How can I develop a social life?

For-Teh-Lulz · 2016-06-15T21:53:18+00:00

Karaoke bars, walking through a crowded park and saying hi to people as they pass, join a group on meetup.com.

Generally, cultivating a curiosity about others and how they are living or what they are doing, is enough to start a conversation. From there, it's figuring out if you have a connection with someone, common interests, and then offer value. Be positive and non-judgemental. Giving good energy will get good energy.

Bluefish2288 · 2016-06-15T21:57:53+00:00

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__vi · 2016-06-15T22:00:22+00:00

Yeah man, socializing is all about taking initiative really.. Nothing more, nothing less.

You could easily meet a few people a day if you'd just say hi to everyone you passed. If you do the effort you should be doing, you'd be unable to keep up with the invites.

malarky44 · 2016-06-15T22:08:30+00:00

I would start with meetup.com join a group or two that have things you are interested in. This is an easy way to meet people and shouldn't feel as "forced" as taking a class. Also, since at one time you were in a relationship, I assume you once had friends. Try to reconnect with old friends/acquaintances that are in your area. Then meet their friends. The majority of my friendships have come from us having mutual friends. Finally, if ever presented an opportunity to go do something, go do it. You may not have the most interest in activities that you are invited to but you will be surrounding yourself with people you may enjoy the company of.

2016-06-15T22:40:41+00:00

Be active in the things you like and are interested in. If you do this, you will find people you have things in common with. Taking classes on these things are a great way to meet people and you learn something new.

HanSoloHere · 2016-06-16T03:16:02+00:00

You gotta get out of that comfort zone. That's really all there is to it IMO .

DonSirref · 2016-06-16T04:37:27+00:00

23 year old dude here, I've felt the same that you're feeling now. I rarely connect with the people in my classes.

What I do is follow my passions and it naturally connects me to the other people who do the same. I learn about their passions and try them out to meet more people while enjoying as many of the activities life has to offer as I can afford. Longboarding, mountain biking, motorcycle racing, surfing, drunken multiplayer video games, martial arts, skydiving, and so on. It's up to you to be social to develop a social life but there are people doing all sorts of things and all you need to do is do the same activity they are and you'll find a great group of friends before too long.

No matter what activity you want to do there will be someone, hopefully of the opposite sex, who will want to do it with you

dafuqey · 2016-06-16T07:07:19+00:00

meetup.com
find something you like to do and look for a group who do that. Meet people. Have some fun. Not fun? Look for other groups. Once you find couple people who you can connect with, you will be able to meet more people through them. Also, if you invited to an event, just go. Unless you are really close to them (or you are well known celeb), most people will not reinvite you if you don't show up couple times.

ryan0997 · 2016-06-16T11:19:55+00:00

Find a hobby man, something you enjoy doing that brings out your inner self, for me its snowboarding. Whenever im on the moutain everyone I come in contact with I treat like were good friends, having common intrests sets the foundation for most relationships.

cherry-sinker · 2016-06-16T02:28:20+00:00

I second the hobby/club route. I also enjoyed taking martial arts classes, meeting new classmates and being able to make conversation about it afterwards. Nothing brings people closer than a shared interest and experience, think team sport.

You don't have to go to college to find 'mature age' friends, you just need to be more resourceful. Also, take it from someone who went to grad school, it's not the same as undergraduate where everyone was immersed in a new phase of their lives.

I recommend developing current or new interests. Try out new stuff and generally aiming to be an awesome, all-round person. Being a more interesting person also helps you make friends when you are in new social situations.

ccchan · 2016-06-16T04:20:03+00:00

Do something you enjoy or you have always wanted to do that involves other people(preferably on things other sex would like to do as well). Don't be afraid to try new stuff, all it takes is a simple Google search on things to do around, sign up, and show up on time. When you show up be excited and put yourself into it, say hi to everyone and be nice. pretty soon you have your own life and that builds character and individualism which translates to confidence.

docshay · 2016-06-16T04:40:58+00:00

Be interested in other people.

stevehl42 · 2016-06-16T05:31:03+00:00

Play a musical instrument with others

ImJustAMan · 2016-06-16T14:54:50+00:00

What do you like? Pursue that. That will put you in contact with other people who like that. Strive to become a leader in that interest/ group. Be outgoing and personable. The social circle will follow!

Use meetup.com. Find Facebook Events. There's tons of resources out there for finding and pursuing interests.

yumyumspoppiadaddy · 2016-06-16T05:26:18+00:00

I'm 32, I worked for different companies, but always just me and one other dude. I have always gotten a kitchen job to meet people. You meet lots of new cool people and make money doing it. The downside is not having much time to chill, but if you make some good friends, you will end up kicking it.

2016-06-16T16:23:43+00:00

Do things that you are genuinely interested in and meet people at those places. It doesn't have to be classes, just do what you want to do.

JollyTom · 2016-06-16T13:36:04+00:00

By not being a bitch ass nigga

Title	How can I develop a social life?
Author	Bluefish2288
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Date	June 15, 2016 9:08 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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