Is The Dating Market "Broken"? [recovered]

G-Dalf · 2018-03-06T15:38:21+00:00

Dating has always been broken, it's just that it was done at a really slow pace. Now it's simply more inclined to social media and photography and much more efficient. It's now about you're photo's and followers, which favors women

Attraction and arousal is still the same as it was thousands of years ago. This can't be broken by an application. If you are attractive, you date and have sex, if not, you don't. The rich get richer in other words

So I'd say no, same shit different smell

ethical_pa · 2018-03-06T15:03:17+00:00

Great post! Very interesting idea.

Yes it certainly seems that way. From your description of the female perspective: You would think though that meeting a woman via cold approach, when things go well and there is chemistry, that this would be an awesome experience for her. Something that is far more real and filled with emotions than the average guy who's presence is defined by blips on her phone. Yet, we STILL are faced with a high flake rate with cold approach. Its almost like the broken dating market has broken us.

Indoctrinator · 2018-03-06T15:06:54+00:00

Feels pretty accurate from my experiences. I’ve been on dates with about 50 women in the past 2.5 years mostly met through tinder. Granted I’ve met a lot of cool women, became god friends with 5 of them, and slept with a handful of them. But it never seems to develop into anything more than that mainly for the reasons you’ve mentioned.

I have women friends who have admitted that with the amount of men they match with on Tinder it makes it difficult for them to “commit to one” in a sense. Even when they meet a “good guy” there is always that sense of curiosity that the next guy might be a little better. Then they complain that they get caught in this endless cycle of meeting guys, but never meeting any “keepers.”

This is especially true in the big city where women can match with 90+ guys in a few days.

At times it can feel the game is broken, but maybe this new “dating app” game needs to be approached with a new strategy. As the old traditional dating strategies are becoming to obsolete.

What those new strategies are, I have no idea.

Tenmagnet · 2018-03-06T13:54:20+00:00

I wrote this article because guys keep telling me the dating market is "broken"... I was wondering what you guys had to say about that.

Here's the follow up blog post

leddituser123 · 2018-03-06T17:02:56+00:00

Tell that to younger guys. Girl turns 18, she's at her peak, will get all the shit for free if she's even remotely attractive. Guy turns 18? He'll be the lowest value possible.

ImJustSo · 2018-03-06T19:12:01+00:00

I don't think it's broken. I've been consistently using dating apps and meeting women from my day to day life for about 7 years now. I've encountered all the problems you can with dating. Now my differing opinion is probably based on the things I try to get out of my dating experiences. I'm not trying to lock a girl down, I'm not trying to bang every chick I can, and I'm not looking for anything specific except good times with good people. My outlook is all about getting to know people, possibly having great sex, and possibly falling in love. I've succeeded at those things enough times that my view of dating is a positive one.

Sure, there's all kinds of annoying behavior that I have to deal with to get what I'm after, but that's just dealing with people in general. Putting up with people's shit is just necessary when dealing with people at all.

What I don't see is a competition between me and other men. Perhaps that's just my attitude towards relationships in general, or perhaps I'm just a "winner" compared to other men, but I highly doubt that. If some chick loses interest because of some other dude, I don't give it any thought. Typically, I don't have issues with keeping a woman interested, assuming my interest is there for her. I've noticed that the women I'm most infatuated with usually reciprocate, so if a woman does lose interest, I notice that I wasn't treating them as I do other women. So it's probably that I'm not interested enough either, and they move on.

I am great in person, but I'm pretty damn good at online dating, too. I don't see any issues there. I don't really care if a woman's inundated with other men. I'm confident that I'm markedly different and the responses I receive from women and the amount of matches I get are a clear indicator that I've come a long way. So it's clear to me that there's definitely skill involved with online dating. 5+ years ago I was not getting the matches and messages I'm getting now, and I wasn't getting the dates I'm getting now.

Dating is fine, it's what you want out of it and the things you're doing that may be broken.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2018-03-07T01:46:09+00:00

Not broken, but skewed heavily in favour of women.

The only positive thing to come out of the rise of online dating is that fewer men were approaching, or had the courage to approach face to face. This meant that a woman being approached in the street by a random dude was a bit of a novelty.

However, I've recently read here that women are getting wise to this, due to spam and bad approaches by groups of daygamers in some cities.

Whether this has a detrimental effect, and makes dating even harder remains to be seen.

leddituser123 · 2018-03-06T17:09:18+00:00

If beta males would stop flooding every woman in masses then those women wouldn't get as much attention as they are. It's like a pack of flies storming a trashcan.

Remove the ability to PM strangers on social media and the problem would be partially solved. Remove Tinder too and it's fully solved. But i don't see that happening any soon.

Title	Is The Dating Market "Broken"? [recovered]
Author	Tenmagnet [recovered]
Upvotes	33
Comments	23
Date	March 6, 2018 1:44 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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