How do you fake confidence?

genjuro_zero · 2016-01-27T17:31:39+00:00

Nihilism. Nothing matters - success or failure, so do what you feel like doing and don't fear the outcome.

AttractandSeduce · 2016-01-27T18:25:53+00:00

Bluelord is right, you can't fake confidence. At least not in the long run.

You might be able to fake it temporarily but only temporarily.

What can come from real confidence is a more fulfilled you and you will naturally attract the people around you, gain peoples trust and come across as a leader. There are more benefits of having real confidence but you get my point.

The simple way to gain confidence is to master your inner beliefs.

The longer and more effective way to gain long lasting confidence is down below:

You will gain real confidence by getting to know who you really are as a person. Important aspects to know about yourself are your strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, passions, dreams, goals in life, who you want to become, what your personality is like and how you want to improve it each day. There are more but you get my point.

After you "discover" who you are as a person, you will create a purpose in life for yourself and strive everyday to get closer and closer towards reaching the goals that you are passionate about. To keep your confidence on point everyday, strive to always work and invest on yourself.

Faking confidence is good when you want to get into "state" during a moment where you feel that you are getting too into your head or during early stages of building long term confidence. In short, faking confidence is more like a crutch only.

MonkeyMannnn · 2016-01-27T20:14:55+00:00

You don't. Your body will give away your insecurity to anyone that doesn't have Aspergers. Work on yourself and do what you can to make yourself better than you were yesterday each and every day. Read some of the books that are recommended on here (Models by Mark Manson, How to Win Friends and Influence People, etc), start working out if you don't already, find hobbies you're passionate about, work on your career or school, up your fashion game, etc

It took me years to get where I'm at, but I attract virtually every woman I interact with in person these days. I've done my reading and studying game, I work out extremely hard every single week to make my body as appealing as it can be and also just because I enjoy being incredibly fit, I've got hobbies I'm incredibly passionate about (guitar, reading, exercise again, and other things), I spent a lot of time working on how I dress and how I present myself to the world, I hold a full time job that I enjoy immensely and pays well enough that I can do what I want to, and just generally improving myself any way I can. All these things have come together to create a deep seeded confidence in myself such that nothing can shake it anymore. It doesn't matter if that one girl isn't into me, or I go on a date and it doesn't go anywhere...I'm a fucking badass and any woman should be so lucky as to have my attention for however long I'm willing to give it.

Tl;dr Read it all. There's no shortcuts here. Improve yourself and confidence will come naturally. So will women.

Bluelord · 2016-01-27T17:32:44+00:00

You can't fake confidence. People will see right through you. You need to be confident.

To be confident the first thing you have to realize is don't fear rejection. Second, don't worry about what other people say. Say what's on your mind, and move on. Persona/vibe is all it takes for a girl to realize if she wants to talk to you again.

tramplemestilsken · 2016-01-27T21:01:35+00:00

Asking yourself, "What do i want to do?" and then doing it. Not "What do I want to try to get someone else to do or feel about me." You can't control that, you can only control what you do. Go show desire, go show interest. That's all you can do. If you do that, you did your part. Not all will be receptive.

drummmmergeorge · 2016-01-28T14:04:03+00:00

Don't listen to those who say you cannot fake it. this is why I don't comment ofyen, a lot of ignorant people not with saving them all. I've been faking it for 4 years now. the mask has become my new face. You lie to yourself everyday and soon you will believe it.

SteveHackershaw · 2016-01-27T17:34:45+00:00

Visualize in your head and pretend you are someone more confident or what it would feel like if you were totally confident in that area. Basically create a new version of yourself that is highly confident and live into that vision. Act how you think he would act, say what he would say, etc. fake it till you make it basically. It's kinda like being a little kid again in a weird way.. Remember how little kids pretend all the time, I pretended I was Spider-Man and I'd climb the tree in my backyard, I'd pretend I was a cowboy shooting at my neighbor who was a bad guy, etc. it's just like that.. Pretend you are someone that's highly confident

shaggylookalike · 2016-01-27T21:23:52+00:00

Own your flaws. Know yourself 100%. Don't fake your confidence, you just be you.

