First Approach Today [recovered]

triton100 · 2020-12-10T01:47:12+00:00

Your balls of steel caused a speaking malfunction. Don’t sweat it you’ll be a ninja soon at this rate

NickKlintw · 2020-12-10T00:28:11+00:00

Yo this is huge af, not many can do that.

anonymouscausefuckU · 2020-12-10T00:23:42+00:00

That’s a huge milestone dude! Congrats. Cheers to this being the first of many 😎

-KoolAidMan231- · 2020-12-10T05:34:42+00:00

As a woman I can say that majority of my girl friends and I fantasize about men asking women out more organically versus over the internet (social media, dating apps etc.). Love a good old fashion ask out :) good on you buddy.

vivuvivo9090 · 2020-12-10T02:02:34+00:00

dude congrat, next time be prepared, always take care of your outfit, you dont know when the right girl passing by

Bjay_jw · 2020-12-10T03:43:03+00:00

That's awesome that you had the courage to do that

I'd like to give some advice if that's okay because usually I just get shot down because I guess I'm a woman and I can't possibly know what women like LOL

But one of the absolute worst things for me and my friends was getting hit on while we were at work.

Like it was something we all talked about all the time and it was a major problem. Because for most of us we absolutely had to be nice and didn't have a choice. I mean there's always a choice but you get what I mean. Good customer service is always expected.

I really don't think what you did was wrong. It was just a nice compliment and it didn't sound perverted at all. But just hoping other people see this before thinking about doing the same thing in a more aggressive manner

Saxon2010 · 2020-12-10T02:53:31+00:00

Cheers mate. You don’t have to be great to get started, but you have to get started to be great. 🤙🏾

HeyitsIrfan · 2020-12-10T02:20:10+00:00

I'm screaming on the inside. Way the go man!!! 👍

CrustlessC · 2020-12-10T05:39:18+00:00

Definitely cringe, and the poor girl that probably felt a bit awks. But I’m proud of you for getting out of your zone. Next time get out harder (get out of your head too)

KeepCalmNSayYesDaddy · 2020-12-10T02:02:18+00:00

Great work! I was deathly afraid of girls because I stuttered, was depressed, have ADD, and had body image issues... also, didn't want to make anyone uncomfortable.

Stayed too long / showed too much interest are the most likely issues.

Keys in hand, rocking back foot, body angle, false time constraints, projected deep diaphragmatic speaking (talk as deep and relaxed as you can, makes women randy, your voice is your persona).

Better to ask them out for an instadate on their break.

For store workers, I do the "I'm in business school and need to some reverse interviews about your job. Would you have time for a brief chat?" I love baristas and restaurant hostesses since we get on famously. I am not opposed to the stock girls at Trader Joe's because they're usually cool.

Don't ask for digits, exchange emails/contact info. Sometimes I don't even do that, just say "I gotta run now. Let's meet here the same time X in 2 days on X." It shows confidence and she won't forget if there was massive chemistry.

Just remember not to be a jerk because you're a customer and they feel compelled to talk to you and they get hit on a million time a day... so be cool and unique. Try a customer next time.

cephaszach · 2020-12-10T01:14:48+00:00

Baby steps right there. You're doing just fine.

2020-12-10T00:48:47+00:00

Great man!

BarryBerenbatser · 2020-12-10T13:12:37+00:00

I will salute you , you can join the council of the chad now young padawan

International-Monk39 · 2020-12-10T03:28:58+00:00

Here was my “game” staying really busy in my 20s actually accomplishing things watching my friends chase girls while I kept my nose to the grindstone make a lot of money get social status turn 30 start traveling... no game no bs no cold approach women come to me no time for BS

dalek55 · 2020-12-10T05:21:51+00:00

Nice i literal ran a way the first time i asked a girl for her phone number im not proud of it but i apologized it didnt go well they kept me around for a month just so i wouldnt feel bad and than they had there friends text me to stop talking to her lol

agnostic_nexus · 2020-12-10T03:09:56+00:00

Great job on the work up! Sometimes when you have to hype yourself up too much beforehand it can make you get in your head like that, just remember to not make the approach about you, make it about them.

You shouldn't approach a girl to get some response out of it yourself, but approach her to compliment and nothing more. Girls can sense your intentions/vibe immediately. It's a more lasting impression if you compliment her sincerely, and leave w/o "pursuing" her.

Then next time you're in the store smile like you remember her and maybe start a conversation then.

Wajisticist · 2020-12-10T05:57:50+00:00

Social anxiety is the root of all beta behavior . I don’t give a fuck and neither should u. Just go in to a grocery store and scream some random words and make everybody notice you then walk out, and realize who gives af

raquelmckay · 2020-12-10T02:34:37+00:00

Hey, you made a big move and i’m glad you did so! Take this as a win, you were very brave and it only brings you one step closer to finding the right person!

