative and witty you can get away with murder as far as banter and texting and what not. Sure they get hit on all the time but if you can be amusing or original that helps. Like I hate it and will not answer questions like where are you from, what do you do, how tall are you, where did you go to school, I give rubbish answers to any and all of those. It probably less about that you are transparent or hitting on them and more that it's played out, uninteresting, boring.
Do you know how many approaches I have done to be asked what do you do everytime, or as a tall man how many times I get asked how tall I am, Like literally EVERY FUCKING PERSON I SAY ANYTHING TO ALL DAY ASKS HOW TALL I AM. Even if a hot girl opens me to ask I am like ughhhhhhh no I don't play basketball fuuuuuuuuck. Like I don't give a fuck who you are or how hot you are don't be boring... Like I just take over and lead the conversation because so very few people know how to be creative or interesting.
That's how women feel, like their reprieve from creepy choads, is boring choads asking transparent lines like "Been waiting for the train long?". they can't win, if they are nice they have to humor the dude till he works around to hitting on them and if they are mean they are a bitch and might get yelled at.
Just be more original have something to offer. If you go up offering value you'd be amazed at how receptive people are. In my case, the value I offer is being the most interesting person anyone has ever met,been told that like almost as often as that I am tall. For other people maybe you love music you can talk about a great band you discoverd hey have you heard x? it's super dope/chill/hype/cool/whoosh... Maybe you sell drugs, one of my old friends met me by offering sell me cocain on the sidewalk I was like lol I could be a cop, he's like you're not a cop lol we hungout. Shit haha i don;t do coke but I just relized how ofet people offer me free drugs. So maybe instead of asking a boring question just be like "excuse me miss would you care for a bump of cocain while we wait for our train out in the rain on the plains in spain insane in the membrane"? Or maybe you love memes just go up to her and be like OMG look at this new story/meme/any interesting thing.
If you can't think of a way to talk to someone in a way that they can't help but be intrested you need to master the art of conversation and get the gift of gab. I suggest you work a sales job you will learn to shoot the shit like and auctionere.
[–]reptacular 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
!RedditSilver
[–]RedditSilverRobot 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
/u/Scrub_TLC has received silver 1 time. (given by /u/reptacular) info
[–]Astrum91 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
God dammit, take my gold. You act like I came here to learn or something.
[–]Scrub_TLC 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link
Thanks, means a lot I have a few reddit accounts and write a lot of long ass posts trying to help people but this is the first time I have been gilded. I'm a pretty slow typist so some of the posts I have made can take me 2-4hours it's a lot of work. Sometimes those posts don't get a single upvote or even a comment. I'm not here to stroke my ego with karma, but to know that what I write matters or make a difference to someone really means the world to me!
Can I ask what specifically helped you so I can make a note to remember it for people I might help in the future?
[–]Astrum91 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I'm an extreme introvert and struggle to even maintain a conversation with people I know, much less complete strangers. I try to start conversations with girls by asking those default questions you mentioned just to frantically find some common ground or something that they would enjoy talking about. Almost every conversation fizzles out pretty quickly. Those goes double for text conversations over tinder and such.
You example conversation is impressive. I'm not interesting and I don't know how to be, but that example sounded like something even I could learn to do. The ability to be interesting and maintain an interesting conversation with a girl is the biggest hurdle for me to cross right now.
[–]Scrub_TLC 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
So I have a really strong conflict:
On one hand, I want to encourage you to step outside your comfort zone and learn to get good at conversation.
On the other hand, I think so much of what is pushed as game is cold approach while I strongly believe this is an integral component of learning I don't think club game and cold approach is the end all be all or even what to aim for if you are an introvert or shy.
Like i think the end goal for some guys SHOULD be social circle game/online/and girls chase you types of game.
Like I had a friend who has bad anxiety but he could get strippers to drive for 1-2hours to come fuck him off tinder.
The problem is some guys hear this and they want to stay in their comfort zone, ugh, that ruins you man, it ruins you. The goal is to break out of your comfort zone learn skills with women in ALL areas gain competence which GIVES you confidence and then once you are a well rounded guy who got all the skills he needs focus on game in your area of expertise/greatest comfort.
For me tinder is not so good I get horny then look up porn lol...
Club game is not that fun cause i don't have very many single friends and no one wants to go out. Don't get me wrong I have lone wolf'd 7nights a week for weeks straight I have no discomfort with it and I get results, I'm just not that amused by it.
Day game/Bar Game in a relaxed lounge setting is my golden goose. I have gotten more lays off the sidewalk, and stores while shopping, than any other venues lol. Day game is also very convenient as you are all ready gonna buy food to not die, might as well # close the hottie on your way there. For me, I walk or take public transit more places than I have to because I am very scocial. Hell, I'm so social I like talking to homeless and crazy people.
Why would you put your self through that hell for a lifetime though? Gain the skills you need by exploring all areas of game. You may find you are less introverted and more comfortable than you think once you are competent in your social skill set. Or you may find you are still intensely introverted and that's okay so many people see game and try and fit themselves to game but you can morph game around you. You might want to go meet girls in a library or bookstore where it's a low impact environment and you have a topic of conversation, what are you reading, are you a fan of that author, etc...
Start with learning to talk to everyone, specifically only talk to people who intimidate you the least and push that comfort zone little by little.
