[FR] Rejections Galore in NYC

spacepack · 2012-07-28T02:28:52+00:00

Some of those you are being way too forward. You need to slow things down, you reek desperation.

Your frame of mind shouldn't be "I just noticed you as I was walking by, your gorgeous, and I would love to have sex with you" when you talk to her, rather it should be "I just noticed you as I was walking by, your gorgeous, who are you?"

Shake their hand right after you open her, introducing yourself first.Tell her what you were up to when you saw her, and ask what she was up to. Ask her if this happens to her all the time. Go from there.

Don't go for the number unless you get the hint that she would like to talk to you again. If the conversation is going well, ie. she asks you questions, gives you more than one word answers, has stayed to talk for a bit, tell her you'd like to continue this sometime, and ask for her number.

Hope this helps!

rmbarnes · 2012-07-28T02:32:10+00:00

That's pretty fucking creepy, dude. Imagine some dude came up to you and said he'd wanted to make out with you on the spot. Would you be happy with that? No, you'd think he's a creep and tell him to fuck off.

frogma · 2012-07-28T04:41:05+00:00

The line about fucking could be good, but not in this context. I've said things like that before, but only when the girl's giving some obvious signals and being really flirty. You can't just say a line like that in the second sentence after meeting her (unless you're both drunk at a bar, and even then, probably isn't a good idea).

Notice how your best approach here was the one where you had an actual conversation about relevant shit. I'm not a big fan of direct approaches, so even here I probably would've started the convo by saying something about her tattoos.

I think you're lacking some situational awareness and all of these girls were picking up on it. Especially since you were basically using 2 sentences to not only state your intentions, but then also trying to make something happen. Even in a direct approach, ideally you wanna spend a bit more time actually talking about shit, not simply running up, getting a number, and running away.

Next time, work off the assumption that you'll be talking for at least 5 minutes -- in other words, don't try to get the number immediately, and don't make your intentions so obvious immediately. You can still open the same way, but then lead into something else. Stories always have a beginning, a middle, and an end, and most of these were missing that middle part.

heywood_Jablomey · 2012-07-28T05:34:50+00:00

You are trying way to hard. I couldn't even finish reading because you sounded so creepy. Just chill out and don't always focus on just getting closes. Be natural

miran1 · 2012-07-28T09:21:30+00:00

How old are you?

uberafc · 2012-07-28T13:51:50+00:00

well at least you know you dont have any approach anxiety!

IANAPUA_Yet · 2012-07-28T09:17:42+00:00

Compliments: If you're going to toss out a compliment, make it about something she actually has control of, something that says something about her personality. Beauty is common, especially in NYC; you have to convey that she needs to have a good personality to be worth your time.

Overly-direct: Attaboy. Ya gotta be willing to take risks to get anywhere with this stuff. You still have a lot of calibrating to do and you'll piss off a bunch of girls along the way. Oh well. Next!

VoyPerdiendo · 2012-07-28T12:18:20+00:00

DUDE YOU GOT FUCKING BALLS! Massive potential, just need more experience.

keepcalmdontfap · 2012-07-28T16:00:30+00:00

You should try to validate the girls before you go in for the number, it makes you seem like you know what you want and that you aren't needy or simply judging them based on their looks.

2012-07-28T16:57:20+00:00

Waaay too direct. Just be friendly/funny. If you don't see them again it will make their day at least, if you do they will feel comfortable around you and enjoy your company. What you're doing is really creepy.

clothes_are_optional · 2012-07-28T06:28:53+00:00

i'll be completely honest and go against most of what people say here and say that this was hysterical.

i got this whole picture in my head that you were ewan mcgregor from trainspotting and you had this i dont give a fuck attitude whether you got rejected or not saying completely outlandish shit to random girls. you want to fuck a girl? so you told her that. she didn't like it, you were clueless as to why because you know you're awesome, you shrugged it off and moved on to another one. obviously this kind of shit works in a movie, but unfortunately my lad, not in real life (unless you're actually ewan mcgregor)

you were way too forward most of the time, but to be fair, i see this as a great way to develop an idgaf attitude. whatever works. just don't be surprised if a girl slaps you when you make remarks like "i want to fuck you" the second you meet her. also don't be surprised if it works as well, because for every 50 girls that hate it, there's one that doesn't

jesusonceagin · 2012-07-28T10:18:34+00:00

NYC is different depending on where you are and at what time. Day game is best midtown during lunch hours. Nightgame, where the drunk girls at? Morning game is some game shit right there though. Holla bro

psaluva · 2012-07-28T10:48:44+00:00

Can the people who downvoted my comment please tell me what is wrong with it? :/

spacepack · 2012-07-28T13:34:15+00:00

I commend you for having the courage to approach these women in untypical situations. Unfortunately, you're trying to pick up these women as if you're in a bar setting when clearly you're not. Save the "hey you're pretty, let's fuck" comments for the club. When everyone's had some drinks in them the line will probably go over better (a lot better), even if you get rejected.

