Getting someone back to your place?

throwhawayyyy · 2020-07-26T17:51:54+00:00

Give them a reason to come over with plausible deniability. Ex. Come see my dog, or come see my collection of ____. Never straight up ask them to come over and have sex

RobinHeimonen · 2020-07-26T17:59:53+00:00

If you find it hard to get them to follow you home then here is something you can try, get them to follow you somewhere else. If you are in one bar, tell them that there’s another bar that’s even better. It’s low effort from them to change place and it’s way easier to ask them to follow you home to your place if the have already followed you somewhere else before.

hamsterslovebacon · 2020-07-26T20:22:58+00:00

Just straight up ask. "Hey, do you want to come hang out at mine?" Or something like that. It's not like they don't know what's going on.

yurifca · 2020-07-26T17:51:07+00:00

You can add some excuses, like: "are you hungry, maybe we can eat something at my place" or " maybe we can keep drinking at home" or " do you wanna go watch a movie..

But I only ask them to go home after I had the first kiss, or it would sound weird

FaithInStrangers94 · 2020-07-27T03:46:57+00:00

Make sure it’s not too early in the night, she doesn’t have friends by her side, you’ve had a good interaction and ideally kissed first - you need the chemistry to be there beforehand. Also try to take them to several different locations or venues first.

Then just be confident but courteous when you ask them

You can include something cheeky such as how you’re a choir boy who’s practicing no marriage till sex or how you’re just [there to pet your dog etc] with no cheeky business - but don’t try to be too sexual or it can be off putting

Or if there’s something topical that works well, like trying a food place you’ve been talking about then heading home, or once we were talking about david Attenborough documentaries so I proposed that we head to my place to watch an episode when we finished our drinks. Or the same with my vinyl collecting I said “if you can name even one of my albums I’ll be impressed”

I just set up a cocktail bar at my place so I plan to mention it and say something like “let me try out my strawberry daiquiri recipe on you - but I’ll expect a positive yelp review regardless of whether you like it” It’s a bit intriguing and offers a reason to go back instead of dropping 10 dollars each on another drink at the bar - you wouldn’t need an entire bar to do this though just be able to make a few drinks

DONT immediately get sexual with them once you’re home either, unless they’re jumping your bones. You need to build some more comfort once you’re back. If they don’t want to sleep with you big deal, you can try to grab their number and see them again or just move on.

Neil1398 · 2020-07-26T20:29:14+00:00

I’ve always used movies/tv shows as an excuse. It doesn’t really matter but don’t just say it outright.

klippklar · 2020-07-26T23:59:18+00:00

Seed it by letting her meet you at your place first, tell her to come in while you put on cloths, get ready,.. you get the jist.
Easier to get her back if she knows you got it nice and has a clear picture in mind.

PhantomPR3D4T0R · 2020-07-27T04:39:16+00:00

Learn how to make some killer cocktail at your house. Bring it up at the bar. Ask her if she would like to come over and try it. Congrats, she is now at your place and one drink closer to finding you attractive

lukak2002 · 2020-07-26T22:46:14+00:00

I consider myself a master at this. But I usually hook-up with girls who are pretty "easy." If she has any self-respect or aspirations in life it won't be that easy.

I just ask, "hey, wanna chill at my place later?"

And if we're on a "date" and we're eating out at a restaurant, I plan ahead and make sure that the places we visit are close to my house. Just asking straight-up is good if you can tell she's in the mood.

If she's more of the serious type, you're gonna need a cover-up. If you play a musical instrument and she's into that, tell her you can play a song for her at your place.

timeForRanch · 2020-07-27T00:13:51+00:00

I like the advice to ask her to hit another bar with you. That’s good stuff. But once you’re at the second bar (or not, but still a very good tidbit) the best method I’ve seen and executed is pretty simple. Ask the girl to go back to your place for a drink

This does a few things

It gives you a chance to demonstrate more value by showing her your place and by showing her your drink-making skills (make sure you can easily make a drink or two. I recommend a Moscow mule and a simple marg. Also have a sweet wine)

It gives her a pretty easy out—which is important because you don’t want her to feel/be trapped

It puts her at ease while putting you in position to close. If she’s not already thinking “yeah I want to hook up with this guy,” which she probably isn’t, she’ll probably think: “well we’re already drinking so why not?”

As far as implementation in the moment: you shouldn’t be super suggestive whenever you say it. Be a sexy guy or whatever throughout your time together, but be pretty nonchalant about this. A tiny bit of physical contact paired with “hey, I’m like 5 minutes away—do you want to go back to my place for another drink or two?” works like a simple omelet. You should say it with an easygoing manner but with energy. If there are any cool aspects about where you live, suggest that you drink there (like on the roof of your apartment complex)

h1mera · 2020-07-27T14:46:53+00:00

If you ask girl then she might say you yes or no. She decide. Girls likes to say no and then you should know how to overcome this response or how to convince her to go with you.

It works better if you take her home. You should understand that it's difficult for her to agree to go to your place. In this case you already made a decision for her. If she does not want to go with you she will tell you that.

I don't know if it works the same way if you are girl and you want to invite a guy to your place.

Tuckster122 · 2020-07-27T03:48:03+00:00

Ask her/him about breakfast. Should I call you or nudge you?

appmanga · 2020-07-26T19:40:37+00:00

"I'd love to continue this conversation. Would you like to go to my place?"

the_hyren · 2020-07-26T22:04:27+00:00

Depends on the gender of the other person and your intentions.

If a women straight up asked me to go home with her for sex I would be suspicious. Women like that have something wrong with them, fat, serious self esteem issues, diseases, extremely slutty, etc. Now if its less blatant and more flirty and implied or I already know them then its a different story.

If I want to take a women home then I could have 2 states of mind; A) I just wanna bang. Women love honesty and confidence so I just tell them straight up I wanna bang their brains out. Obviously after enough conversion to build some rapport. You can't say that shit out of the gate. B) If for some reason I think they might be relationship material (and as such they aren't slutty enough to go home with me that quick anyhow) so I'll get a number and set up a date later.

Either way I find it important to be playful, have fun, and not take anything seriously, odds are she ain't special.

Title	Getting someone back to your place?
Author	throwaway58937297
Upvotes	20
Comments	48
Date	July 26, 2020 5:44 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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