Cynical_Doggie · 2016-01-28T00:01:06+00:00

You earn it through getting rid of things that make you lose confidence.

That's the only way, since you can't forget your insecurities until they are truly gone.

ruffyamaharyder · 2016-01-28T00:48:52+00:00

So many saying it's not possible. It IS possible. Many entertainers do this. Do you know Slim Shady? How about Eminem? These are alter egos -- they are fake. Beyoncé does it too... "Sasha Fierce" when she is on stage.
You can read articles about why they do it but TL;DR: it's a confidence booster.
Come up with an alter ego and play the part until you can switch it on at will. Once you do this it will become your norm and not a big deal to talk to women. You can then stick with it or introduce the new you like Marshall Mathers eventually did.

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199flags · 2016-01-28T05:20:44+00:00

learn how to act, a powerful skill that makes life a lot better

revente · 2016-01-28T11:21:37+00:00

Body language. Keep open posture, hold eye contact, breathe slowly.

sed9499 · 2016-01-28T23:30:04+00:00

Do the actions that show confidence - initiate conversations, make eye contact, etc. Eventually these become routine instead of new/unusual - this is called "faking it til you make it."

sdonaghy · 2016-01-27T18:08:32+00:00

You know how to act sad or happy. Same thing. Imagine someone you know who is very confident and act like them. Fake it till you make it. Eventually by acting confident you will become confident. If that doesn't help it eventually boils down to being overly comfortable in your own skin.

DaygameCoach · 2016-01-27T19:34:00+00:00

The same way you fake anything...act like people who have it. So, confident body language, approach, and behavior. Don't qualify yourself to others. And, be clear in your intent. As you get success...your actual confidence will grow, so you will fake less until not at all.

CrushHazard · 2016-01-27T20:09:18+00:00

You can't. Fake confidence is worse than an authentic lack of confidence. Everyone (especially women) will know that you are faking it.

WhosCountin · 2016-01-27T20:58:38+00:00

If you're a decent actor you can definitely fake confidence, just not around people who already know you. Pretend you're playing a character - that's what I did. Pretend you're Brad Pitt in fight club, pretend you have a 15 inch cock, pretend you own the bar you're in and every building on the block, pretend you are whatever ridiculous thing that would make you confident no matter what. Force yourself to escalate, talk to people, act in a proactive way. You might need to learn the kino escalation ladder, learn how to stand and walk (got this from Models), and other logistics, but IMO the mental part can be addressed by playing a character. Don't talk bullshit and lie about those fake confidence boosting delusions, but act like you would if they were true. Don't lie. That will be obvious. But you can totally fake confidence and it will work if done right. It can work for weeks/months with a fuckbuddy.

It won't work for a real relationship. It won't work with people who know you. And faking it doesn't even necessarily lead to "making it" - eg. Your time pretending to be a confident person probably won't actually help your confidence that much when you're being yourself. Honestly it's kind of shitty and empty, but I do disagree with the people who say you can't fake it. Just don't be cocky, people see through that. Don't overcompensate or be a douche.

Delmight · 2016-01-27T22:01:00+00:00

Cocaine

os-Kenna · 2016-01-27T21:57:14+00:00

I heard a term, amor fati, Latin for Love your fate. Basically meaning the good, the bad, the pain, suffering, joy, happiness; all of which equates to your final character. No ones going to pull you out of your comfort zone except yourself, only way of doing so being practice. I believe if you learn to fake confidence in a way that you're purposely coming out of your comfort zone to build your fate, it will evolve into real, pure confidence and a strong desire for a life of many events and emotions. Which really, if you are working to benefit yourself you will find yourself surrounded with people who not only enjoy your positive vibe towards life, but also strive to benefit themselves.

Title	How do you fake confidence?
Author	si732
Upvotes	17
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Date	January 27, 2016 5:05 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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