EDIT: Also, don't go for commenting on the girl's looks right away. Start with a simple opener, comment on something about the setting, what she's doing or whatever. You don't want to reveal your intentions to soon.

seemorehappy · 2012-07-28T13:40:49+00:00

I'm giving you an upvote for trying. And yes like everyone else said "way too direct" you might want to try being friendly first.

asamorris · 2012-07-28T14:52:52+00:00

I know that this is a supportive r/ and that we shouldn't be negative, especially to thw guys who are actually going out there and trying but,

Damn dude. This embarassed me.

theonly1withkfc · 2012-07-29T00:10:34+00:00

you have huge balls, I'll be honest, I'm glad that you persisted and went through at least 5 girls in one day, keep it going :)

I haven't tried this yet, but instead of commenting on looks first, you can lie and tell them you're not from around here (or you haven't been in nyc for too long) and ask them something as simple as "where can i get a good slice of pizza?" or "where's a good place to shop for clothes?" and you can very easily transition into names and numbers n such, she's giving you her own perspective of nyc in less than 2 minutes and it's under the impression that she's genuinely helping you. 100% of the time if someone asks me where to get good pizza/anything i'll either go out of my way to find it on my phone or know it off the top of my head and tell them.

best of luck to you :D

psaluva · 2012-07-28T02:47:02+00:00

First off, major props for doing the daygame shit. I think it takes a lot of balls and I have yet to make myself approach girls in a daygame setting.

Second off, I'll try to give some thoughts buy I have no idea what I'm talking about, it's just based on my logic and theory I've learned on the webz. So give me some thoughts back ok? Most daygame stuff I've seen was by Sasha Daygame (youtube.com/sashapua) so that's probably the mannerism I'm thinking off when I'm giving these suggestions.

Girl 1: Was she just getting on the bus? Then tough luck, trying to catch a girl in that situation. If she was just out of the bus and getting to her destination you should've persisted, ESPECIALLY after she turned around. Always have the last word and don't just let them go away! :)

Girl 2: Not sure here but I wouldn't tell a girl that. It's kind of a indecisive middle way between what you did with Girl 3 which I think is pretty cool/ballsy and just having conversation w/ #closing. I think being open like that doesn't work very well in daygame because you have to build much more comfort since the girl is not expecting to be hit on. This can work in your favor but also against you, in this case it was the latter. Generally, instead of telling a girl I could kiss her I would just do it, but again, more in a bar/club setting.

Girl 3: The 'I'm offended!' strikes me as a shit test you just have to plough through. "Come on, you can't get offended by getting told that you're really hot!" / "Yeah, you should be! It was totally meant as an insult!" What you said was pretty apologetic, that kind of reaction just makes you unattractive. Persist! Oh and make sure you actually mean what you're saying. If you say something like that and a voice in your head says "I hope this works!!" at the same time, that will be what you communicate.

Girl 4: Get off the opener, start a conversation (build comfort) and then go for the #. And give her your phone, at least she'll be guilty if she types in wrong digits, haha. You don't give too much detail but the way you describe it lets it sound like there wasn't much comfort-building conversation apart from opener and closer (obvious pick up stuff).

Girl 5: Maybe you weren't her type? That's ok, call her out on it or something. Just have fun, have the last word, don't let them just let you stand there.

Girl 6: Stop her and persist in a jokingly offended way. "Hey, I grew massive balls to walk up to you, you can't just 'go pick up something'?!" And then something about how you want to meet her again and if she really needs to go she must have 10 seconds to give you her digits.

So again, I'd love to hear the feedback of more experienced PUAs on my suggestions. It's time for me to go in-field, enough theory! :) To OP: Hope I can help a bit!

Title	[FR] Rejections Galore in NYC
Author	ChefPorkchop
Upvotes	16
Comments	37
Date	July 28, 2012 1:41 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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