Gain a well rounded skill set that make you comfortable and confident with women then learn to use game in a way that is the least offensive to your base emotional state ;)
Just don't skip the push your comfort zone stage of things, you'll be amazing at how much you grow as an individual not just game skill but like in your soul. There is something empowering facing a challenge you hate and coming out the other side of it!
I'll be arround :D
[–]Astrum91 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
My conversation issue expands beyond women. I don't have any friends either. I feel like it all stems from the same issue of not being able to hold a conversation. Any attempt I may whether it's in person or over text always tapers out within the first few lines and I can't figure out why.
I have no problem pushing my comfort zone, the problem is nothing improves all because of the same issue.
[–]Aeon199 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Maybe it works for you because you are tall and attractive. Not to mention witty.
All 3 of these puts you at the top of the hierarchy; not to mention you say "women open you" I'm like, WTF?
That's all I've got to say here, and pretty much the only thing necessary to say. Maybe offer advice that's usable for 5'9" socially challenged guys--minus the wit--which is mostly the audience here.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah that's an a+ approach
You were doing really well until the end lol...
The idea is not wrong but the way the sentiment is expressed seems contrastingly aggressive for the tone of the rest of the message. Not a criticism in the least, just an observation.
'if you approach in a very respectful and aware way, most women won't complain that much, those that would are probably generally hostile people who will struggle to find happiness no matter the circumstance.'
Not sure why I wanted to do that but I did, sooo, I did :D
[–]weallwantsomethink 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Awesome dude, awesome.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I like stories like this. Good job, now do it again.
shooters shoot baby!
[–]CibrecaNA 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Straight for the number? And you want to give her your number? No mate. Good confidence but you should get her number and maybe give her a reason to give you her number beside from the idea that your train is on the way and you think she's cute.
Good effort but have a longer conversation before asking for a number for the future. (I know it's impossible here)
[–]purplestuff11 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Short sweet and to the point. Good job. Keep it up and you'll have many dates in your future.
[–]HilarityEnsuez 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You chose bad phrasing and you probably just scared her. Sorry to be blunt, but other people reading this shouldn't think it's okay.
[–]Scrub_TLC 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Care to break down why the phrasing was bad, and what you'd suggest as an alternative?
I take issue with criticism where an alternative/suggestion is not provided. Those types of criticisms can come across as a teardown or even a passive-aggressive teardown.
For instance a problematic opener:
White Guy: Hello African woman sorry my ancestors owned yours. you are hot and I want to sex with you. Give me sexy sex.
Black Girl: Uhh, no thanks here's some mace tho spray
Suggested opener
White Guy: Hi :)
Black Girl: Heyy
[+]HilarityEnsuez -9 points-8 points-7 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Okay here's a tip, don't command people. I don't really feel like helping you beyond that.
Who is commanding anyone? Me? OP?
What OP wrote did not seem at all commanding and even if it did many schools of pick up suggest to speak from authority. If anything I think /u/throwawaylilbastard should have/could have been more commanding. Like "hey I'm Chaaaaaad let me get your number so we can braid each others hair! k, thnx, bai"
Could you please quote which statement was made where a command was issued instead of a request? I am not seeing it.
If you offer a criticism but fail to clarify that critique what use is it to anyone?
haha, just got the irony. Your nickname is "HilarityEnsuez" but, you have a poor sense of humor and can't take a joke. I get it now! That's a good shtick, a reall knee slappa' I tell ya'!
Verrrrrry clever ;)
[–]RapidFireSlowMotion -4 points-3 points-2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's a little greasy, but probably couldn't hurt. She already said no once, another's no big deal, probably never see her again anyway. Might want to spin it a little better though, instead of basically "I like cheaters & cheating" something like "we can still hang out, maybe watch netflix and stuff"
[–]Wyro12 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Hey, good for you! Personally, my go-to response for whenever the girl I'm asking says she has a boyfriend is "Well, he's a lucky guy then!"
[–]throwawaylilbastard 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I think you show over-investment in such a short amount of time if you say that.
[–]Wyro12 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Huh, you really think so? Because I just say that because it allows me to be nice and friendly while at the same time showing that I'm not jealous. However, I'm open to suggestions, so if you have any then fire away!
[–]throwawaylilbastard 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Man you are putting her on a super pedestal. Why would you say he is lucky? Just because this girl has green eyes and a hot ass? I get the point you are trying to make but I would only say that in a club because I wouldn't give a fuck. Not that I care about the day either...
[–]Wyro12 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well damn, I never thought of it like that. What would you recommend I do differently?
[–]throwawaylilbastard 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Many options. I ain't no pua expert but you can shittest her after that. Say something like "Does he treat you well?" If she says yes say "I wouldn't ;)"
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[–]ImJustSo 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
And you're just speculating, assuming, guessing, whatever. Good for him for trying something he's new at, because he's one step closer to being a YouTube shit posting PUA coach on this sub!
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[–]ImJustSo 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
It also helps not getting shit on by your peers though. Look at his simple, short, elated post and how he felt accomplished.
Your first response to that was to knock him the fuck down a notch?
Man, shame on you. Be better than that. You obviously cared enough to post, so consider what help you offered. Ya know?
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Well, I just altered my argument technique, because logic wasn't getting through.
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Yes you are taking that away from him
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Yeah seriously why is everyone congratulating him for such an uonfinnessed and crass approach.
[–]Astrum91 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You know how people get to the point of having refined approaches? Practicing.
They're not congratulating him on his technique, but on the fact he did something rather than not even trying, as most people would do. You won't ever be good if you don't even begin.
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