How do increase confidence? Any ritual?

chop-life · 2024-10-31T11:47:23+00:00

I just constantly did things that scared the shit out of me like confronting people when they wrong you, talking to more strangers, and mastering a skill gives you insane confidence. Solo travel also forces you outside your comfort zone and increases your belief in yourself

aeturnus95 · 2024-10-31T12:12:38+00:00

I will give my own input here. To reduce anxiety atleast: control your thoughts! If you are someone like me with a hyperactive mind — this is an absolute must. I like to meditate. I have a mantra that I like to focus on and repeat inside of myself. It helps my mind to not move into negative or intrusive thought-patterns. Negative thoughts is the quickest way to become anxious, have self-doubt and low confidence.

Once anxiety sets in it is really fucking hard to stop. You need to have that ’internal peace’ before you go out and meet the girl.

Think as little as possible really. If you can control your thoughts, you will control your breathing, your body, and lastly your mind. Now you have already won half the battle. Atleast your mind and body will be calm, relaxed and collected.

Stop your internal, negative monologue.

PleaseDontBeTakenPlz · 2024-10-31T12:40:13+00:00

Physical: workout routine. start slow and small. go to the gym and do some exercises Mental: challenge yourself with learning new things career and personal wise Emotional: notice how you feel at all times, notice how you feel around others Social: constantly meet and greet new people Financial: get it together, learn where you are Spiritual: meditate or pray

Confidence is practiced every day. One step at a time. Do small things. Get 1% better every day and by next year you will have more confidence.

unbornbigfoot · 2024-10-31T12:55:54+00:00

Hey friend.

I’ve got three, that specifically help me and my anxieties, so I’ll explain why.

Meditate: Waking Up is expensive. ~150 for the year. It’s guided meditation, and really focuses on paying attention to the current environment.

It’s not a lightbulb, but I find I can take a single breath now, notice exactly what the moment is, and act.

Stoicism. I started reading The Enchiridion - have expanded a bit since. Takeaway for me, was to only focus on what you can control.

You’ll find passages that the only power someone else’s opinion over you holds, is the power you give it. I’m not some Greek Philosopher, and there’s plenty of nonsense in there too, but this aligned with the meditation for me in a measured way.

Gym. Two sets of benefits.

A natural confidence from looking/feeling better.

A huge dopamine and testosterone rush immediately after. Spent my Summer going to the gym right after work, and stopping at the beach on the way back. Your head and shoulders will be back, held proud naturally, and talking to women becomes easier.

Good luck.

HomelessMilkman · 2024-10-31T13:19:03+00:00

"You cannot solve a problem in the paradigm in which is was created."

It's actually very simple, all you have to do is have your awareness on literally anything else but your mind. The weight of your ass on the chair you're sat on, the cotton of your t-shirt resting on your skin, anything.

You don't solve the problem though engaging your mind differently, it's a 'light' meditation practice of not engaging with the mind (your ego) at all.

That's all 'confidence' is. You're either spending all of your effort engaging in 'internal problems' or all of your effort is in engaging externally. You're already 'maxed out', you can't do more than you're already doing, you have to stop spending your effort in your mind to have the energy to be social and charismatic out in the world. That's all this is.

People are fucked because they're trying to be even more, it's impossible. You have to 'become less to become more'; you have to free up bandwidth to become more. Once you realise that, it's not difficult. What's difficult is trying to juggle everything you're holding onto currently and trying to be charismatic, lead, think of things to say, etc. on top of it. You have to drop what you're carrying to hold more.

Kooky-Research-1217 · 2024-10-31T12:30:14+00:00

Think of a man who ie attractive and be that man.

Make a lost of thing you wanna importing in yourself and do that.

I am finally learning driving, dancing, swimming, boxing at 33 and it is increasing my confidence….

KoleSekor · 2024-10-31T11:52:50+00:00

First look at your past and everything you've overcome to be here. All the way back to being the 1 sperm out of the TRILLIONS of sperm your dad generated to reach your moms egg... Your infancy... Your childhood... School... Work... You've done good things.

Now look at your present. You know a lot of things. You know how to handle anything that comes your way with certainty.

What have you recently accomplished that you can be proud of? Maybe you're still working on it, but you can celebrate your efforts. You're pushing. Striving. Today you made a small step in the right direction.

