Got the date. Now what? Difficulty: she's a hottie

strcat · 2010-06-21T18:54:44+00:00

You've almost totally sabotaged yourself by looking up all that stuff about her, putting her up on a nice pedestal which will make you come across very beta when you meet.

My advice: When you talk to her, forget all of that stuff. You didn't try and look up that movie she was in. You can't remember every detail about what she does. Don't slouch, but lean back whenever possible. If she can't hear you, don't lean in - speak louder. Don't text her until tomorrow. She must qualify herself to you, not the other way around.

You are the prize. Report back!

slashkk · 2010-06-22T02:02:02+00:00

went very well! late and i have to be in the city early tomorrow. she's already indicated she wants to go somewhere else - i didn't suggest. all that art I studied in college finally paid off though it was tough remembering that stuff after 12+ years. in any case i'm quite happy except for the fact that's she's a fregging scientologist.

intjpua · 2010-06-21T23:02:20+00:00

She's an aspiring actress but I couldn't even get the one movie she was in via Amazon or any other major store. I'm sure I could get it but it would be expensive and take a lot of time.

Don't fucking cyber-stalk her. Totally beta behavior. As others have mentioned, this is absolutely beta. As far as you're concerned, she's just another girl. Nothing fancy about her at all, unless and until she says and does things that you directly find awesome. You're the prize, so you shouldn't be acting as though everything she does is beautiful and perfect.

So while she's extremely hot and listed on IMDB (1 movie and working on another) she hasn't broken through [anything] yet (and is 28 or 29).

She's going to be extremely self-conscious about her age. She's old for starting out in Hollywood, and since she has never had a part worth speaking of, she is still just starting out. It would be a neg to ask her age. For a pretty impressive pickup of an aging super-hottie, and an example of using age as a neg, check out this Elimidate episode with Grimble (one of Style's wingmen): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mTOgxSY2T5I

To avoid the friend zone, which it sounds like you'd pretty easily slip into if you don't watch yourself (not because she's putting you there, but because you're idolizing her with no reason), you need to make sure you're escalating and being sexually forward from very early on. You can back off from being sexual if you decide you just want to be friends, but you can't (easily) escalate from being friends to being sexual.

lookatmeimskinny · 2010-06-22T00:11:13+00:00

She lives in a very bad area.

I mean this in the nicest and most constructive way possible, but buck up and be a man. You're not gonna get jumped unless you're walking around like a spineless asshole and even if you do you're just gonna lose some cash. If you can't even deal with where she lives there's no way in hell you're gonna have enough confidence for you to land her.

Do not let her know that you internet stalked her. What would you think if some girl you were mildly interested in had stalked the hell out of you online before your first date? Creepiness is universal.

I think you're on the right course in dealing with her job as a model/actress. In this respect I'd say act similar to someone who works as a casting agent - as if you meet models every day and want to know what makes her stand out.

The best advice I can give you is that you should have the mindset that you can provide this woman with immense pleasure - both mentally and physically - and that she would be lucky to have that. Everything will just flow from that frame of mind.

Above all, have fun! You're on a date with a beautiful woman and life is an adventure!

Horatio__Caine · 2010-06-22T00:31:05+00:00

When you go on a date, it's yours to lose. She's primed to consider you a sexual/romantic partner. She wouldn't have decided to go on this date if there was 0% interest on her part.

SedditGuy · 2010-06-22T17:12:26+00:00

she is going out with you one on one ... she wants to fuck you. its your duty to give her what she wants. if you're comfortable she will be comfortable

umilmi81 · 2010-06-21T19:39:38+00:00

Dude, I'm in IMDB. I have friends that make movies and they put me in it. Its no big deal.

hotsexgary · 2010-06-21T22:13:40+00:00

Wear your best singlet. Seriously, ever seen a guy who looks like total shit walking around with a beautiful girl before? Be that guy

WhiteTiger10 · 2010-07-02T13:39:43+00:00

You need a crash self-esteem implant program, she's going to eat you for lunch and not in the way you would want. Relax, just get to know her, be honest. You got to first base: the date, congratulations. Take it one step at a time, be prepared to walk away, turn the tables on her.

krs28 · 2010-06-22T00:04:29+00:00

So what?

This may not be the most helpful advice ever, but Im reminded of the movie The Aviator. I'm not quoting verbatim, but Hughes basically said "What have you ever done, youre just an actress. Actresses are a dime a dozen in this town." to one of the women he was dating. He may have been crazy and filthy rich, but I think the attitude is spot on.

Since no one has told you what you should wear yet, I would wear a polo that fits right (I think black Lacoste polo shirts are amazing btw) and a nice pear of jeans.

TheUltimateBeta · 2010-06-22T20:28:12+00:00

The hot ones scare off VERY easily. They know that most guys are just wanting to get into their pants and they are sick of being approached for the purpose of sex.

Present yourself in a way that makes her almost subconsciously ignorant of the fact that you are a man. I'm not saying that you necessary want to act feminine but perhaps androgynous or asexual will help her drop her guard.

If she showed up for your date that's a huge plus. From there I hope that you played the role of a good supportive friend that would mix well with the rest of the girls. If she brings friends pay close attention to how they act, their body language, how they dress. You want to mimic this to blend in with the group. Do they like bright florescent colors? Consider adding some to your wardrobe.

Spend a few weeks blending in with the group going out to clubs etc. Be the mysterious man. Maybe they are wondering if you prefer men. Remind them you are a man by stepping up and buying their drinks. Then when the moment feels right, make an abrupt return to traditional male chivalry. Open doors, pay for dinner, show up with roses, gifts, tell her how you feel. It will be like the twist scene of the modern romantic comedy where the girl gets the guy she wants.

whoooooooooooooosh · 2010-06-21T18:34:42+00:00

Don't enter the friend zone... BE YOURSELF! Woman can smell it if you aren't.

5mintomidnight · 2010-06-21T23:21:49+00:00

Wow... you set yourself up for failure pretty hard there, bud.

Title	Got the date. Now what? Difficulty: she's a hottie
Author	slashkk
Upvotes	6
Comments	34
Date	June 21, 2010 6:18 PM UTC (16 years ago)
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