TallSwaggOVO · 2020-12-10T02:39:58+00:00

Congrats man. It’s only the start! You’ll get better the more you do it

VellaPunk · 2020-12-10T03:12:47+00:00

Man! Im 25 and i never did something like that in my life, i so need some guts. Well congrats and good luck for the next one

jcargill76 · 2020-12-10T06:41:48+00:00

You do that with a mask on? Personally, I’m not seeing how it’s going to come across well all masked up, unable to read people’s faces, voices muffled, etc. I’m curious what that looks like.

Caprice42 · 2020-12-10T08:11:52+00:00

Am I the only one seeing the same post at least once a week? Jesus, it's like the quit smoking page. If you're attracted to someone, no matter the gender, start a conversation. P.S. Fuck all the women who think a male has to start the convo, or that it's more pleasant for a male to ask than a female. Grow up. Make a move either way. Save some time. We only have so much of it.

Imaccqq · 2020-12-10T05:35:19+00:00

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_itsrude · 2020-12-10T02:37:09+00:00

my man cheers

yvngjiffy703 · 2020-12-10T03:29:11+00:00

Baby steps, cheers 🥂

Odd_You_ · 2020-12-10T05:26:03+00:00

The baby step always help. Mark my words!

Hamzeol_Murf · 2020-12-10T07:30:59+00:00

Isn't Starting The Convo By 'Like Your Shirt' A Bit Cringe? But Again, Everything To Me Is Somewhat Cringe. Unlike You I Don't Have The Balls To Socially Interact With ANYONE, Unless It's Someone Who's Name I've Got On A Gold Card

mochi-sonata · 2020-12-10T07:36:33+00:00

you’ll learn to ease up and have good conversation, just be an active listener and be attentive to the conversation you’re having instead of the one you’re having with yourself

ironronoa · 2020-12-10T07:48:37+00:00

Cheers bruv

psychedelicrebel13 · 2020-12-10T13:18:00+00:00

'I wanted to meet you' 🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂

Keithlct · 2020-12-10T02:50:58+00:00

Way to go..have balls to do that..

Chronicle89 · 2020-12-10T10:18:55+00:00

This thread is cringe.

CypherMX · 2020-12-10T09:35:33+00:00

Is there something better then complimenting random piece of clothing for cold approach?

Nippar · 2020-12-10T10:18:58+00:00

YO LET’S GOOO. Seriously made me hype up, you got this dude. It’s an important first step.

pmtrix86 · 2020-12-10T10:25:14+00:00

Keep digging mate. Every great journey starts with a small step.

mertcan17 · 2020-12-10T10:36:35+00:00

solid rejection bruh :) but it s part of game.

TJHEAYE · 2020-12-10T11:17:58+00:00

Very good work man. One day I'll have the courage to do that. And remember: You miss 100% of the shot you don't take

paul_brightside · 2020-12-10T11:41:13+00:00

Keep doing this mate. Number, no number, doesn't matter. It's about desensitizing yourself to the approach anxiety. And once that happens, it's just smooth sailing after.

Paarth_r · 2020-12-10T11:58:42+00:00

Congratulations. Keep at it. Remember the 3 second rule.

sylvesterthecat11 · 2020-12-10T12:10:16+00:00

I like your pickup line (I’m a girl). “I liked your shirt and wanted to meet you” is friendly an non-threatening. I’d go with that again next time, if applicable.

dalen52 · 2020-12-10T14:30:45+00:00

Pro tip for next time. Take what you did and be proud but realize all the ways it went wrong. Don’t be outcome dependent, act quicker before you have time to think, be proud that you tried, talking to strangers is one of the hardest things in life. Keep in mind even if she was single and found you attractive, people aren’t expecting to meet the love of their life at the grocery store. They have a different mindset. I’m so so proud of you. I hope you do good next time.

Also, she’s not rejecting you. In the right circumstances she would be madly in love with you. Some people have a “nurse” mindset and are looking for someone to take care of. There’s no way of you knowing.

Improve your life, make friends, have hobbies, and the right people will come around.

slumpttx · 2020-12-10T15:19:49+00:00

Trust me it gets easier after this. Good job my man🏅

Black_ish2020 · 2020-12-10T15:42:08+00:00

That's my goal for now conquering the fear of approaching a girl, Well I kinda did approach a girl but, I asked for time haha anyways well done mate that's a progress right there

Just-Drew-It · 2020-12-10T16:17:01+00:00

Pro-tip: The intro line means absolutely nothing. The conversation and body language absolutely matters, but you can break the ice with virtually anything and have the same chances for success. Sharing in case this helps others with anxiety to make the open

prettydirtyboy · 2020-12-10T21:14:58+00:00

Good job man I’m so happy for you. You did it once and it was no big deal right? Well now u can do it again and each time you will improve.

CodineDreams · 2020-12-13T22:48:14+00:00

Just did my first day too. 5 encounters and one also said she had a bf ah well lol

Title	First Approach Today [recovered]
Author	International-Monk39 [recovered]
Upvotes	761
Comments	106
Date	December 9, 2020 11:07 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ka2zpr/first_approach_today/
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