Finally, look at your future. You hold the power to make millions of amazing possibilities come true. Your results are in your hands if you figure out how to maximize the resources you've been given.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-10-31T12:27:56+00:00

You focus on others as much as yourself.

You help as many humans as you possibly can and bring them positive gain, even if all you have to give are your words. You never know when an encouraging word or a kind gesture can give a person enough hope to save their life.

You find confidence through selflessness. I used to think beer and pot and porn and cursing and gambling and every vice in the book was giving me confidence because of feeling like I'm doing what I want, but it was all a false comfort zone, because real comfort doesn't come from any of that. Once I started taking action to bring gain to people other than myself, I didn't need habits as a crutch and was becoming more social automatically.

With the confidence it took to get out of the false comfort zone to do good things, damn straight I can use it to talk to any woman I feel like.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-10-31T13:18:09+00:00

self hypnosis.

You have to shift your mindset to a more positive one.
One quick way is to stand up tall and walk like an army is behind you. Your mindset follows from your body language.

marsfifth · 2024-10-31T12:09:07+00:00

Stop touching yourself. You know what I mean.

letsbehavingu · 2024-10-31T21:38:53+00:00

Your inner monologue is what kills your confidence. Meditation suggestions are good for learning you don’t have to listen if you don’t want to sometimes. Journals are good, look the next day and you will be surprised at the shit you had running through your head and realise it’s not as important or useful as it seemed at the time

ratfooshi · 2024-10-31T12:36:08+00:00

Yes!

The mind & body are insanely more connected than we think.

Take up more space with your body. It signals to your brain openness and comfort. I like to do a light stretch before my nightly shenanigans.

JustNefariousness625 · 2024-10-31T14:56:23+00:00

Affirmations to yourself in the mirror fake it till you make it homie

UnkemptGoose339 · 2024-10-31T15:14:37+00:00

Honestly, what works for me is the Sardaukar ritual that you see in the Dune movie on Salusa Secundus.

But FR:

-As much sleep as you can get in this sleep deprived reality

-Gym/physical activity

-Sunlight

-Eating red meat/fruits/veggies/fish

-Socializing as much as your schedule allows(cold approach and social circles)

Sandvicheater · 2024-10-31T15:36:58+00:00

People have already discussed psychological way to overcome shyness and gain confidence.

AS for the physiological there's always the liquid courage option with alcohol and there's pharmaceutical drugs or natural plant based pills that "suppresses" your emotion to the point you could be told your mother died and you have no reaction.

Drifted_Eli · 2024-10-31T15:47:08+00:00

Master your inner beast, beat your inner bitch

Independent-Lab774 · 2024-10-31T20:22:04+00:00

Make promises to yourself and keep them. Over time you'll build a deep reservoir of self trust.

MindlessRobots · 2024-10-31T23:00:16+00:00

Everyone listen up… this whole “confidence” thing is bologna! Its been universally accepted that women are attracted to “confidence”. Ok… but what is that? Women won’t admit it but it is specifically ONLY SEXUAL CONFIDENCE. I’ll prove it… A single man that lives on his own, is self sufficient, owns a car, keeps his place up, and handles his obligations. Ok… is he confident yet? Well… he then goes about asking a girl out. Confidence Now? Ladies? He then proceeds to handle the date well, carries conversation pays for the date and carries himself with respect. Now… this is where some women will say “well he just didn’t have confidence” so… the ONLY possible way he was not confident was he didn’t try to sleep with you, make a move, or be physically intimate with you. What women mean by “confidence” is making moves intimately!!! THATS ALL IT CAN POSSIBLY BE!

Kind-Maximum-9073 · 2024-11-01T07:48:05+00:00

Just do what you say you will do

Livid_Economist7424 · 2024-11-01T13:13:28+00:00

What helped me allot is actually going to the gym and working on my body. When you are proud of your body you almost automatically feel more confident.

Cheap_Salamander2506 · 2024-11-01T15:01:57+00:00

When you say you’ll do something, do it

MaleficentFig7578 · 2024-10-31T14:41:31+00:00

get high, ask women if you're hot, and have them say yes

Title	How do increase confidence? Any ritual?
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