Gym?

lookatmeimskinny · 2010-08-19T02:45:34+00:00

She was looking at you as a signal to MAN UP. She wanted to talk to you but it's generally not socially acceptable for a woman to approach a man in the gym.

"Hi, I'm Bryan. How's your workout going? I love/hate exercising, but my favorite part is grabbing a smoothie after - I know the best place in town." Wait to see if she asks where, if she doesn't, move on, if she does - "I go to X, care to join me?"

Honestly, I'm sure a more experienced PUA could suggest a better route of conversation, but the necessities are there. You just need to open her and see if you can get an instadate. It should be low-key and low-pressure since you're in a gym.

HandBananas · 2010-08-19T01:06:49+00:00

Why would the gym be different than any other place? Sounds like an excuse to not talk to her. Just go up and talk to her, worst that could happen, nothing. Best, shower sex. Your choice.

alphabetagammadelta · 2010-08-19T03:27:53+00:00

You should have sprayed your waterbottle towards her from your crotch and shouted "I AM THE KING OF GONDOR!". Bitches love leaders.

on_the_dl · 2010-08-19T07:43:43+00:00

You got the look, you have to move in within 3 seconds. This rule overrides all other rules.

Vinaaron · 2010-08-19T02:31:15+00:00

Do you consider the Gym as a place to meet girls?

No

How would you have handled this situation?

Continue lifting

What recommendations do you have in mind?

You probably need to add more weights. Pump more! Focus on the weights, not the girls.

MothershipConnection · 2010-08-19T01:38:37+00:00

Gyms are a place where girls generally have their defenses up. This is opposed to out shopping, where defenses are generally down, or a bar, where defenses are up but they want to be approached. It mostly comes from a combination of three things:

They aren't presented at their best in sweaty gym clothes. Even if they look good, most don't think it's their best look.
A lot of them are blowing off steam from a long day.
Gyms generally lean more male, and no one likes the creep factor.

So I'd definitely go softer on the approach, especially if it's a cold approach. Definitely not in the middle of a hard workout, and I would lay off anything too forward that would make it seem like you were ogling their boobs bouncing while running the treadmill. If you're taking a class with her, great, you already have something in common, and if you catch someone while you're both taking a break, that's a good place to start.

But dude she was already flirting with you. Just go up to her next time you see her and go up to her while you two can take a break from things.

Sroek · 2010-08-19T12:43:45+00:00

You fucked up.

thefugue · 2010-08-19T02:17:25+00:00

I would never date a girl from my gym- it could get nasty and cost me the gym.

This, like almost all good advice on this planet, is a variation on the first rule: "Don't shit where you eat."

on_the_dl · 2010-08-19T03:02:40+00:00

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kittenmittons · 2010-08-19T02:50:23+00:00

every time I go the gym, I am hoping that a hot brunette dude will sweep me off my feet.

partchimp · 2010-08-19T04:31:40+00:00

ohhhh.. a GYM.

2010-08-19T09:30:56+00:00

So long as it's safe (eg, they're not halfway through a movement and could potentially damage something through a lack of concentration) then it's cool.

westsan · 2010-08-19T11:52:32+00:00

The gym is PRIME territory. Most people work out for better sex anyway don't they?

westsan · 2010-08-19T11:52:51+00:00

I scored my best pair of silicone titties at a gym!!

americanboy · 2010-08-21T23:39:09+00:00

I was reading everyone's replies and rmbarnes nailed it on the head for me. I know this is the complete opposite of what hes stating, but I would use his reply to setup something up or exchange info. I would use it because I'm there working out, improving my body. If theres something there, her response will be positive if not, back to lifting.

m4gnificent_b4st4rd · 2010-08-20T14:41:44+00:00

Personally I'd not chat up a girl at my gym. If it goes badly, then I'll still see her at the gym and it will be a distraction. If it goes well, then I'll still see her at the gym and it will be a distraction. Either way it messes up my training.

rmbarnes · 2010-08-19T11:54:04+00:00

"I don't generally come to the gym to chat, but I just had to come and say hi to you"

Title	Gym?
Author	bryan05
Upvotes	15
Comments	58
Date	August 19, 2010 1:00 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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