That's a question I’ve been asked a lot, since I make original adult content with atractive women, but to answer that I have to break down the fundamentals of the ways the guys get laid.

When you boil it down, there are only six ways, and If anyone thinks I missed a category, drop it in the comments.

  1. Cold approach (pickup)

2., Social circle,

  1. Work,

  2. Status/celebrity,

  3. Online game,

and 6. Money.

That’s it. Every hookup story fits into one of these buckets.

Here is the summary of how each one really works, what are the bros and cons:

-Cold Approach
This is when you meet women you’ve never met before and spark something flirty. Think daytime (streets, cafés, malls) or nighttime (bars, clubs, events). The upside? it works every major city, you can develop yourself to the kind of man that women find attrative, this is not about some cheesy pick up lines, this is about the changes that you make to yourself in order to become an experienced/atractive man, and this is fastest way to build skill because you can approach and practice in high volume. The downside? You need a big city and the guts to face stage of failiuer and rejection over and over. It’s uncomfortable, but it’s where the growth happens and It's pretty amazing what can be done there.

-Social Circle
Probably the most common way people hook up, through friends, parties, or mutual connections. It works, but it requires constant maintenance, and you have to be a social person, it takes a lot of work to run a social circle, you have arrange meetings, dinner parties, after parties, outings to bars and clubs, board games nights, and keeping up with everyone, and texting everyone and invitions to specials which can make it also costy. Plus you don't get lucky that often with this metod, and you to schmooz and be indirect, and if you leave citiesit it collapses So. it’s fragile. You’re always depending on who’s in your circle, not your own skill.

-Work
Sometimes a possibility, but high-risk. Depends on your job, your workplace culture, and your ability to keep things clean. somed jobs gives the possibility to do that, i am not talking about using a position of power that's bullshit, i am talking about if you're a bar tender, or like my friend who works at a womens shoe stores, those guys are meeting a lot of women, so they learn without having to do much. however, Mixing work and dating can get messy and even dangerous for your career. Not a good strategy, and you're not going to change your whole career just to get laid.

-Status / Celebrity
If you’ve got it, attraction is effortless. Status draws women in without effort, but it’s rare. For 99% of men, it’s not a realistic option. Although it is the best stratigy if you can become famous.

-Online Game
Dating apps....here is the truth about online game,, it's not a game for you, in other words, the online game is designed to funnel money from the majority of male users, by pushing the top 10/20 percent of the best looking males to all women, so women stay in the app, and actualy use it, while keeping the 80percent entartained with some demo profiles and few real maches that never turns into anything, but good enough to kreep them upgrading and swiping...so if you're not a super male model, forget about online game and stop asking about how good your photo looks, or that peerfect message that will grab her attention, fairytale.

-Money
Yes, money can buy attention, sugar arrangements, bottle service, flexing lifestyle. But genuine attraction and intimacy? No. You can’t buy that. If that’s what you’re after, money is a dead end.

That’s the big picture, there is no magic pill, there are no secret back doors, no hidden hacks. Just these six avenues, and in my opinion Cold Appraoch is the way to go to learn the skill of dating and that was the way for me, I have been 15 years now in the field, and that's why i can do what do.

Maybe next time, if you like of course, I’ll dive deeper into cold approach, the mechanics, the techniques, and more importantly, the mindset that makes them work. Because without that right mindset and larger framework, techniques are useless. Let me know in the comments if i should do that.