Does going to clubs alone communicate low value?

DasLazyPanda · 2018-12-01T11:49:44+00:00

Definitely not, it's self confidence.

Manners2210 · 2018-12-01T11:46:28+00:00

Why would it? If he’s st a loose end for the night & feels it’s better than sitting alone at home, then I don’t see any “value” issues here.

Chichachachi · 2018-12-01T13:37:00+00:00

A large percentage of people in the club scene meet their friends and see them at clubs. They don't have to plan to go together. They see them out and about. So actually the people that are the most deeply embedded in club culture go out "alone." Why bother with logistics when all of the peoole who are your friends are are long term flirting with will be there anyway?

With that in mind, go, make friends and flirt like you've been in the scene for years.

pilipinonguci11 · 2018-12-01T19:53:15+00:00

No, although I would say that the common advice that's given here of "Just go to a club to meet a girl" is inherently flawed, in my opinion. Not every guy is going to vibe well with girls who regularly go clubbing, for example. If you're more of a nerdy, intelligent kind of a guy who looks for intelligent women then I'd say the best place to meet girls would be at or near a university campus, for example.

Insanity_-_Wolf · 2018-12-01T22:11:16+00:00

Most girls that I approach seem to be either indifferent or impressed that I'm alone. Besides it's super easy to make a wingman, since most other guys there are on the same page as you. Be a bro and open a group of girls and invite your new found friend(s) over. This builds social proof among the girls and your dirrectly giving the guys value and they'll really appreciate you for that. Being the middleman that connects people puts you in a great position from a value perspective.

OatsForDays · 2018-12-01T23:35:14+00:00

No. Just be prepared for the inevitable "Where are your friends?" question that girls frequently ask.

Kenic_In_MD · 2018-12-02T01:23:24+00:00

I go to bars and clubs alone all the time. I always get complimented on my confidence because of it.

greenlittleman · 2018-12-01T16:21:13+00:00

If you are just always alone in a club it is low value. But if you was alone when you got into the club, but after few hours you are around bunch of people who loves you and grab attention of anyone in the club (for example by having great fun and doing crazy stuff), then it is much much higher value than being a shy pussy who need his friends to feel a little more confident. If you want to know about how to be true high value guy in the club then you definitely need to check Social Circle Blueprint from Luke ( you could find it for free). Even though the program is "about social circle" but actually it is about how you should create social circle from being a "club guy" and most of it is about how to game clubs.

crashbandicoot19 · 2018-12-01T13:29:27+00:00

in a funny way yeah, but if you aint out doing aything its called TRSUT!

workinprogress20 · 2018-12-01T15:56:42+00:00

If you stay alone yes if you start talking to people no

One_Insanity · 2018-12-01T21:22:44+00:00

Depends. Like everything else.

Everyone here probably speaks from their own perspective but they forget we're a very niche group of people. I mean there's little over 300k people on here, a sizable slice of which probably aren't even active here anymore.

To most people, yes it's low value, weird and creepy. But that's how people look at the idea of it. In a noisy ass club I doubt people are really concerned or able to pinpoint you as a loner in da haus. If you spend the entire night just standing in a corner with a drink in your hand then yeah you'll be weird as shit. That's the thing, if you're going out solo you can lie your intestines out about how "they're coming" or whatever bullshit. And when you are solo you've probably already accepted that you're gonna have to bite down and force yourself to socialize. Unless you're literally going out to just party by yourself, in which case, more power to you.

Creaturelord · 2018-12-01T23:28:26+00:00

I go out alone all the time. It's awesome. Seriously, really easy, I sometimes randomly meet friends when in the clubs or make new friends, easy peasy. Also - BEFRIEND the bouncers, or you're fucked. Club workers don't like "hunter guys" who bring no girls, so if you're getting in for free you gotta have a personality to make up for it. Just crack a joke with the guys.

Dangerfox_1 · 2018-12-01T23:46:53+00:00

Only if you believe it does. If anything it demonstrates you are secure enough in yourself to be solo. People don't care as long as you give off good energy and don't come across as needy. People are generally too concerned with how they look and are into the energy of the club to care. You're at a club so it is all about who is providing the most fun and excitement. A guy who is solo and is self amused and carefree will out value a group friends who are trying to play it cool on the sidelines.

Mister_Twiggy · 2018-12-01T23:50:26+00:00

If you're out of town on business or travel, then no. If the DJ or performer is someone you wanted to see, then no.

If you are out at a standard club on a Friday night with a no name DJ then it is 100% low value. How do you not have a single friend that wants to go out with you on the weekend? It just communicates social isolation. You can come back from it, but it's a poor start to the beginning of any conversation.

LingeringGnome · 2018-12-02T01:11:38+00:00

Does the bull elk worry about feeding on the mountain slope alone?

Bonuspater1 · 2018-12-01T15:43:35+00:00

Hello GlitteringMousse,

I used to go out with my friends to clubs, hence most of them either work as promotors or bartenders, and DJ's. I would always "tag along", and get free intrence, bottle service, and so on. The important thing is that I started building relationships with the picker, bouncer, other promotors and so on, which let me to great advantage since I would go out and always meet someone. Furthermore building relationships with the people at the clubs is massive social prof, so when you dont have to stand in line the girls and other guys will instantly think "who the fuck is this guy", "is he rich", or "famous", so I highly recommend going out alone and getting your relationship building mind set on. Also I know most dj's in my city, so I can always talk to them, if im feeling nervous or socially awkward. As your relationships starts to build you will always know someone. But remember to bring value to these relationships, and not just exploit your newly found friends. Remember to bring them along to new experiences :) I apolegize im not a native english speaker.

Peace out,

onlysheetsonthewall · 2018-12-01T12:55:28+00:00

Sounds creepy ..

Title	Does going to clubs alone communicate low value?
Author	GlitteringMousse
Upvotes	15
Comments	20
Date	December 1, 2018 11:43 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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